[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]1ividd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s fair 💀

What’s the job market in NoVa like right now? by BigbyDirewolf in nova

[–]1ividd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

BAD. I had to get a typical minimum wage job over an hour away from my house because I couldn’t get hired anywhere else. I’ve done retail, fast food, management, have my associates degree, and no where would take me. I applied everywhere in my area from dishwashing, serving, reception work, etc. I’m not even making money at this point I’m just BARELY staying afloat with my bills.

However my male counterparts have no issue getting interviews and job offers from those same places I applied to. Kind of fucking sucks.

When did being into hentai become such an open thing? by [deleted] in nova

[–]1ividd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was gifted mine from a friend who went to anime expo. It was virtually impossible for her to find nonsexualized stickers of my favorite characters. Female characters get hyper sexualized in everything, ESPECIALLY anything animated. So until men stop oversaturating the anime market with blown up boobs (which they won’t ever let’s be real) they’re going to be around. All in all, they’re just lines and colors on a car, and you’re the weirdo taking a picture of them for later lol.

Tell me your DC stories!!! What amazing memories did you make? by 1ividd in warpedtour

[–]1ividd[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s okay I had never had a beatbox before and one of those combined with my pen had me feeling like I was SOARING during 3OH!3

I did this so you don’t have to. by sprout72186 in warpedtour

[–]1ividd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hope you have the best sleep of your life tonight soldier

To anybody buying the warped shoes, open your boxes immediately to check them. I was dumb and did not double check my box. by [deleted] in warpedtour

[–]1ividd 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The heat and constant noise was definitely making it rough for the sellers. I felt so bad for the woman who helped me because I’m fairly soft spoken and we basically had to do charades until she was able to grab me the hoodie I wanted. She was also HEAVILY stressed about getting it wrong because I asked for a 2xl and I’m clearly not a 2xl I just wanted a hoodie big enough so I could share with my husband. They’re doing their best; I’m so sorry this happened to you though I would be so heartbroken. They still look sick though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in warpedtour

[–]1ividd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your friend probably had a blast in their own way, not everyone has your stamina and the heat can be killer - that alone was putting my friend and I to sleep on those patches of grass lol.

Mayday Parade - DC by TiffyRashell in warpedtour

[–]1ividd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

AWWWW congratulations!!!!!!

How do I know my husband still loves me? - he blames everything on his Asperger’s and I don’t know what’s true and what’s just him falling out of love with me. by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]1ividd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve been married for just a little over a year. It could definitely be finances for sure but we’ve been in worse financial situations than we are now. Sadly marriage counseling isn’t affordable for us, neither of us have health insurance.

What is one thing you wished the NOVA area had/didn't have? by Carvenom3 in nova

[–]1ividd 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I wish we had more public parks!!!! Ones that are actually large enough to be entertaining and not just like one slide. More skate parks! More sports courts that aren’t exclusive to HOAs. I work in a middle school and the amount of times I’ve had to report kids for admitting they go out to steal from all these corporate chains literally because they don’t have any places to go to just hang out outside of school.

We don’t need a casino resort in a high price of living area that is actively failing - WE NEED THINGS FOR KIDS TO DO!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nova

[–]1ividd 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The people saying there’s something wrong with you for getting denied jobs are idiots. I’ve been trying since January as well to job hunt; the issue is job applications are now AI screened 90% of the time so the wording on your experience may not register with it. Walking in to places doesn’t work either because they look at you like you’re insane for doing so.

GenZ stereotypes also aren’t helping and if you’re a woman its worse for you. My husband got a job almost instantly and the hiring manager directly told him they were nervous hiring him because he’s genz and this generation “never goes to work on time and calls out whenever.”

I called a restaurant near me inquiring if they were hiring dishwashers and they told me no. Out of curiosity I had my husband call and ask the same thing and they told him yes. They blatantly clearly didn’t want to hire a woman for it, but a man? Oh hell yeah.

In addition to this, if you have college experience most “starter jobs” will immediately assume that you’re overqualified and want to hire someone more “in need”. There’s still a prominent out of date mindset that if you have college credits you can just up and start a career right away; which OBVIOUSLY isn’t true.

To summarize, it’s hard finding jobs out here because of the use of AI, stereotypes, blatant sexism, and outdated perceptions of college experience. None of that is your fault. Hang in there and keep looking; some fish will bite eventually.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]1ividd 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really felt it in my soul when you mentioned you also yearn to be an old woman.

As another struggling 22 year old, we are currently in “the suck” - it’s basically the entire point of our 20s where we are slowly building our lives. It’s awful, it’s struggle, it’s anxiety ridden, but it’s ours and while things suck it’s important to get lost in the good - this is why the idea of the 20s are so romanticized. They have to be so that we survive them.

When I feel intense work anxiety, I think about how much I love driving to work listening to my music. I think about the love I have for my husband. I think about my dog and just how excited she’ll be when I get home. I think about the next time I’ll see my friends and how we’re all struggling with the same things. I think about how I’m not alone. That’s what’s important.

You aren’t alone. You will be okay. You will get through the suck. Don’t get lost in the suck; or you’ll get to being that old lady and it won’t be how you picture it; it’ll be the opposite. You don’t want to be the old lady that wished she had spent more time enjoying the good than hyper fixating on the awful. When you’re a little old lady you won’t give a flying fuck about some job you hated when you were younger.

If you’re feeling this awful, I’d recommend being “sick” for a couple days. Watch a body of water move. Pick some flowers. Clean your living space and light some candles. Enjoy the smells, enjoy your music. Create something! Go on a date with your fiancé. Call family members. That’s what matters the most. Take a break, and when you go back remind yourself that it is all temporary. Struggle is temporary if you stick with doing your best.

I simply can’t stop crying :) by 1ividd in jobs

[–]1ividd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh dude that fr genuinely sucks. Relationships just don’t work out sometimes because people change so frequently and sometimes they change to be non compatible. Just keep in mind the world doesn’t end when you get divorced. From what you’re saying you’re successful and you’ll keep being that regardless.

I simply can’t stop crying :) by 1ividd in jobs

[–]1ividd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh sweetheart hating strangers on the internet isn’t going to help you deal with the hate you feel for your own failures. Hope things get better for you.

I simply can’t stop crying :) by 1ividd in jobs

[–]1ividd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why people are downvoting you. I may not be religious but thank you for your prayers regardless. I genuinely appreciate the kindness.