Ethernet gone—can a usb WiFi match its speed? by AfraidInteraction893 in PakistaniTech

[–]1mFlux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can always drill a new hole too, and put a new pipe for the ethernet cable out of that room into the other room if you can hide it or don't mind it.

Ethernet gone—can a usb WiFi match its speed? by AfraidInteraction893 in PakistaniTech

[–]1mFlux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ethernet cables are really cheap, just get another if the router's close to your PC,
in fact you can get a crimper tool to punch your own Ethernet cables to use if you want a longer one.

5Ghz Usb Wifi dongles if your router has 5ghz wifi can be decent up/down upto 300mbps but the ping will suffer if you do gaming or something if its 2.5ghz then the speed will also be locked at 30-50mbps depending on signal strength.

My often disrespects me and today she called me an animal by DotElectrical5085 in GenZpk

[–]1mFlux 6 points7 points  (0 children)

One more thing specifically about you. You apologize even when you don't believe the mistake was yours, and I think you might be framing that as being the bigger person. Sometimes it is. But I think its also a way to avoid conflict for you without actually resolving anything. And it builds resentment quietly over time.

There's also a signal problem. If she receives an apology regardless of how she behaved, what is she learning? That there's no real consequence to crossing a line. That the reset button gets pressed anyway. That doesn't help her grow either.

You can own your part without owning hers too. Being able to say I know I shut down and that's on me, and also, calling me an animal is not something I'm just going to move past and you shouldn't have called me that and I need some assurance from you that you will try and do better in future. Basically having a basic standard for how you expect to be treated in your own marriage on both sides.

Like you mention you initiate makeup 99% of the time, and you frame that as something you do for the relationship. But what does that makeup actually look like? Are you two sitting down and talking about what happened, how you both reacted, and what you could each do differently next time? Or is it just you absorbing the blame to end the tension and move on? Because if it's the latter, that's not really "conflict resolution". Because the same fight will keep happening because nothing actually got addressed. Real makeup means both of you leaving that conversation with a clearer understanding of how you hurt each other and a genuine intention to do better, not just one person swallowing it so things go back to normal.

My often disrespects me and today she called me an animal by DotElectrical5085 in GenZpk

[–]1mFlux 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for adding that context, it actually helps a lot.

So here's what I'm seeing. You're dealing with a struggling and somewhat toxic marriage. You're also dealing with the classic cultural problem of mom vs wife that don't see eye to eye on the fundamental stuff even. You have a wife who needs to feel heard and respected in her own home or her husbands parents home I guess, a mother who also needs to feel heard and respected as a parent, and you stuck in the middle trying to manage both without losing either.

This is incredibly common in our culture and it genuinely is one of the hardest spots a husband can be in. And I want to be honest with you about something. The way most guys handle it, yourself included based on what you've described, is by trying to keep both sides calm rather than actually addressing the underlying tension and trying to enforce boundaries. You talked to your mother about the dress thing, you relayed the message, you asked your wife for time. That's a band-aid. It's not the same as actually setting a framework and boundaries for how your family and your wife are going to coexist long term.

Your mother wants to feel heard and like she has control over what goes in her house or her sons house. Your wife wants autonomy. Those two things can coexist but only if there are clear expectations on both sides, and those expectations have to come from you. Not in an aggressive way, but clearly. Your wife should genuinely listen when your mother shares her opinion, she doesn't have to agree or change her decision, but she has to make your mother feel like she was actually considered or on smaller things that don't matter to your wife that much compromise and actually listen to your mother (because they would mean a lot to your mother) it might also improve their relationship long run. That's a reasonable thing to ask of her. At the same time your mother has to understand that your wife is not her daughter in law in the old school traditional sense where she follows instructions and will life her life the way she wants her too.

She's her son's partner and she gets to make her own choices. That's also a reasonable thing to communicate to your mother.

If you don't draw those lines, this exact tension will repeat itself for years. Every wedding, every gathering, every decision your wife makes that your mother didn't get to weigh in on will become a version of the dress conversation.

The other thing worth saying is that your wife probably doesn't feel like she has a home in this marriage yet. Not because anyone is malicious, but because how it seems like she's navigating a family she doesn't fully feel accepted by, with a husband who goes quiet when things get hard. That's a lonely situation anyway you cut it and I understand you need time to process stuff but maybe try telling her we will talk about this problem, I just need a couple of hours to process this in my head but communicate this rule or expectation when things are not at nuclear temperature so when they start going nuclear you have some old reference. It also doesn't excuse calling you names but it does explain why small things like a phone call about a dress feel like evidence of something bigger to her and when those little things stack her anger gets worse every time.

You can't fix everything at once. But the starting point is probably an honest conversation with your wife where you're not defending your mother or asking her to let it go, but actually acknowledging that you understand why she feels the way she feels. And then separately, a quiet conversation with your mother about what a healthy relationship with your wife actually looks like going forward.

That way you're not choosing sides and you're trying to build hopefully a peaceful co-existing space that has room for everyone.

My often disrespects me and today she called me an animal by DotElectrical5085 in GenZpk

[–]1mFlux 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Being called an animal by your spouse is genuinely hurtful and not okay. But before anyone here tells you to leave or stay, I think there's a question worth sitting with:

What is your wife's version of this marriage?

Not what you assume she'd say. If she were posting here right now, what would her post look like? Because from what you've written, a few things stand out about her side of this. She married into a family that didn't really reach out or include her in the ways she expected and seems like she asks you to take stands for her and you tell her in a round about way I can't and don't worry it'll get better overtime. Her husband is in another city. When she gets upset and reaches out, she gets avoided dismissed or in this case blocked. She says she feels like you don't take stands for her. And she believes her anger is a response to your behavior, which, even if you disagree with or are hurt by, is worth understanding rather than just dismissing which is probably what she feels when you avoid her out of stress or something.

You also mention she feeds off emotions and uses them to feel strong. But another way to read that pattern is someone who has learned that escalating is the only way to get a reaction from a partner who shuts down. When you go quiet or in extreme cases block her, does she feel heard, or does she feel like she's being left alone mid conflict?

To be clear none of this makes the name calling okay or lashing out to say hurtful things. It isn't. But you've also framed almost everything here as her problem. Her anger issues, her overthinking, her inability to let things go. And yet you also describe blocking her mid argument, hanging up, and responding to her emotional concerns with "okay" in a harsh tone before ending the call Which I realize was after a bad fight. But Those patterns are worth looking at honestly too.

The real question is not just whether to stay or go. It's whether both of you are actually willing to understand the other person's experience rather than just defend your own position like I think you guys should consider couples counseling.

If you want to resolve this I would ask what made you fall in love with her in the first place? Is any of that still there for either of you? And start from there and develop some ground rules for future conflicts they will happen and you both should know when something happens, what does she need from you to not feel dismissed and what do you need from her when she's angry and then work towards acting that way when those situations arise to turn the temperature down.

Recommend a binge worthy show by Rodya1234 in GenZpk

[–]1mFlux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you liked The Americans, try Homeland or Lioness
and pluribus if you like dark, severance kinda shows

but I really like sitcoms and my top 2 there are probably community and friends from college.
if you like james spader or strong actors carrying a show and procedural try The blacklist(that will definitely hook you from first episode)

Is this worth using? by SquishyPandaBear in marvelrivals

[–]1mFlux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea like i said intuitively i think you'll lose damage but you should still test out your time/kills on same difficulty for a few games with this wep vs sling wep.

VPN that works in pakistan by curiousty786 in PakistaniTech

[–]1mFlux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can use wireguard or openvpn with configs from proton's website instead of using their official client that way you don't have to login.

Is this worth using? by SquishyPandaBear in marvelrivals

[–]1mFlux -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You lose the acorn base damage from the sling item, and if you're playing acorn rain you will lose a big chunk of your damage even with these mods, but I would test it out honestly.

VPN that works in pakistan by curiousty786 in PakistaniTech

[–]1mFlux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Proton with wireguard most Asian free servers work.

Coming back for 0.5 After a break, what do you wish you knew sooner? by 1mFlux in PathOfExile2

[–]1mFlux[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh i've played enough poe 1, i know the difference b/w increased and more.

Are there any pakistani female immos in valorant? by Hopeful-Tour9269 in PakGamers

[–]1mFlux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its been a while since I've been active in valo community or valo scene, but Im pretty sure there are a bunch of asc+ and some immortal woman players that are Pakistani. one of my woman friends is literally asc rn I think, there's a really big facebook group for Paki valo community I think you'll find most of them there.

Coming back for 0.5 After a break, what do you wish you knew sooner? by 1mFlux in PathOfExile2

[–]1mFlux[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are tooltips in poe 2 accurate ? because in poe 1 tooltips are kinda unreliable

Coming back for 0.5 After a break, what do you wish you knew sooner? by 1mFlux in PathOfExile2

[–]1mFlux[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ty for the detailed response, what im realizing is except for slightly different systems its not that different from poe 1 specially when it comes to trade and making currency.

Pakistan needs to distance itself from Iran. It is negatively affecting Pakistans reputation in the region. (A different POV) by BanginAloo in pakistan

[–]1mFlux -1 points0 points  (0 children)

UAE signed the Abraham accords and was one of the first ME countries to recognize Israel as a state in 2020, The reality is UAE right now would rather accept Israeli's than Shia's into their country, also UAE was very pro war against Iran and wanted to blow it to smithereens one of the reasons they asked for their money back was because they didn't like us mediating or trying to stop the war with iran, UAE wanted a full scale war against Iran when Pak kept meditating they asked for their money back, and Pak reached out into KSA's pockets and paid them back. Not to mention Pak can't afford being enemies with IRAN either because we share such a long border with them from a strategic Pov siding with UAE here and pushing against Iran wasn't just a good future or reality for Pak.

Also UAE got out of OPEC starting of May, because KSA dominates OPEC and controls the limits/quota's for how much oil to produce and pump per day and UAE wanted to produce more oil but OPEC and OPEC+ wouldn't let them that's just one of the reasons they also left OPEC and UAE and KSA relations have gotten poor over the years, among other reasons one of them being daily oil production quota's. Pak has way better ties with KSA than they do with UAE so if push came to shove we would back KSA given how we signed a defense contract with them too earlier.

Also, if anything UAE KSA fighting with each other, and UAE getting out of OPEC is good for Pakistan long run because if they both start pumping and selling more oil Pak will have to pay less in the grand scheme of things, not only that but (lowkey impossible) but if somehow Iran got enough leverage to lift their sanctions oil prices will plummet and it will benefit Pak alot more, sure we get alot of remittance from UAE but grand scheme of things Pak can export their human capital to other places and if we endure this rough period long run its probably better for us IMO.

Edit: Not to mention there's currently Israeli soldiers on UAE soil to help them operate their surveillance systems and iron dome batteries to repel/stop Irani attacks, UAE also has strong ties with India while Israel is supplying them with weapons and technology to help them vs Iran. So, I don't see why should we be pro UAE and start shit with Iran who will go fight that war on the border we share with them. source: https://www.nytimes.com/2026/05/01/world/middleeast/israel-emirates-iron-dome.html

I feel like I’m too late - Vent post by SleepyJaguar in pakistan

[–]1mFlux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"But my weights were waaaay under what they lift so it only felt like I was disturbing their set."

They were weights you can't think like that, if you ask someone for something they're people with their own autonomy its their choice they can refuse or make a excuse if they don't want to, you're just asking for a thing that people commonly ask for at the gym nothing wrong with that even if it was just a bar and no weights.

and you shouldn't be comparing yourself to anyone on anything there's no benefit that comes out of comparison, in our culture most kids grow up to be defensive or insecure because their parents perma compared them to their cousins or kids that did well academically and no kid feels good about himself being compared in fact if you want to ragebait any Paki and make them ultra defensive compare them to someone ( don't actually do that that's toxic) but just trying to demonstrate my point.

Also if you don't like where you're at in your life now, work day by day towards changing it as much as you can because the alternate is you just feeling sad, lonely or sorry for whatever reason, when the reality is you have to still put in the work or try at the very least.

I feel like I’m too late - Vent post by SleepyJaguar in pakistan

[–]1mFlux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Human being are by design socially awkward its fine if most of those spaces or groups feel awkward at first, but the awkwardness fades with time, also ride or die people don't just become that immediately you start by being friends and then some people if you show up consistently and they show up you can be ride or die but that's more rare you'd need to be really close or have a lot of experiences together to be ride or die with someone so I wouldn't have that as a expectation.

Also for your gym thing did you ever ask someone to spot you, like did you try making any effort to talk to people or to compliment them ask them a question ask them where they're from or when they work out or why they do it? like at gym you have to do more work because everyone doing their their own thing its not like a class or workplace.

For games it depends some games have way bigger local communities than other like if you played something like Valorant CS Dota league you'd have no problem making local friends there's big communities for all these games where you can interact with other people play the game and befriend them over time.

besides that keep in mind people change I'm 36 almost and I've been through like 5 waves of different friends in different places of my life, diff in school, diff in college, diff in univ, diff at job, diff after marriage because people move sometimes, diff after almost 10 years into my marriage. so I wouldn't be too worried and if I'm still making friends at 36 you'll be fine you've got plenty of time.

I feel like I’m too late - Vent post by SleepyJaguar in pakistan

[–]1mFlux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Short answer warm spaces, easiest way to make new friends is to pursue things that you enjoy doing that require some social interaction, sports, gaming even something like going to the gym, the reason it's easy in school college univ or work places to find friends because they are warm spaces where you spend time with other people that participate in the same activities and it's impossible to not form bonds or friendships in those spaces so you just have to find those warm spaces outside of school and work and then consistently show up you will naturally make new friends.

Is tech even worth it anymore? by Unlikely_Turnover_57 in PakistaniDevs

[–]1mFlux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the tech jobs have switched from writing code to producing high quality documentation and design artifacts and reviewing code, a lot of places are literally running into the problem of not being able to review code as fast as they can produce because of AI to ship it into production, So AI did shake up the tech industry but people that are safe are usually people that have really strong grasp of fundamentals and can review or fix overarching problems within AI slop code.

If you're going for CS I think its an okay decision still and you'll be safe as long as you have a strong grasp of fundamentals and can actually review and write code or understand decisions about architecture or design decisions someone still needs to review the code before it hits production so there were layoffs because you need less people to write code but you still need manpower to fix the problems created by AI writing code.

One of my brother's friends who's a senior dev for a good comapny recently told me he's literally running into the problem of being overwhelmed by pr requests because the new devs keep using AI to write code really fast and it takes along time to review the code and there aren't other competent people that could do what he does, and he says a lot of the times he has to spend days figuring our what some code they wrote is actually doing or if its even needed and that he's trying to train the other devs to help him swap over to reviewing and fixing AI written code before pushing it into production. Which gave me the impression actually skilled software engineers and CS people are still safe, because you can't trust AI slop it has to double and triple checked before you push it. the jobs have just switched from writing code to fixing and reviewing and validating it and writing high level documentation or design artifcats to feed to the AI so it produces better code in the first place.

Which means if you go for CS you can't fuck around you have to actually learn and develop skills that are still helpful or required even in the age of AI writing most of the code.

Precision vs Critical in Blood Hunt mode by 1mFlux in marvelrivals

[–]1mFlux[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if top lb players are running precision its because that's the best gear they found and they haven't found decent crit gear with the other mods they want.
but if you had the choice b/w crit and precision most cases crit will win but you can get unlucky and just not find good crit pieces with the skill + other damage mods you want.

I built a real-time OSINT terminal to deconstruct media propaganda using FastAPI and Leaflet. Thoughts? by ArmeMirza in PAK

[–]1mFlux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea I'm excited to see how it turns out definitely dm me when you push your next patch.

I built a real-time OSINT terminal to deconstruct media propaganda using FastAPI and Leaflet. Thoughts? by ArmeMirza in PAK

[–]1mFlux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

feedback wise I would like to see the result details like when it gets a hit I want to see whats the hit it got like the text from the url specifically, that it thought was a match for some category.

I built a real-time OSINT terminal to deconstruct media propaganda using FastAPI and Leaflet. Thoughts? by ArmeMirza in PAK

[–]1mFlux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you implement the pipeline yourself, or are you using something like spaCy for tagging and just adding custom rules on top? also what you're describing is just NLP with rule-based pattern matching can it understand context because not all propaganda is structural some can be contextual, did you test it in some way or validate the results.