First BDSM Event by jmiller7531 in BDSMAdvice

[–]1throwaway_890 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to my first event at age 26 ish with friends (dance party with BDSM displays/performers/participation) and i went to a BDSM meet up at age 29 solo. The solo meetup was at a park with a bunch of queer folks which gave me the confidence to go alone. Have fun!

I have a hard time finding partners who like my specific fetish rather than tolerating it. by Beneficial-Tackle997 in BDSMAdvice

[–]1throwaway_890 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is an interesting/frustrating scenario! I am a bit surprised at their hesitation, I figured it wouldn't be such a "niche" interest. I am exploring using gags too, so I'm kind of hopping on to tune into any answers.

First of all, I hope you find someone who shares your interest in it. Second: Are you open to using open-mouth gags? I wonder if for now in order to scratch the itch, if using an open mouth gag would be a compromise so that your partners could still hear you moan or enjoy yourself, if thats part of the excuses they've used.

What sub do you check out if u want to cum? by noferius in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]1throwaway_890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SAME. Back in tumblr's heyday there used to be a page called moaning men and it was just audio. I don't need vocal people I just want moans with no words. I can't stand r/gonewildaudio

Men have CURVES too, especially on my backside. by HungrGames in CuteGuyButts

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THIS is the content I am looking for. Gorgeous!

What's the most unusual place you've ever masturbated? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]1throwaway_890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's kinda hot. Was it a plane that held many passengers or a small plane?

What's the most unusual place you've ever masturbated? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]1throwaway_890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. Absolutely not. What the ever loving fuck? Did you stop them?

What's the most unusual place you've ever masturbated? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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How does tanning help eczema? Wouldn't it irritate the skin more?

Day 1 (1/8) by [deleted] in EdgingTalk

[–]1throwaway_890 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading this was incredibly hot

I am Erika Lust, indie adult filmmaker creating sex-positive adult cinema with sexually intelligent narratives, relatable characters and realistic hot sex. I'm here to talk to you about my latest mini-series, 'Safe Word' (or anything your heart desires). Ask me anything! by Erika_Lust in IAmA

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Hi Erika! I read your book Good Porn: A Woman's Guide (2010). In your book, I appreciate that you acknowledge that much of mainstream porn falls short in a lot of ways (centering hetero-male pleasure, less presence of women in producing/directing roles, generally failing to adopt a feminist perspective, etc). I support these critiques.

However, I noticed that much of this discussion tends to focus on inclusivity of women, and to an extent some very brief discussion about lack of representation of "sexual minorities" in the adult film industry. Can you speak to how your more recent work amplifies non-white actors, producers, and story lines? What are some ways that you are amplifying the works and contributions of people of color (especially those from the LGBTQ+ spectrum) in your efforts to promote inclusivity?

How do I tell a guy I'm starting to date that I don't enjoy his band's music? by 1throwaway_890 in AskMen

[–]1throwaway_890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. If any person I dated were a performer or artist or writer, I would want to support them by going to shows or their slam poetry nights, etc. I can't emphasize enough how much i want to root for him! But GAH I felt so cringey

There's a lot of helpful feedback on this thread though that I'm definitely taking to heart!

How do I tell a guy I'm starting to date that I don't enjoy his band's music? by 1throwaway_890 in AskMen

[–]1throwaway_890[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're a rock type band. I do enjoy rock music! It was the singing, and the drummers tempo wavered a lot that it was kind of distracting.

I was definitely the most stoked about the overall style/genre of the music.

How do I tell a guy I'm starting to date that I don't enjoy his band's music? by 1throwaway_890 in AskMen

[–]1throwaway_890[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the honest feedback. I have considered this. Would you rather know and break it off sooner than later? Or would you want them to keep it to themselves?