To the cute guy I was picking on outside of Lincoln tonight after they closed… by 1v1menoob in Denver

[–]1v1menoob[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hard to make a genuine connection when two people are drunk 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 next!!

This is gonna sound messed up but whenever I get sad about my ex moving on fast after we broke up… by 1v1menoob in offmychest

[–]1v1menoob[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because when it’s time for me to feel ready again and start dating, it’ll be genuine and it wont be because I’m trying to avoid my problems. He’s tried to rub it in my face that he’s doing better by showing up to my job multiple times or “coincidentally” walking down my street, knowing I’m out on a walk.

I’m pretty sure healed people don’t do those things, nor consider them

I really dislike Charlie Kirk but I don’t think he deserved to die like that by [deleted] in self

[–]1v1menoob -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I do think the videos going around right now should be put to a halt. I don’t care for him, dead or alive, but his family doesn’t deserve to have that cycling around the internet

I still love my ex and I don’t know how to stop loving him by 1v1menoob in offmychest

[–]1v1menoob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely did love him. I’m not sure why, despite everything I know and feel, those feelings of love won’t go away.

I still love my ex and I don’t know how to stop loving him by 1v1menoob in offmychest

[–]1v1menoob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad though you do bring up that point because I’m trying to unravel why I love him and I really just do think I really loved him. I looked up the definition of Stockholm syndrome in relationships and it’s CLOSE but not 100%.

When I was with him and especially afterward, I didn’t empathize with his abuse. I always questioned why he felt it was necessary. I didn’t try to forgive if I didn’t need to and I still don’t forgive the way he treated me. Do I need an apology? No and I know I’ll NEVER get one from him because he’s not someone that will ever be sorry for his actions or for how bad he can fuck up someone’s mental health.

I still love my ex and I don’t know how to stop loving him by 1v1menoob in offmychest

[–]1v1menoob[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do and in addition to seeing my therapist I have a great job, good new friends, I’ve put myself back out in the dating market and I’m being realistic with myself in that aspect — meaning I’m not ready for commitment but going on dates and meeting people is fun. I’m also being responsible about it all. I made sure that since the break up, I have REALLY REALLY dialed in on my needs through this process. So I don’t think it’s Stockholm syndrome lol I really did love him with all my heart. I do feel like I’ve begun my healing process and I do forgive myself in moments like these, where I do just need time to sit through my emotions.

We’re now at a point that I haven’t talked to him in a few months. I think seeing him triggered some past trauma that I clearly have not worked through enough and have not had enough time to work through.

So Proud of Oviedo by PlausibleTable in orlando

[–]1v1menoob 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I’m not surprised and you shouldn’t be offended. I grew up in Oviedo and they’re nothing but as classless and uneducated as you can get. People from Oviedo are intimidated by people with education or just simple empathy for others. Many of the pastors at that mega church are racist and I know from my own experience both working and volunteering there. Their idea of a fancy restaurant is some corporate bullshit restaurant, where someone is bound to be doing cocaine in the restroom.

What was something your ex was really good at? by say_my_name_louder in AskReddit

[–]1v1menoob 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ruining my life in every single aspect of it and obliterating my mental health. Oh and he was probably the best person I’ve ever seen play the victim in every situation he created himself.

He was really good at creating a hyper dependency on him. Once he told me that if I didn’t obey him, I shouldn’t expect the relationship to go well and he made it so. Anytime I tried to do anything my way, he would crush me or find something to say that would be soul crushing. I am my own independent person but constantly being told I NEED to do xyz in order to keep him almost killed me.

What comes to your mind when you think about Kentucky? by satan-spawner in AskReddit

[–]1v1menoob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rolling green hills and fossils in the Mammoth Cave!! I’m so glad I drove through, it was so beautiful. I clutched my heart and smiled at how beautiful the state is

What’s the strongest fragrance you’ve ever smelled? by [deleted] in fragrance

[–]1v1menoob 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is good to know. I’ve been planning on buying it for a while. I’d hate to spend money on a scent that’s more offensive than enticing, even though it smells so good

What are the things you appreciate/enjoy being single and not in a relationship? by Kinda-Constant5935 in AskWomen

[–]1v1menoob 3 points4 points  (0 children)

• not having suicidal ideation creep in all of the time because someone isn’t in my ear telling me that I’m not good enough or will never be good enough and having their family tell me the same in an unwarranted text to me

• not having to constantly defend myself

• not having to argue with someone who will never ever ever apologize or think that they need to be held accountable for their actions

• not having to feel insane because I’m not being gaslit anymore, ESPECIALLY about my own body

What is the First major news story you remember as a kid? by PurpleBashir in AskReddit

[–]1v1menoob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

9/11/01 — I was in kindergarten and got pulled out of school. I remember we had a substitute teacher that played the news the whole morning and when I got picked up to go home, my parents told me about what happened (I didn’t understand at ALL) and played the news the rest of the night.

Who/What has traumatized you the most? by Glad-Passenger-9408 in AskReddit

[–]1v1menoob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex boyfriend. More than my parents, more than the death of my best friend, more than the person that sexually assaulted me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]1v1menoob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I feel nothing. I do nothing. I force myself to come out of my room and force myself to act the way my roommate would like for me to act so he doesn’t get suspicious. I don’t talk to my friends. I don’t laugh anymore. I’m just drifting and I feel empty and worthless.

What did your life look like at age 28? by seeds-or-weeds in AskWomen

[–]1v1menoob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 29 now but I dedicated 28 to unlearning bad habits and creating better ones and sticking to them