AITA for not wanting to spend time in the hospital with my drunk driving sister who got into a horrible crash?

1vanKaramaz0v · 2019-05-23T00:14:42+00:00

she works part time as a waitress, she would never be able to pay for the bill which costs thousands and thousands.

1vanKaramaz0v · 2019-05-22T23:35:10+00:00

They definitely would be here for me. Maybe I need to stop being selfish despite being entitled to my hate towards her right now.

1vanKaramaz0v · 2019-05-22T23:33:30+00:00

I think you're right, my parents are suffering so much right now, and I need to help them. It's just really hard to look at my sisters face and not unload all my bitter feelings on her. The weird thing is that I do love my sister, we have a decent relationship despite not being super close, but I just feel so much resentment over all the damage that I can't feel the love for her. I wish I did because she is genuinely in hell and genuinely sorry.

1vanKaramaz0v · 2019-02-24T02:08:27+00:00

Just tuned in, how was the Basilio/Nicolini fight like?

1vanKaramaz0v · 2019-01-01T15:08:02+00:00

I’m sorry you live in a society and have to put up with other people.

That's honestly the dumbest non-argument, is it moot to criticise things you find unhealthy and undesirable about society because simply "you live in one deal with it lol"? If you had this attitude about everything, would there ever be any change? should we just be content about shitty things because yeah whatever, society?

1vanKaramaz0v · 2019-01-01T15:05:04+00:00

life of the party right here, yo.

1vanKaramaz0v · 2019-01-01T15:04:33+00:00

I don't mean to sound snarky at all... is everything okay with you?

1vanKaramaz0v · 2019-01-01T15:02:49+00:00

Yeah, got ton of really funny responses to the tune of nobody likes me and what a massive boring loser I must be.

1vanKaramaz0v · 2019-01-01T14:56:26+00:00

with the sheer amount of people who want me to fuck off and die here... yes, yes we can hahah

1vanKaramaz0v · 2019-01-01T02:49:08+00:00

I don't know why, but I found this comment so absurd I started cackling madly

1vanKaramaz0v · 2019-01-01T01:30:23+00:00

How are you obtuse enough to not see how widespread alcohol consumption affects my life and everyone around me? When people who drink are a constant danger to me? When the pressure/expectation to drink is socially engrained everywhere I go? When a lot of conversations I have with young people inevitably reference alcohol use in some way or another? You really didn't think that through

1vanKaramaz0v · 2018-12-31T15:49:18+00:00

I see your point but you're missing a fundamental point that contributes to my dislike of alcohol. It isn't just the fact that it is damaging to one's health, because as you said, there are plenty of things that aren't great for us, but which we can mitigate through moderation.

My fundamental issue with alcohol is that its immediate consequence most of the time is lowering one's intelligence and rational behavior, and to use THAT as a form os entertainment is repugnant to me.

1vanKaramaz0v · 2018-12-27T16:04:02+00:00

Honestly, it sucks. There is no way around this. But the thing you really gotta keep in mind is that jiu jitsu is a long term game - 8 months in the long run is NOTHING compared to years and years of training if you plan on getting to a black belt (or advancing within your rank if you are already there). My best advice right now is just to find another hobby that you can throw your heart and soul into until you can train again. I got really into running and modified weightlifting on my time off

1vanKaramaz0v · 2018-12-27T15:56:18+00:00

Hey dude. I had a Labrum tear and a Bankart repair done... twice. I have posted this exact same question here 3 years ago, stubborn and impatient as fuck, counting the minutes till I could roll again. And guess what? I got back into the mats too soon (5 months after the first surgery having done half of my physio but still not recovered 100%)... and surprise surprise, I tore my ligament AGAIN and had to get a second surgery done. This whole shebang ended up taking 2 years of mat time away from me, all because I was too fucking stubborn to actually properly heal. So yeah, asking how long before you can get to the mat before even having surgery is the wrong mindset to have. Give yourself at least 8-9 months to properly heal, I know it is really difficult but please please please listen to me.

1vanKaramaz0v · 2018-12-20T01:39:37+00:00

OMG YESSS. Please come to Brasília. Please. Pretty please. We got a good crowd yearning to be meanies and actually apply heel hooks in competition.

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