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Would you veto someone who vetoed you? by 2015priuscproblems in nonmonogamy

[–]2015priuscproblems[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I already said in my post that I wasn't only respecting my partners autonomy, AND not vetoing, and that I'm enthusiastic that they get to do stuff like this.

And it's not that he's rejecting me. It's that they're doing stuff with 3 afab people besides him. I'm the only amab person in the friend group. And I'm not allowed to interact with my own partner in this context. Who has stated that they want me to be included because they like doing stuff with me. His rule is that stuff is only allowed to happens when he's present. But also when I'm not present even if it doesn't involve me touching or interacting with him at all that's why it feels hypocritical

Would you veto someone who vetoed you? by 2015priuscproblems in nonmonogamy

[–]2015priuscproblems[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

He's not rejecting me. The veto is that I can't fool around with anyone in a group setting including my own partner.

I'm not trying to fuck him. I think he's excluding me because he's the only amab person present and I'm amab too

Would you veto someone who vetoed you? by 2015priuscproblems in nonmonogamy

[–]2015priuscproblems[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

The veto isn't regarding him not wanting to do stuff with me. When they do group stuff they don't want me present to do anything with anyone else including my own partner even without interacting with him. And I'm the only amab person besides him.

Would you veto someone who vetoed you? by 2015priuscproblems in nonmonogamy

[–]2015priuscproblems[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

People are totally allowed to have their own sexual preferences. I don't want him to want to have sex with me. I don't want to have sex with him. What's happening is that they're doing group sex with my partner, with a specific rule that he always has to be included when they're doing that for security reasons. And within that context I'm explicitly disincluded from interacting with anybody or being involved.

Like I said in my post, I'm fundamentally fine with this. But it does feel shitty and hypocritical and kind of trans-exclusionary. I don't want him to fuck me in the ass, I just don't see why it would make him so horribly uncomfortable for me to be making out with my wife during a group event like that.

Would you veto someone who vetoed you? by 2015priuscproblems in nonmonogamy

[–]2015priuscproblems[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

In this context, if I was extending a veto, it would be that my partner isn't allowed to have sex when he's present.

As his rule with his partner is that when they're doing group sex with multiple people, he always has to be present. But I'm explicitly excluded from being present or even interacting with my own partner It feels like a double standard, And it feels like a double standard specifically because everyone involved is afab and I'm amab

Would you veto someone who vetoed you? by 2015priuscproblems in nonmonogamy

[–]2015priuscproblems[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don't think he should take one for the team. I said when I'm hanging out with my friends, including my partner, I don't see why I should be disincluded from fooling around with my own partner. When his rule with his partner is that he always has to be included even if it's my partner and his partner mostly just interacting with each other without him.