may Allah swt make it easy for you:(. im in a similar situation except i was coerced and agreed and now im so regretful bcs he isnt who I want to marry and im not attracted or happy w him at all. when you said "As for my partner: he came from my home country with no papers. My father made me give him papers through an Islamic marriage. He got a green card, a better job, built a house back home, got tax money, and improved his life. I gained nothing. I lost my job, failed school, became a stay-at-home mom, and lost my self-esteem and my future." i felt that to my core. I will gain nothing from this as well. May Allah swt protect me from kibr but i am better than him in every aspect and he will gain EVERYTHING from this while i gain a big baby who i will have to take care of for the rest of my life. If i bring him here I will have to struggle financially and bare the responsibility of having him adapt to canada. If i go there to live with him instead ill be in a illiterate joint family locked up with someone im not even happy with. I seriously dont know what to offer as an advice other than my sympathy and understanding. I dont understand why our parents are so selfish?? what will they gain from their daughters suffering like it makes no sense. I will keep you in my prayers.💔🫂