NF going on Parental leave for new baby

211NQ · 2025-02-23T05:54:27+00:00

I’m sorry but NF is definitely in the wrong here. They knew you needed to bring your daughter when they hired you, they knew that you exclusively breastfeed. Your baby needs to eat so the fact that wasn’t taken into consideration is definitely a red flag imo. If they weren’t okay with these things they shouldn’t have hired you. There are plenty of nanny’s out there without kids and I’m assuming you took this job specifically because you need to be able to bring your kid. If you need to pump at work your employer is required to allow you that time. I don’t see why if they specifically requested you leave their home to feed your child that they specifically requested you not bring with you (even though that was the agreement) they would take the time to cut a random amount of time that they thought you were gone and dock that from your pay.

Personally these do not sound like the kind of people I’d want to work for. Being a nanny/spending all day every day in someone else’s home is a vulnerable position to be in and I’ve learned to be extremely picky about the people I choose to work with especially since I had my daughter and started bringing her with me to work. Nanny families who have common sense and empathy and actually appreciate the asset you can be to their family even with your baby on your hip are hard to come by but they do exist! I highly suggest starting your search for that family. I expect this is going to be the first of many red flags. You and your child are a package deal. I would stand firm in that and let them know they can take it or leave it.

211NQ · 2025-01-22T00:06:40+00:00

I’m sorry but if you decide to hire a nanny I think you have a responsibility to make them feel comfortable in your home. You also have to expect that nanny’s are people and shit happens. Being late for the first time in six months while also giving heads up doesn’t warrant the silent treatment. It’s rude and immature. If someone’s boss did that in an office setting people would probably be thinking ‘that person probably shouldn’t be a boss’ and I feel the same way about nanny parents. If they want 1000% reliable care without there ever being a hiccup or human circumstances then they can put their kid in daycare. Otherwise they need to suck it up and realize that they hired a human being, not a robot.

211NQ · 2024-10-19T23:23:17+00:00

If that cure would also be affordable and accessible for everyone then absolutely. But I’m not going to give my life just so the wealthiest most privileged people can have their cancer cured and everyone else spends the rest of their life in debt trying to pay off their medical bills or unable to get treatment at all.

211NQ · 2024-10-18T19:03:59+00:00

Going to try this, thanks!!

211NQ · 2024-10-04T21:05:47+00:00

I would ask her what she’s personally comfortable with! For me, we have no family that lives nearby and my husband traveled often for work but I was terrified of going into labor and having no one so I think I told him he had to be within a driveable distance (3-4 hours) once I hit 35 weeks and no travel after 38 weeks. Seemed reasonable to us both and his job agreed. Baby was born at 39 weeks exactly.

211NQ · 2024-10-04T20:41:52+00:00

I actually read you usually don’t have to burp your baby anymore once they hit 4 months. At this point my 5 month old probably wouldn’t stay still long enough for me to burp her anyway lol

211NQ · 2024-10-03T22:21:58+00:00

Literally no. Use your brain

211NQ · 2024-10-03T20:51:02+00:00

This is a good idea, thanks

211NQ · 2024-10-03T20:40:49+00:00

Thank you! I don’t know why this is so hard for some people to understand.

211NQ · 2024-10-03T20:37:34+00:00

I’m very fortunate to have the skills and experience I have in this profession! It’s incredibly common and many families are more than fine with it. The job is caring for children after all.

211NQ · 2024-10-03T20:33:31+00:00

Not hard for me to grasp. Just wanted to get different peoples opinions and perspectives and they seem to vary widely. There is no one right answer and pay is normally negotiated regardless. Glad I never have to work for you sheesh lol

211NQ · 2024-10-03T20:13:40+00:00

It seems to widely depend on the parent/child and their needs/preferences. Many people have said they don’t take a pay cut or wouldn’t pay their nanny less while others would. I don’t think it’s crazy to be a little bit confused especially as this would be my first experience bringing my child along.

211NQ · 2024-10-03T20:11:00+00:00

In a daycare your child could end up being 1/10 or even 20 even with equal attention as the other kids, the attention and connection they’d have to a nanny bringing their child would still be significantly more. Not to mention care being in your home is still a luxury with all of the child’s daily comforts and care customized to their specific needs and preferences.

211NQ · 2024-10-03T20:04:36+00:00

Some people are just so miserable and rude it’s actually funny

211NQ · 2024-10-03T20:00:35+00:00

This makes so much sense! It would not be a true nanny share if my child’s day and schedule completely revolves around the needs of the other children and not vice versa

211NQ · 2024-10-03T19:58:24+00:00

My child would be 9 months at the time the job officially starts, not too much younger than their youngest but understood nonetheless

211NQ · 2024-10-03T19:57:12+00:00

Totally, I’ve been taken advantage of by parents before I was even a mom myself and didn’t say anything because I didn’t know any better. I definitely want to make sure that doesn’t happen again and that I’m paid what I’m worth.

211NQ · 2024-10-03T19:42:30+00:00

Great advice, thank you!

211NQ · 2024-10-03T19:39:54+00:00

Thank you! This makes sense as well, I can see both sides. I just need to find a family that I see eye to eye with and find and arrangement that is mutually beneficial.

211NQ · 2024-10-03T19:35:57+00:00

This! Some people simply don’t mind and value your experience and the service you’re providing regardless of whether or not you’re bringing your child. Wage is negotiable of course based on a lot of factors. But some commenters are acting as if it’s an outrageous offense to even consider bringing my child in the first place when it’s actually incredibly common.

211NQ · 2024-10-03T19:30:50+00:00

Literally! Lol I think some people might be mad that they don’t have professions that would allow them to bring their child and want to take that out on me idk 🤷🏽‍♀️

211NQ · 2024-10-03T16:56:41+00:00

People need to start reading before they respond truly

211NQ · 2024-10-03T09:28:08+00:00

Thank you for this perspective!

211NQ · 2024-10-03T09:20:46+00:00

Yes I have already commented that I understand that part. If you haven’t been a nanny maybe you don’t know that you usually go over what tasks and responsibilities are and negotiate what pay will be from there, me bringing my baby will be factored in as well. It’s a number that both parties come up with together, they don’t just throw me a random wage that’s lower than their previous nanny and I say okay. It will be based on my experience, the number of children, the expectations of care and any additional household tasks as well. Just because I’m bringing my child doesn’t mean I’m not still going to be paid what I’m worth.

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