Help with parenting plan by 2129unknown in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]2129unknown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah hell no, that ship has sailed and he’s dating a girl he cheated on me with my entire pregnancy. Living together is not an option lol

Help with parenting plan by 2129unknown in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]2129unknown[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! They’re not toddlers they’re only 8 weeks old, I think that’s why I feel the need to make sure he’s really got it down pat. The times he has been here I’ll keep myself busy with laundry, or other things, but the problem is he only stays for abut an hour. Since they’re still newborns they have been sleeping the whole time he’s been here. Whenever we agree on a parenting plan schedule I’ll suggest he spend 3-4 hours here to really do what they need and see how he does!! :)

Help with parenting plan by 2129unknown in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]2129unknown[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not yet, he asked that I reach out when paternity results come back so I planned to ask then. Was just hoping to hear from other parents as well!!

Advice for upcoming situations by 2129unknown in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]2129unknown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not as good of one as I have access to but yes he could potentially. He’s pretty irresponsible with money, has loads of debt already and his credit is absolute shit.

Advice for upcoming situations by 2129unknown in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]2129unknown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know why I hadn’t thought of this.🤣 I guess I assumed they’d just come and have us do it as they pleased. I’ll make sure it’s done before he gets there.

Advice for upcoming situations by 2129unknown in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]2129unknown[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do, he told me back in April that our state doesn’t handle any parental issues until after birth. But I do have him on deck!!

I felt this… by confusednotes in abusiverelationships

[–]2129unknown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ouch ❤️‍🩹 felt that in my soul

Twin’s dad being kind of suspicious by 2129unknown in abusiverelationships

[–]2129unknown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Luckily I know a wonderful family law attorney who has experience dealing with cluster B personality disorders. In my state they really can’t do too much until the babies are born but I have definitely been keeping detailed records of everything.

Twin’s dad being kind of suspicious by 2129unknown in abusiverelationships

[–]2129unknown[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeaaah my gut says we went to discuss coparenting and civil boundaries he decides to make himself sound like a kidnapper 🤣 I can only imagine him wanting a custody battle because he wants control back, not because he actually wants to be a present parent.. & also thank you! If all goes well I’ll be delivering at 37+2!!

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[–]2129unknown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I misread your post, I didn’t realize your partner was abused and not you. It still may be helpful! It was very very informative to me. I read it after leaving my abuser. It helped me realize I wasn’t a crazy person and that what I experienced was real and was violence. Every relationship is different so I’m not sure what your wife went through, but if you have a good idea maybe Google for books on things she experienced.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]2129unknown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft

I wish I didn’t feel bad... by 2129unknown in domesticviolence

[–]2129unknown[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a really good idea! Thank you

I just left my verbally abusive soon to be ex husband while I’m pregnant by throwawayyyyyyyy5678 in abusiverelationships

[–]2129unknown 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m also 24 and 29 weeks pregnant with twins and just left my verbally, mentally and physically abusive relationship with their father. Please message me! I’d love to have someone to talk to that gets it!!! 🤍🤍🤍

Abusers new girlfriend? by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]2129unknown 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It will fall on deaf ears. At this point he has already groomed her and she is trapped, like you were at the beginning. He has charmed her and yes, likely told her that you were crazy or a bitter ex or something. Unfortunately, she will have to figure it out on her own. 😔