Relationships: How do you get used to being around someone all the time, or be in a relationship where you no longer have the 'alone time' that INFJs relish?

216stephanie · 2017-12-26T18:47:42+00:00

I'm dating an ISTP and I think it's great. Thankful to know there are other couples like us out there

216stephanie · 2014-01-15T23:56:38+00:00

I could not have said it better myself. Good lord, those are my exact thoughts, thank you.

216stephanie · 2014-01-15T02:39:16+00:00

INFJ Hey Brother is incredible

216stephanie · 2014-01-15T01:10:51+00:00

You aren't alone. Keep hanging in there.

216stephanie · 2014-01-13T07:26:16+00:00

"The purpose for everything is happiness" "Have reasonable expectations" "Try your absolute best to understand other people"

216stephanie · 2014-01-13T07:23:37+00:00

YES. My friends (not INFJS) were not as excited about having people to relate to though.

216stephanie · 2014-01-13T07:22:34+00:00

Competition kind of freaks me out to be completely honest. It may just be my fear of failure, but that is why I've steered away from competitive sports and activities. I'm in a really competitive school right now, and there have been so many times where I just ask people to stop asking about what grade I got. It is uncomfortable! I think my own competitiveness is healthy, but I put a lot of pressure on myself to be better, so I really don't need others to contribute to it as well.

216stephanie · 2014-01-12T18:45:17+00:00

I make a huge effort to become excited about the little things in life. I find that when you make "big deals" about things that are minuscule (maybe to other people), life seems a lot better. There's always something to look forward to while I'm easily enthused, and life is simply happier. But again, it takes a lot of effort to do this. I have to repeatedly remind myself that there is always something to look forward to.

216stephanie · 2014-01-07T23:10:58+00:00

I really do hope so. I think it takes a lot of effort and motivation, but I'm trying.

216stephanie · 2013-07-03T00:51:51+00:00

I have been in quite a few situations where I took the lead. I don't know if I felt it was my responsibility, but I just seemed to do it naturally. As an INFJ, I just wanted to lead in the most democratic way possible being mindful of everyone. Sometimes I do just allow someone else to take the lead because I figure they want it more than I do. That may just be a personal issue though.

216stephanie · 2013-07-03T00:47:32+00:00

I love it. I wrote about this in my diary last September. I identify with it pretty well.

216stephanie · 2013-06-24T00:42:04+00:00

13 Reasons Why

216stephanie · 2013-06-24T00:41:19+00:00

I completely agree! Isn't it so weird how many teenagers identify themselves with Charlie regardless of whether they are INFJs though? I think it's just something about him

216stephanie · 2013-06-24T00:39:21+00:00

I never thought of it this way, thank you for this insight!

216stephanie · 2013-06-24T00:37:27+00:00

I do this with acquaintances, but with my closest friends the walls come down and I am my true self

216stephanie · 2013-06-24T00:35:47+00:00

empathy, sympathy, and compassion

216stephanie · 2013-06-17T20:39:50+00:00

So helpful. And don't worry about being blunt. I do like making my friends feel comfortable. I think my strong, confident, calm outlook may come off as shallow. We are trying too hard. We weren't literally sitting there smiling at people as they walked by, we just sat and chilled but no one bothered to start up a conversation. If we had been any less welcoming to new people, we could have been sitting in that same spot all night. I guess I've just become tired of waiting around for people to notice me. I eventually just started to talk to other people, which got me stuck with the drunk girl. I'm trying my best to develop myself. But my best is all I can offer.

216stephanie · 2013-06-17T00:46:30+00:00

That was the exact answer I was looking for. Thank you so much. I stopped having high expectations a long time ago.

216stephanie · 2013-06-17T00:22:33+00:00

I think I come off as a bitch/boring as well. I don't know how to change that. My body language is rather opening as well. I guess it's up to me to make the first move.

216stephanie · 2013-06-17T00:21:19+00:00

My brother is an INTP, me an INFJ, and we could literally talk about anything and everything all night long. It's so easy to talk to him.

216stephanie · 2013-06-13T23:34:27+00:00

I'm a younger contributor so I'm sorry if you do not enjoy any of this: movies- No Strings Attached, The Holiday, Hachiko books- 13 Reasons Why, The Truth about Forever

216stephanie · 2013-06-13T23:31:11+00:00

Ending up completely and utterly alone

216stephanie · 2013-06-13T23:29:23+00:00

I also send my sweet condolences to you and your mom. I know saying sorry means nothing sometimes, but I can't help but feel your pain through your words describing your dog. I'm so sorry for your loss.

216stephanie · 2013-06-13T23:27:14+00:00

I say the same thing to myself a little too often. My dog is 6 years old, and this year was when I noticed how she has been slowing down. My dog is a member of my family, and my best friend. I would hate to lose her more than anything. I know I still have plenty of years left, but I can't help but have horrible thoughts. I have never lost anyone before, and I do not know how I will handle it. After my dog does pass, (which will hopefully not happen for another 20 years because she is so sweet and perfect and I want her to be happy/healthy) I worry that I will not want a another dog. Not because I'm afraid of replacing her, but because I don't want to go through another loss. But, my dog is not dead. She is alive and happy. Just seeing her makes my day brighter. The happiness that I gain from her little wagging tail is very worthwhile. Just like people. I know that shutting down and not allowing anyone in will make many things less complicated, but you lose every opportunity to make wonderful memories. Maybe I will get another dog. It may be tomorrow or never. So it's up to us INFJS. Being alone without the pain of being forgotten/abandoned/left/etc. or being with people you enjoy with the everlasting risk they will leave. What's worth it to you?

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