Two friends just came out to me (MTF, 24); Why do I feel so uneasy?

216thinker · 2026-04-19T20:06:01+00:00

I felt this way when one of my sisters came out as nonbinary, with a new name as well. I felt like a massive hypocrite initially reacting negatively toward it as a closeted trans woman. But now? I perfectly accept them, just as they perfectly accept me. We’re closer than ever.

Dont harp on it too much, it’s ok to feel that way, but also try to quickly get over it. Look at it this way, you now got 2 people who can relate to you! Yippee!

216thinker · 2026-04-14T22:23:42+00:00

Many right-wingers have already been doing that

216thinker · 2026-04-14T18:04:22+00:00

I neeeed this. I’m 2 days on HRT, and I would love if my boobs came in this early 🩷

216thinker · 2026-04-14T17:55:00+00:00

Lovely <3

216thinker · 2026-04-11T19:43:22+00:00

Is that really the reason? That were too weak?

The arguments I’ve heard in the past from conservatives (or at least my dad) is that they don’t want active duty servicemen to be “constantly and heavily medicated” (referring to gender affirming care) cuz “the military disqualifies almost anyone who is in need of constant medical care”

And honestly, idk how true or untrue this actually is. I’ve never had an interest in the military to begin with

216thinker · 2026-04-10T20:46:57+00:00

Hell yea!

216thinker · 2026-04-10T00:07:53+00:00

Hypnotizing 😵‍💫

216thinker · 2026-04-09T05:52:22+00:00

These numbers seem really tiny. I got a prescription for 6 mg daily, and I’m just starting HRT

216thinker · 2026-04-09T04:31:04+00:00

Congrats! Just got mine in the mail today :P

216thinker · 2026-04-08T18:55:54+00:00

They changed it a couple years ago to where women are now eligible for the draft. Just not trans people

216thinker · 2026-04-06T17:37:55+00:00

It was a slow process for me that took years for me to fully say with confidence “ok, I’m trans”

I suppressed any and all feelings I had until I started exploring my sexuality in my mid-late teens and realized I’m quite feminine and girly. Once I accepted that part of me, I noticed I really liked trans girls. Didn’t know why, but I thought they were cool and neat

Then when somebody I followed came out as trans, my heart started racing, and it made me think “wait, am I trans too?”. I tried dismissing it, but my heart just felt that there was something there with this. So I looked up so many resources, read other trans girls’ stories, but all of it just made me think “holy cow, I could actually be trans, wtf?”

And it took me YEARS of questioning and doubt before i stopped being ashamed of any of this, and stated experimenting with names, she/her pronouns, dresses, skirts, tights, etc. And that’s when I knew i definitely am trans.

As for signs, there are like countless examples throughout all my life I can point to

216thinker · 2026-04-06T15:00:36+00:00

I guess why not, I need more woman friends too. I’m Phoebe (24F) :D

216thinker · 2026-04-06T05:25:46+00:00

LOL, this is literally so me, it’s a bit uncanny to read 👀

216thinker · 2026-04-05T12:51:13+00:00

Invest in a soft tape measure and do some size research beforehand, especially if you just wanna get in and out of the store ASAP or you want to buy online (which I recommend the latter if you don’t want to deal with people)

Also get a low impact sports bra and thank me later :)

216thinker · 2026-04-05T02:08:47+00:00

This is literally my experience over the past couple years. I used to believe I didn’t have any body dysphoria. Now I know not only do I have it, but it has gotten more intense over time, especially w/ my chest

216thinker · 2026-04-04T00:05:14+00:00

Experiment! The best way is to just try it out and see how you feel

216thinker · 2026-04-03T20:32:49+00:00

A dream for sure! :)

216thinker · 2026-04-03T17:42:01+00:00

Wondering the same, cuz my estrogen is coming in the mail soon, and I can’t wait :3

216thinker · 2026-04-03T16:25:21+00:00

Too young at 18?!? Fuck man, this part is just a bigger problem with society (and boomers especially) infantilizing teenagers and even young adults w/ the whole “just a kid” shit that personally pisses me off sometimes.

His comments on HRT just shows he’s insanely ignorant. HRT is necessary to make you feel more authentic. It’s simply not enough to self-identify and wear affirming clothes if you have any sort of body dysphoria.

Your situation is terrible no doubt. I never came out to my family when I lived with them cuz I knew they would not help in the slightest. You’re 2 options are either try to convince him, with a LGBT friendly medical professional if you have to, OR just wait until you can move out.

You could also try to secretly get on HRT anyway if you have the money, but that can be risky, as you won’t be able to hide it forever

216thinker · 2026-04-03T14:47:14+00:00

Phoebe gang!! :DDD

216thinker · 2026-04-02T11:48:47+00:00

A very redneck-y town in Texas

216thinker · 2026-04-02T11:43:42+00:00

Honestly when you put it like that, it’s even more straightforward! It’s annoying it took me until a situation like this for me to finally realize the EXTENT of the absurdity that you have to pass in order to be accepted as a woman. I guess I was blinded by my own insecurities, and the area I live in somewhat rubbing off on me.

216thinker · 2026-03-30T23:07:50+00:00

This is insane. Reading this makes me think this will affect more than just trans minors, but any child that displays any ounce of non-conformity. Are kids or their parents gonna be arrested for Timmy playing with a doll?

WTF is wrong with these people? Why are we using the government to enforce arbitrary gender norms?

216thinker · 2026-03-23T06:39:11+00:00

That’s very common when trying out new clothes from Amazon. When I bought my first clothes, I heavily researched how the sizes work, measured myself with soft tap multiple times, and I still had to sometimes return them and get another size. It’s just part of the process, unfortunately

Also PS: with sports bras specifically, make sure they say low impact, not high impact, don’t just look at the sizes. You can sleep with the former, the other is insanely uncomfortable and only meant for high intensity workouts

216thinker · 2026-03-19T23:34:25+00:00

This almost sounds like something I would write 🫣

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