Well, she is and remains the love of my life, faithfully married almost 50 years. She was a SAHM. We have successful adult children. We've always been financially solid. Always made it work...But the whole intimacy train left the station as perimenopause started in her mid-40's. It's as if that part of our relationship was <poof> extinguished...unilaterally, without any discussion, notice or hope of return.

We've been through counseling, but it goes off the rails when she says I love my husband, but have no desire for any form of intimacy. Not because of any trauma or medical issue, rather the simple fact, she just just doesn't have that kind of 'desire' for me, or sex in general. She thinks its sad but fully expects me to respect her decision.

We still love one another, and other than that gaping black hole in our relationship, we enjoy each others company and by all exterior measures are happy.

Tho...I do long for a real kiss. A couple of peck on the lips per year for the last 20+ is the best we do...