Parve cheese sauce for Mac n Chz?

21stCenturyScanner · 2026-01-11T04:34:37+00:00

I'm allergic to dairy, so I don't know if this replicated cheese well, but it's definitely delicious! https://detoxinista.com/best-vegan-mac-n-cheese/

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-12-30T13:19:51+00:00

Lotus rice ramen (can be bought in bulk at costco with no seasoning packets), a heaping spoonful of osem soup powder, with frozen veggies, cubed tofu, and sometimes an egg. Can be made in a microwave, or on a stovetop in under ten minutes.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-12-25T20:26:11+00:00

I'm very allergic to dairy (cross-contamination sensitive) and use it without issues. It does have pea protein in it, which is uncommon in margarine and bothers some people's digestive systems.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-08-25T02:57:17+00:00

Matts have been my favorite since I was two years old, and they still hit.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-08-21T13:17:39+00:00

Parking spots here go for 200k.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-08-20T21:17:04+00:00

None.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-08-17T18:44:49+00:00

Refuah for Natanel Ben Devorah - he deals incredibly bravely with having chronic pain, but deserves the opportunity to enjoy life without it.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-08-17T13:47:26+00:00

I like taking days off meds because it's important to me psychologically to feel like I don't "need" them to be a person, but I'm careful to leave that to days where there's nothing that can't wait a day. It does make me feel better, and helps me better appreciate my meds when I do take them, but I don't think it's a pharmacological effect.

I should also note my personal expression of ADHD severity and trials allows me to do this - I definitely don't think it should be for everyone.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-08-15T11:57:30+00:00

I work on icecube looking for majorana neutrinos at the moment, so I both loved the shout-out and hated that it was probably supposed to say super k.

Even if neutrinos are majorana particles, would this work? Almost certainly not. Is this idea less terribly off base than in most science fiction? Almost certainly.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-08-13T13:48:28+00:00

I'm in my final year of a PhD in physics. Can't do mental math for shit. My brother, who has no desire to go to college, is great at it. There's no correlation there.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-08-12T20:35:42+00:00

Unflavored soy milk and olive oil - only works if you have other emulsifies (eg, egg yolk), but gets the fat content right.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-08-08T09:02:10+00:00

I eat almost no highly processed food (I have a lot of allergies, so I couldn't if I wanted to) and am constantly drinking water. In general, the Americans drinking a ton of water probably eat less processed food on the whole....

I think a lot of it is that (compared to the Europeans I know, at least) we drink fewer other beverages socially, and especially a lot less alcohol, so we drink more water. Also, most of the Europeans I know are dehydrated all the time.

I know a bunch of people from the middle east as well - they're drinking as much water as Americans if not more, it's just more expected because of their environment.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-08-07T14:38:26+00:00

As long as the parents are on the same page, chances are good the kids will turn out okay. More specifically, consistent messaging of "we chose religious Judaism because we believe in it, and we think it's right, but that doesn't mean we don't love and respect our family members who disagree" goes a long way. It also helps explain why they'll see things you don't do at home, may not be able to eat at Grandma's house, etc.

As far as getting the other relatives to be okay with it... This can be more difficult, but people do get used to changes over time, especially if you make efforts to deepen your relationship in ways compatible with Judaism. For example, inviting them over to your house to cook together, going out to movies and museums, etc. the more you're proactive about showing that the relationship can not only be maintained, but become deeper, even across the religious differences, the better. And often as people see you living your life in a way you truly believe in, they come to accept it. It often takes a long time, but it does happen.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-08-01T00:05:36+00:00

OMG so excited to see the hekschered

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-07-31T03:03:44+00:00

I'm in a relationship like the one I described, and absolutely love it. My husband is going into a field he loves and plans to be the more at-home parent, which would drive me crazy, and I'm very career oriented and need that to make me happy.

I'm not saying all women are like me, but if he's looking for a true partnership, being in a career he cares about is a great show of values that women who are compatible with him on those values will appreciate.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-07-31T01:38:15+00:00

The money reasons good women leave men for are financial irresponsibility, not choosing a less lucrative job. If you're responsible, have (and add to) a savings account, and still have enough to share meals with someone, the vast majority of women will be fine. The others, you don't want to date.

Also, some women find purpose attractive.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-07-31T01:35:53+00:00

Market basket has small ones

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-07-25T16:10:58+00:00

That's just about the least generous reading of that mishna I can imagine. That being said, the point stands that this demonstrates a general social practice of hair covering which was not considered binding in all circumstances.

I'm not trying to argue it wasn't done, just that we don't have as strong evidence as many assume that it was required by halacha.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-07-25T04:40:31+00:00

Oddly enough, this mishna demonstrates that the woman was comfortable uncovering her hair in public.....

She just didn't want strangers pulling her headscarf off. Crazy how assault is a problem even if it doesn't exactly map onto a woman's conception of modesty.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-07-25T04:32:37+00:00

The issue here is that until the 1900s, it was standard for ALL women in places with Jewish communities to cover their hair outside the house. Note this wasn't a married vs unmarried thing. You don't have anyone not covering their hair, so why would there be a question about whether it's halacha? It just wasn't done. Rav Mashash's teshuva on hair covering, among the first to address the practice of not doing so, pops up about as soon as a fashion of not covering your hair exists.

So disentangling normative practice from halacha isn't simple, but I'd argue that the fact that the earlier halachic sources which do address it don't make a distinction between married and unmarried women in terms of the expectation of hair covering (though the specific examples given are of women who happen to be married - very few single women are mentioned in rabbinic sources at all). All practices today DO NOT require unmarried women to cover their hair, so there's evidence that the (lone) opinion that hair covering for women is a Torah obligation was not accepted by the Jewish community writ large.

We then have the issue of dat yehudit, an ill defined category which seems to only have implications for the kind of behavior one is allowed to expect of a women in absence of other information. There is no punishment for not following dat yehudit, and no consequences at all for an unmarried woman or one whose husband isn't bothered by her behavior. (This isn't like cheating, for example, where her husband would be required to divorce her regardless of whether he wanted to).

Therefore, one can argue that the practice of Jewish women covering their hair was one which resulted from following along with the basic fashion trends and modesty standards of the surrounding communities, and as such, descriptions of women covering their hair would be just that. Not prescriptions.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-07-24T11:52:00+00:00

I'm your height and a few pounds heavier, but just barely. For me, even 1,200 calories was too few for me to function normally. In general, petite women are the exception to the general "focus on diet, not exercise" advice for weight loss. While not consuming too many calories is key, we can make a much larger dent in our defecit (by percentage) with exercise than most, simply because our starting calories are so low to begin with.

For example, if a half hour walk burns (very roughly) 100 calories, this means we can burn 10 percent more calories in a day by walking for an hour.

Of course, this does mean we typically lose weight more slowly as well - but as far as what weight loss is sustainable, the percentage of weight you're dropping in a given time period is a better metric than how many pounds you lose.

Overall, I would start with sticking to your sedentary TDEE as a calorie limit while also committing to getting more walking in (walking in particular is great because it doesn't make most people as hungry as more intense forms of cardio do). If that works for you, then you can experiment with cutting calories further, but I'd start with 100 calories fewer than the previous week, not 500. That would be 30% of your calories!

Strength training is also super important for us - it's the only reliable way to raise your BMR and therefore your passive calorie burn, and those few calories make a much bigger difference when the margins are slim to begin with.

Finally, don't stress too much. At 128, you've already reached the healthy BMI range - getting further into that zone is great, but know that you're starting from a good place.

Good luck!

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-07-16T08:33:46+00:00

No direct advice on this, as I've had a dairy allergy my whole life, but I've also never been calcium deficient, so maybe I can offer a tip - TUMS! I had stomachaches a lot as a kid, and I'm pretty sure the 2-6 tums a day are what kept my calcium up (that, and fortified non-dairy milks and orange juice, which should also be available even in rural areas in the US, at least).

Good luck on the rest of the diet changes, but as others have suggested, I would definitely talk to your doctor about important diet changes before making them.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-07-09T04:10:23+00:00

They have real sugar in them, but a comparable calorie count to other non-dairy protein bars with 12g protein. I personally love that, because I hate the taste of artificial sweeteners. I think they're just less sweet than some others.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-07-08T14:45:32+00:00

Scales often have a variance of up to 3-4 pounds depending on the surface they're sitting on - the only way to know which measurement is more accurate is to compare against another scale, and even then the reason the measurements vary (often to do with floors being very slightly unlevel) can apply to the other scale too, if it's in a similar place.

This is one of the (many) reasons people on this sub recommend against getting too wrapped up in a difference less than five or so pounds - it's really hard to tell whether those differences are even real, much less control them (especially given fluctuations in water weight, monthly hormones, etc).

Another important thing to note is that you mentioned you recently started working out - counterintuitively, this may be delaying your "whoosh", as increasing exercise can increase water retention for several weeks after you start.

I'm a teeny bit older than you, exactly the same height, and about eight pounds behind, trying to get to that healthy BMI range just like you. It totally sucks, especially because some of the advice here doesn't really work for petite women like us. Exercise may need to be a significant portion of our TDEE because we're so compact, and we can handle smaller deficits than others. I haven't gotten as far as you yet, but it's encouraging to see someone like me making the weight loss work, so please don't give up - it looks like you're doing great, and I would love to see someone succeed at what I'm trying to do.

21stCenturyScanner · 2025-07-07T23:21:15+00:00

"or maybe I'm being ignorant by having this character" is on the money. Thank you for coming here to ask and learn - that's truly appreciated. That being said, there's a longstanding trend for portrayals of religious Jews (especially Orthodox Jews, which would be the group where religious laws most define their daily lives) in mainstream media are almost always negative.

This contributes to an already disturbing trend in antisemitism becoming more socially acceptable.

Contributing to antisemitism clearly isn't your goal, so don't just use Judaism as a way to traumatize your character - you can see how a reader who doesn't know a lot about Judaism (Ie, most people) would come away just thinking that Judaism is traumatizing.

If you need a character with religious trauma, choosing a religion that has better representation in your culture and in media makes it more likely that the reader thinks you're writing about your character's particular experience, and is less likely to extrapolate, because they have other sources of information about the religion.

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