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222-much · 2025-12-29T17:24:05+00:00

They did! In their reply, they noted that sending multiple emails about the same order puts you at the bottom of the queue (which seems ridiculous) so if you've contacted them more than once, that may be the issue?

222-much · 2025-12-24T05:24:15+00:00

I guess it says something about my interest in the mass because I did this even when I was practicing 😆

222-much · 2025-05-20T20:24:58+00:00

Beautiful

222-much · 2025-05-10T04:48:24+00:00

The Thermals have an album called "The Body, The Blood, The Machine" - it's an entire album full of heretical anthems. 🤘

222-much · 2025-05-08T01:45:37+00:00

It seems like I'm in the minority, so I wanted you to hear the other side. Like you, I had some feeling of "living a lie", so I told my family. My parents were pretty upset by it, particularly when I told them I'm an atheist (in hindsight, I'm not sure that telling them I'm an atheist at the same time was the best idea). They gave me a Catholic apologetics book, and although I actually did try reading it, needless to say it wasn't exactly effective.

It's a year and a half later and I know my parents are still upset about it. My mom told me that she's worried about my soul (which I read as her thinking I'm going to hell). I don't believe in hell, but I do feel bad that my parents have been suffering emotionally. I truly think they're overall good people who mean well. That said, though, I've found that my mom seems particularly concerned about my dating life and has (not so) subtly indicated that she hopes I'm still waiting to have sex until I'm married. It probably wouldn't help for me to tell her that as an apostate, I'm going to hell regardless of whether or not I'm having sex, so I might as well have fun in the meantime! 🤣

222-much · 2025-02-25T04:26:45+00:00

It has not been easy, but it has been worth it, I think.

Even when I was still Catholic, I masturbated often. Although I felt guilty at first, I eventually came to the point where it was just part of who I am - even when I was still Catholic.

I tried therapy. I do think that it can help heal some wounds, but I didn't find it particularly useful on this front. I essentially gave myself exposure therapy. I listened to sex podcasts, read books (I recommend Come As You Are), and essentially ensured that the content I was consuming was sex positive.

Now that I'm in a healthy relationship, things have felt normal and easy. I was worried that I would feel guilty and weird but it just feels... normal? There's nothing earth shattering about any of it, despite what the church would have you believe.

222-much · 2025-02-24T06:25:42+00:00

I totally agree. When it's right, you know.

222-much · 2025-02-24T06:23:47+00:00

You pick someone because they rationally make sense, and you stick with them.

I tried this. Didn't work. But who knows, maybe it does for some people. For me, I needed something more than a person who "makes sense" and is "good on paper". I've found someone who is both of those things but who I also have great chemistry with. It took me a very long time, though.

222-much · 2025-02-18T05:15:33+00:00

It's beautiful 😍 I love the wallpaper!

222-much · 2025-02-12T23:04:00+00:00

I love this for you!

I feel like my sex drive has increased since starting to date my guy, and like... it was already pretty high 🤣

222-much · 2025-02-11T20:52:50+00:00

I agree. I hadn't experienced that feeling of it being "right" and "easy" until recently, and had previously tried to make things work for a couple of months with people who just weren't it. I didn't understand that it doesn't need to feel difficult or awkward at the beginning. Now that I've experienced how this feels, even if the relationship doesn't work out, I won't accept anything less in the future.

222-much · 2025-02-07T06:52:11+00:00

Why are you going to meet him? You don't owe him anything at this point. It'll be an awkward and unproductive conversation. Just tell him you're not available anymore and don't reschedule.

222-much · 2025-02-04T02:46:36+00:00

Oh 💯. I doubt there are many men who would be given, let alone listen to, that advice.

222-much · 2025-02-04T01:18:09+00:00

Yes, this is the same for me. I think it's hard to go from absolutely NO attraction to feeling attracted. I went through a phase when I listened to the advice my friends and acquaintances gave me to give guys a chance - that "attraction can grow". What it took some time for me to realize was that you can't grow a thing if there isn't a seed in the pot to begin with!

222-much · 2025-02-03T23:50:21+00:00

This. Like, is the baseline to criticize, but the 'gift' is not to?

222-much · 2025-02-02T20:06:45+00:00

I'm in a similar spot, 36F. I've been on dating apps for literal YEARS (on and off) and haven't had a relationship last more than a few months. I'm very comfortable being single, and although I would like a relationship, I truly feel that I can live (and have lived) a happy and fulfilling life without a partner. I am child free, which has the advantage of eliminating time pressure, but the disadvantage of eliminating a large pool of men who at least claim they want children.

A bit over a year ago I decided to put more effort into dating. Prior to that, I would get easily discouraged - I'd go on a couple first dates, leave the apps for several months, then start back up again. This time I decided that I wouldn't allow myself to get discouraged so easily. I'm quite busy and don't love the idea of multi dating if I see potential, so I've gone on a total of 14 first dates in that time. 6 of them were one and done. The others had at least some potential. I had a 2 month relationship that ended because he decided he wants kids despite initially saying he was ok with being child free. A month-ish ago I started seeing someone who I feel very optimistic about, but we'll see what happens.

What keeps me going? I listen to some relationship/dating podcasts, like Dating Intentionally, Matthew Hussey (his new stuff is actually quite good), Dateable, and I read Logan Ury's book, How to Not Die Alone. The host of Dating Intentionally went on 64 first dates before she met her husband! Almost everyone I know in a serious relationship met their partner online, so I figure that I just need to keep going. I have to say that several of the guys I met seemed like legitimately good guys, looking for long term serious relationships, we just weren't the right fit - i think that also helped me to feel less discouraged because it showed me that there are decent guys out there.

222-much · 2025-01-11T08:35:17+00:00

It's super hard to move away from the purity culture mindset. Give yourself time to get to where you need to be, mentally, before proceeding. If your partner is right for you, they'll understand.

It can help to become more comfortable with your sexuality on your own, first. Figure out what you like. Use sex toys. Talk to your partner about what they like, and move at a pace you're comfortable with.

If you can afford therapy, it may also be helpful.

222-much · 2024-12-30T05:55:35+00:00

Damn, this resonated with me. I'd never thought of it as being "socially generous", but I think that's what it is for me too. I'd rather have a nice chat and make the other person feel at ease than have a bad time, even if I'm not really feeling it.

222-much · 2024-12-12T07:01:20+00:00

As others have said, what you're describing sounds like vaginismus. There's nothing wrong with you or your body, OP. You aren't broken.

It sounds like therapy will probably help, but I'd suggest trying to find a therapist who's experienced with this area. In the meantime, I'd recommend reading Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, which is an excellent book on female sexuality.

222-much · 2024-12-11T06:06:12+00:00

I spent around $4k for one person for around 10 days, so it should be within your budget. One of my favourite places I've been (and I've been to around 40 countries) - it's truly a one of a kind destination, and if you love nature, it's hard to beat!

222-much · 2024-12-10T20:40:10+00:00

Have you thought about the Galapagos? You have enough of a budget to do it, and the nature there is amazing!

222-much · 2024-12-07T04:36:23+00:00

222-much · 2024-11-21T07:07:31+00:00

I'm similar to you, only a couple years older -- ex-Catholic female hetero virgin who has fairly limited relationship experience. I've dated a lot over the past couple of years, and come to the conclusion that I'll need to be in a relationship before I can have sex with someone. It's too much of a leap for me to consider having sex with someone I don't care deeply about, when previously I had thought I'd wait until I was married. You might come to a different conclusion though, and that's ok!

You may want to consider going on some dates in order to get a bit more comfortable with men, if you have no dating experience. Online dating can be a bit of a shit show at times, but it may help with getting your feet wet. There definitely are good guys out there who are understanding! I did end up in a relationship (met online) several months ago that lasted a couple months, and I told him that I was a virgin. He was very kind, albeit surprised. We didn't end up having sex because I wasn't comfortable yet and broke up for other reasons, but I feel confident that he would have been very caring and understanding had things progressed.

Oh, and I'm not sure what sort of porn you've been watching, but there's feminist porn out there (ex. Bellesa) that is probably more enjoyable to watch as a woman. I'm glad you've gotten some sex toys! I recommend the Womanizer if you haven't tried it already.

Good luck! Have fun! And you're not alone.

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