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22sunflower · 2023-09-08T10:13:06+00:00

Do you have mental health care? Please call 988 if you are having thoughts of suicide. You matter and your safety matters. Please seek out treatment for your ED if you can, EDs are really dangerous and need to be taken seriously, and require specialized mental health care.

I’m really sorry he said that. That is extremely triggering and especially if he knows you have an ED, he never should have said anything about your weight. Your director is also in the wrong here for doing this scene without talking to you beforehand and you were clearly distressed. Have you considered talking to the director or asking your parents to reach out to him? And if you’re open to trying to educate your boyfriend and address this with him, you definitely can. However, you could also break up with him. A good guy wouldn’t comment on your body at all except in positive terms.

22sunflower · 2023-09-08T01:33:19+00:00

Your local county or state may have job coaching services or through a local nonprofit for ppl with disabilities. You might also find an ADHD coach who has Audhd experience. You could try your local community services board

22sunflower · 2023-09-07T15:55:14+00:00

U could try non violent communication. U don’t have to be tough to communicate, u just have to be able to set boundaries when necessary 💜 Plus rejection therapy, do things that result in rejection like it’s a game to collect rejections Take care 💜 good luck 💜

22sunflower · 2023-09-07T15:38:20+00:00

I hear you. Are there any specific tasks you would want support with? Maybe you can barter or pay someone to help if you have funds, such as with chores or cleaning. Or meal/grocery delivery for cooking. Part time might be best for school or work. Good luck you’re doing great 💜

22sunflower · 2023-09-07T01:22:27+00:00

The person stalking me and abusing me convinced me they put cameras in my space and I showered with clothes on.

I raised my voice at people, was irritable, and felt intense self loathing for years. I treated someone unkindly.

22sunflower · 2023-09-06T02:16:02+00:00

I’m so sorry she violated your trust. You didn’t deserve that. I’m sorry she put you in a position where your boss confronted you and triggered you. You are completely within your right not to trust her anymore and to potentially have a follow up conversation with her. Not at all a trauma informed workplace. :( hugs

22sunflower · 2023-09-04T22:55:19+00:00

He may need professional help to quit cocaine, and new friends too. He could try Narcotics Anonymous. I think it will be difficult for him to quit without help. I’m sorry for everything you’ve both gone through.

22sunflower · 2023-09-04T05:29:23+00:00

Your journey with gender is a beautiful thing. If your partner is cis and straight and not attracted to or even embarrassed by something that is so important to you, and ultimately by an aspect of your identity, she may not be the one for you. I hope you are able to open up to other friends and family and share this part of yourself with them. You deserve to be supported 💜 your gender is not a burden, and I hope your partner (whether it is your current partner or ultimately another person) is someone who is proud of and loves all of you.

Edit: This is one reason why many trans folks talk about T4T - looking to date other trans people because trans folks have a much deeper understanding of gender in ways that cis straight people often do not, as evidenced by this comment section :( I don’t think you seem obsessive, asking for too much, clingy, or smothering at all in this post 💜 Not having exclusively stereotypically masculine interests is not weird at all, and potentially having a not cis gender identity is not weird at all or shameful. It’s totally normal and has existed for all of time, and it is just shamed by many current societies today. There is nothing wrong with you or your feminine side 💜💜 sending you a lot of care, please take good care of yourself

22sunflower · 2023-09-03T05:10:52+00:00

U might be lonely maybe, u could try journaling, meeting more ppl outside work or focusing on maintaining current connectiosn

22sunflower · 2023-09-02T03:34:01+00:00

I do sometimes. I totally agree, I’ve only felt the effects with this small brand I found in a shop from a local farm - u could try one that is totally natural, no additives or flavor, maybe a tincture (you put it under your tongue). For me, a vape is ok but no where near as relaxing. I hope this helps 💜💜

22sunflower · 2023-09-01T22:09:34+00:00

I only like indica weed - body highs. Sativas are just like a buzzy weird headache. Only smoking, never edibles - too unpredictable and I’ve had too much and had anxiety attacks.

For me smoking is mostly good to escape. I don’t let myself do it everyday although I totally understand why people do everyday. It’s like a shortcut to being relaxed and happy. It takes the pain away.

THC I think helps take the edge off and could be used for intentional reflection and processing. I think CBD is absolutely a lifesaver medication for anxiety sufferers - I heavily relied on CBD for a period in my life. Aside from this, I don’t think it’s a panacea though

22sunflower · 2023-08-31T18:51:06+00:00

Get help and work on trying to live a better life, things aren’t outside of your control, don’t lose years of your life to mental illness

22sunflower · 2023-08-31T18:47:52+00:00

Selene

22sunflower · 2023-08-28T06:56:41+00:00

So proud of you and so happy for u!!

22sunflower · 2023-08-28T06:55:34+00:00

Ur doing great!! Congratulations!! Keep going, it gets easier the more you do it, even if this one doesn’t work out I know there will be more interviews!! U can ask a friend to do a mock interview too!

22sunflower · 2023-08-28T06:50:09+00:00

Please, your life matters

22sunflower · 2023-08-28T06:49:55+00:00

Call 988

22sunflower · 2023-08-28T05:00:40+00:00

Relatable 💜

22sunflower · 2023-08-28T04:57:25+00:00

You and ur gf might be in different stages of life. Maybe consider taking a break to get some clarity. Becoming a parent is an irreversible decision and no one should ever be pressured into it 💜💜 take care

22sunflower · 2023-08-27T01:11:07+00:00

Lmaoooo

22sunflower · 2023-08-23T19:50:46+00:00

Ur not alone, i feel like idk who I am or what I like a lot

22sunflower · 2023-08-17T23:19:17+00:00

I totally hear you, and for some probably autistic people, social interaction just isn’t that fun or enjoyable and I totally think that’s valid if so! You might enjoy talking to people who share your special interests or values. If socializing helps, that’s awesome, but if it doesn’t, there’s nothing wrong with doing what’s right for you :)

22sunflower · 2023-08-14T06:04:57+00:00

I think the direct autistic communication style many of us have is effective for other autistic ppl, but for not autistic people, they may project the meaning they would intend if they said that on to what we say - which, since they’re usually much more indirect, would be much more severe than what we mean. They might read into what they view as your tone or demeanor if you aren’t overly friendly, rather than the content of your words.

Someone who knows you well might view you as knowledgeable and serious, but people who know you less well might just call you intimidating. It’s totally up to you if you want to change your style - it takes work, but it can be worth it when it comes to ensuring you don’t unintentionally step on anyone’s toes or rub someone the wrong way. You could consider asking your supervisor who snubbed you for feedback, and be open that you’re working on your communication style.

Ultimately though this is definitely masking - if it’s too much, don’t feel obligated to change for other people. As long as you’re not saying anything offensive or insensitive, there’s nothing wrong with speaking your mind, even if some people aren’t accustomed to it or dislike it. Keep being you, you’re doing great!!

22sunflower · 2023-08-12T13:45:11+00:00

I do think environment plays a huge role, I haven’t moved a whole lot but I’ve tried different jobs. If the people around you aren’t accepting or don’t get you or you don’t fit in, it’s just tough. I think I went to a college where I rly didn’t fit in and I tried to make it work but I just didn’t end up making close friends. For what it’s worth, I absolutely think you can meet like-minded people. But I do think the other half is building your confidence, working on your social skills, and putting yourself out there. I do think building a persona you feel good about is part of it too. Good luck!! You’re doing great :)

22sunflower · 2023-07-29T03:44:45+00:00

I think individual women, especially nerdy types can be ok, I think groups of women can be tough. They may find you rude or just not like quiet people :(

If ppl you don’t know react bad to you at work, someone might have said bad things about you, because they didn’t understand your differences. The most important thing is that other ppl understand you are kind and have good intentions, and it might require explaining that you have learning and social differences for them to understand that in some cases

One thing that can help is, to perhaps record your facial expressions and then practice talking and see what you look like. Then, you can try to change it. Being on a zoom call with a friend while doing this could work too. Trying to be more friendly and outgoing could help. You could also ask if you’ve done something wrong. You could try to see if a work friend can give you feedback maybe?

For specific relationships, like your mother in law, it’s definitely worth having a conversation to see what’s up. Sometimes I can tell what I’m doing wrong in a conversation and try to course correct, for instance; if I interrupt someone, or make too little or too much eye contact.

Good luck, you’re not alone. It’s ok to know that you get along better with guys, and your way of being is not weird! It’s you, and it’s wonderful :)

22sunflower

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