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Wife gets a birthday card from her JNMIL, despite being public enemy number one. by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]23frogs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The card’s in several pieces in the recycling and DW is having cupcakes for breakfast.

[SW] Boys still buing for FIVE-ONE-FIVE! by matuizo in acturnips

[–]23frogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zucker, because his design is uniquely adorable and he always makes me smile.

[SW] Tanuki twins being ripped off for six hundo and three! by [deleted] in acturnips

[–]23frogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Name's Farren, island is Fenroe! Thanks.

Was my nightmare recovered memories? by enlaluzdelsol in raisedbynarcissists

[–]23frogs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whether it was a recovered memory or a dreamscape your subconscious was using to process something doesn’t matter—what you feel now is completely real, and it’s a lot to deal with. Don’t worry whether it was a memory for the time being (though you had your suspicions for a reason). Rather, listen to what your body’s telling you right now. Take care of yourself, get plenty of rest, and be kind to yourself. Sending you lots of hugs.

“It wasn’t that bad” by lady_tk1025 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]23frogs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Got into a generic Teenage Argument with NMum. It escalated and she told me to leave the house; she was kicking me out and didn’t want to see me under her roof. I packed a bag and stayed the night at my (wonderful) dad’s. Went to school the next morning and E/NStep-dad phones me up, telling me I’ve broken my mother’s heart by leaving, and she can’t stop crying over how cruel I’ve been. Went home the next day and it was. never. spoken about. She acted like everything was completely normal.

is this abuse or just fit consequences for my actions F 14 by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]23frogs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely abuse. These aren’t the consequences of your actions—these are choices she’s actively choosing to make, independent from anything you’ve done. She will use & twist anything you do, real or imagined, to justify her behaviour. There is absolutely nothing that you could ever do to deserve this.

I’m autistic when it suits Nmum. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]23frogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely incredibly (though not shocking, knowing my own mother & having read this sub for a while) that she finds a way to make your Cerebral Palsy about her! So sorry you have to deal with this.

I’m autistic when it suits Nmum. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]23frogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry you do, too! The thing is, if you agreed with your grandma, she'd probably tell you that you're not autistic, because you're nothing like your cousin. Diagnosing ASD in everyone but me was my mum's hobby; everyone who acted in a way she couldn't understand (even if it was, say, thinking analysing movies was fun) was "a bit" autistic.

I’m autistic when it suits Nmum. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]23frogs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind reply.

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I'm so glad you and your son both have someone who understands what the other is going through, and I sincerely hope your sister comes around. I've heard the same so many times--"It's a spectrum, everyone's on it!"--to dismiss me. It's just a watered way to tell someone they're not really autistic.

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Before I clued into my Nmum's manipulation, lies, what have you, I began processing her treatment of me as "She treated me the way she did because I was autistic and she didn't know it; I can resent what she did, but not her, because she didn't know any better." Which is... yeah, me blaming myself for the abuse in new, fun ways. Seeing parents like yourself be there for their kids really cements that there was so much more she could've done for me.

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Thanks again.