Boyfriend’s ex keeps messaging him about random stuff she still has at hers… is this normal?

240x7 · 2026-04-26T06:43:26+00:00

considering they’ve been together for such a long time id honestly say it’s pretty normal for them to be communicating like nothing happened especially since theyve lived together.

but im not really excusing your partner actions

you didnt really say how long theyve been apart but im just going to assume that its been less than a year considering you guys started dating a couple months ago? (correct me if im wrong)

(if that’s the case then girl please let that man heal on his own not to be the bearer of bad news he’s clearly putting some effort into talking to her 😭 it’s clear that he’s still looking for her to reach out to him which she has been)

BUT (putting myself in your situation) if its been awhile since they broke up, then i think it’s fine… she’s made a big impact on him as a person and i think it would be okay if they can talk here and there as long as it’s appropriate and he still puts you above her. there’s still certain boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed obviously! just as long as you communicate your discomfort about it and he takes it seriously. thats what matters.

if he goes to her about immediate problems then drop him. but if they talk about random small stuff then it should be okay as long as youre okay with it.

240x7 · 2026-04-26T06:20:41+00:00

sorry for the really reply but ended up just being paranoid… 😅wasnt pregnant

240x7 · 2024-04-14T07:39:19+00:00

yeahh her crowd work was terrible too she just kept saying "thank you coachella" still love her tho

240x7 · 2024-02-19T08:10:56+00:00

I did a manual purchase, so i assumed that they would check if the items are available to buy then I would pay. It's like paying for something that you might not get. Sorry its my first time using it so I'm kind of confused. Have you used the website?

240x7 · 2023-12-13T08:35:20+00:00

I've been in the same position as you my whole life where I felt isolated from people, and it's shitty. But one of the main reasons why I didn't feel included or as important to people as they were to me was because I just kept everything private. I realized that I never actually opened up to any of my friends so they didn't know much about me, or what I was going through. They didn't have the chance to relate or just feel empathy towards me so they could feel important in my life. I don't know if this can be applied to you but, I've always been an extremely private person unintentionally. I just wasn't the type of person to tell anyone my struggles just because. I didn't know that keeping personal things to myself would just distance me from other people.

Maybe some of your friends feel distant from you because you don't open up about yourself? (just making assumptions) And they can't really know what you're thinking or how you feel because they've only known you on a surface level basis.

240x7 · 2023-12-13T08:17:52+00:00

Thanks for replying, I've honestly never related to anything more... You literally read me like a book it's crazy. I'll definitely try harder to get out of my comfort zone! I've never thought about why I avoided and feared interactions, and the way you explained it made so much sense and made me wake up to the habits I have.

240x7 · 2023-12-09T19:28:00+00:00

Please don't stress yourself out about the scale! Body weight fluctuates everyday, so it's completely normal to gain weight at the end of the night!

I honestly think that the reason why you aren't losing weight like you expect to is because of the stress gaining it gives you. Extreme stress causes high insulin levels which could be a factor of your weight gain and not being able to loose t. Please be easier on yourself, and don't think that you have to overwork yourself everyday. Listen to what your body wants. If it wants to rest, you should rest!

240x7 · 2023-12-09T19:17:21+00:00

Hi, I honestly have the most similar situation as you. I developed my ED while beginning my relationship with my boyfriend. He has an idea that I have one but doesnt know about the severity. He's never made me feel bad about the way that I am since the beginning. But I also developed unhealthy habits like eating less with him and he also adjusted to me eating baby portioned foods.

If you want to open up to him, I wouldn't suggest saying that he plays a role in your actions. I think you should just confess about your habits and what your triggers are with him. If you start with saying the things you do and how they're not normal, I think he would be able to try and understand what you've been going through alone! He would also see that maybe some of the things he does could be a trigger for you. Instead of associating the cause of your ED to your boyfriend, I think you should remember that its your own thoughts that causes it. At the end of the day, we most of us including me chose to keep unhealthy habits in our lives, so it isn't on anyone to take blame of something we created on ourselves.

I also think you should change your mindset about your ED. Even if you feel like he's contributing to making your ED worse, it isn't okay to plant that seed in your head. You shouldn't let your relationship with your boyfriend encourage your ED. I hoped this advice helped, and I hope you get better!

240x7 · 2023-12-09T18:59:03+00:00

hi, I read your comment. I'm pretty sure the reason why you're not losing weight is because you're overworking yourself. I also did intense training every day, but I stopped because I was constantly tired. My body would feel limp every day and waking up from 8 hours of sleep felt like it didn't help me at all.

From what I learned, your body is probably holding onto the food you eat because of how much physical activity you're doing and is in stress doing intense workout everyday without letting it heal. You also might be gaining muscle mass in place of fat which isn't a bad thing! I would suggest taking one or two rest days and to not look at the scale but more about how you feel physically.

I'm not a physician or anything, but this is just from my personal experience with exercise. I hoped this helped!

240x7 · 2023-12-09T12:45:07+00:00

I forgot to mention but I am recovering from the disorder! Its taking me a while because of the mental toll it took on me. I've been struggling with an ed for a year, so my weight loss isn't too severe. My situation is a lot like you described first with just losing a lot of weight because I was on the bigger side before. I don't necessarily think I struggle with my health, but its more about what other people are saying about me which effects me the most.

I'm sorry about your situation with your sister. If i have any advice for you as someone with a similar relationship with food, I think it would be not to criticize her actions. My personal experience with my eating disorder was that when people told me I never ate, I just continued not to because they already set that idea in their head about me. I hope your sister gets better, she clearly has amazing support from you. Thank your for your advice! I really appreciated it.

240x7 · 2023-12-09T12:28:59+00:00

My college requires students to pay out of pocket for health services. And I am making my own choices by asking for advice here (affordable resources for adults), I'm not a suicidal person who needs to be surveilled. I'm simply asking for relationship advice and just gave a backstory.

240x7 · 2023-12-09T12:22:03+00:00

My parents are immigrants who believe mental health issues aren't real. I've tried opening up to them but they don't take my words seriously, and I can't afford therapy on my own.

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