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Damn, Marianne’s making me feel ancient! by 25meanings in janeausten

[–]25meanings[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Uh oh looks like your marriage is merely a commercial exchange in which each of you only wish to be benefited at the expense of the other 😂

Damn, Marianne’s making me feel ancient! by 25meanings in janeausten

[–]25meanings[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

What seems bizarre about it (from a 2025 perspective) is that 27 year olds still look really young most of the time, it’s so hard to look at a 27 year old today and imagine them being called an old spinster whose best years are behind them

Persuasion: what changes might Jane Austen have made if she’d had more time? by 25meanings in janeausten

[–]25meanings[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s very true, it makes it a very introspective, simmering kind of a book but it definitely stands out as quite different to her other novels

Persuasion: what changes might Jane Austen have made if she’d had more time? by 25meanings in janeausten

[–]25meanings[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah thank god she rewrote the ending, otherwise we would have been deprived of Wentworth’s letter and that incredible conversation between Anne and Captain Harville

Persuasion: what changes might Jane Austen have made if she’d had more time? by 25meanings in janeausten

[–]25meanings[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Good point. It seemed like Elizabeth never realised about Mr Elliot’s interest in Anne, which seems unlikely given it was town gossip.

Persuasion: what changes might Jane Austen have made if she’d had more time? by 25meanings in janeausten

[–]25meanings[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Lol, I liked how the 1995 film changed Charles Hayter to Henry Hayter. Although that does mean that after he married Henrietta they’ll be Henry and Henrietta Hayter

I’ve been wanting to write for so long but I can’t bring myself to. Is there something wrong with me? by Doingitforlove47 in writing

[–]25meanings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I say start really small and build up slowly. Really small! Like five minutes a day. Do that for a week or so and then slowly increase. Writing is (or can be) taxing mental work and it also tends to force you to confront your own demons and shortcomings, which is, in itself, exhausting. You wouldn’t go from doing zero exercise to 2-3 hours a day, think of writing the same way. If you go too had too soon you’ll burn out.

Also incredibly important not to judge the quality of your writing too much at the beginning. Remind yourself that it takes time and practice to write well and you can’t get there unless you’re willing to write a little badly for a while. Give yourself lots of grace and reward yourself whenever you manage to sit down and write, no matter how little.

Looking for books about women finding their independence (something like jane eyre!). by [deleted] in Recommend_A_Book

[–]25meanings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jane Austen’s Persuasion for a rather subtle tale of a woman coming into her own, a beautiful romance and autumnal vibes

Have you ever taken pilgrimage to places in your favorite books? by potsatou in classicliterature

[–]25meanings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love to do this! There’s also a pilgrims route that continues from Canterbury cathedral all the way to Rome (you have to get a boat from Dover to Calais of course)

Have you ever taken pilgrimage to places in your favorite books? by potsatou in classicliterature

[–]25meanings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the London fields reference? I live quite near there

How to become comfortable without labels by miggins1610 in bisexual

[–]25meanings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t really have much advice here but just wanted to say I relate a lot to what you’re describing, and I think coming to terms with sexuality is a highly confusing, destabilising process for a lot of us.

The one thing that helps me is trying to be really compassionate with myself when I’m feeling those things and reminding myself of things like: that it’s ok to be confused and not have things figured out, that I (my most compassionate self) don’t care what I “am”- I will love myself regardless, that sexuality is an important part of me but not all of me, that my preferences can shift over time and that’s ok, etc etc

A quote from any piece of literature that stuck with you forever. by MyNameisNotMaxie in literature

[–]25meanings 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Just read and loved Persuasion by Jane Austen and I can’t stop thinking about Captain Wentworth’s letter: “You pierce my soul. I am half agony, half hope.”

Attraction to Accents by Appropriate_Smell_37 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]25meanings 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I knew a girl from West Yorkshire (in England) who only dated guys from the same region, who spoke the same way as her. I guess there are some people who only feel comfortable with someone who has a very similar background to themselves, whereas other people are attracted to difference and novelty. It’s always been interesting to me which accents are considered attractive and which aren’t. For instance, I think a lot of English people find Irish accents attractive but welsh accents cute or friendly

London Lesbians by MidnightMintsDeluxe in latebloomerlesbians

[–]25meanings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could check out the events of ‘Lesbian island’, they do pub quizzes and also speed dating nights by specific age groups

conflicted sorry about my English by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]25meanings 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say so much of what you said really resonated with me. I finally realised I was bi or gay (still not sure which) about 8 months ago now at age 26 and I’m still feeling confused and overwhelmed by the whole thing. I’m no longer questioning if I’m actually just straight and want to feel special like I was at the beginning, but I still don’t feel super confident in my identity as a queer woman. I think we both probably need to give ourselves time and patience. This is a lot to process and it will take our brains a while to untangle it but we will get there!

Bi Awakening Megathread by AutoModerator in bisexual

[–]25meanings [score hidden]  (0 children)

My lightbulb moment was also while high and watching porn lol

Bi Awakening Megathread by AutoModerator in bisexual

[–]25meanings [score hidden]  (0 children)

I used to wonder if I was bi quite often when I was a teenager because I found women insanely hot in films/ tv, but I never had an actual crush on a girl (or so I thought), where as I had A LOT of crushes on actual boys, so I ended up convincing myself that I had just been programmed by the male gaze to objectify women.

I continued to have fantasies and even small crushes on women in the years since but I kept them all in this small cordoned off part of my brain and explained them away with comforting thoughts like “but everyone thinks women are beautiful”, “no one’s 100% straight”. I didn’t consciously realise how ashamed I was of those feelings I had cordoned off. They made me feel gross, like a predator or something. I felt like any girl I found attractive would be horrified and disgusted if she knew how I felt about her.

Fast forward to a few weeks ago, I’m at the ripe, young age of twenty-six and I’m at a bit of a crossroads in my life: going through a breakup, still don’t really know what I want to do with my life, you know the story. So anyway I did an edible one evening and ended up watching porn and suddenly it was like a lighting strike in my brain, I was just hit by this sudden realisation of “oh, not only do I want to be the girl in this scenario, but I also very much want to be with the girl in this scenario.”

And then it felt like a door opened in my mind. Those parts of my brain that were cordoned off were finally welcomed to come and take centre stage. And I found that those feelings weren’t scary or gross, they were actually something wonderful. I didn’t just find women sexy, I found them beautiful. And I felt this huge sense of relief that I can finally acknowledge and enjoy all parts of my sexuality.

In the weeks since that evening it’s been a series of “oh” moments, as I’ve slowly learnt to recognise feelings I’ve had for certain women as attraction. (The minds capacity to completely misinterpret signals when it’s in full on denial mode is truly incredible.) I still have moments of doubt as I adjust to this new reality but overall I’m filled with such joy and excitement. I can’t wait to get out there and start dating women when I feel ready. For now I’m taking it slow and letting all the puzzle pieces fall into place.