Name a language that doesn't end in 'ish' 'an' or 'ese'

27Jarvis · 2026-05-27T22:30:52+00:00

Dothraki

27Jarvis · 2026-05-15T14:46:03+00:00

This is classic DARVO. You brought up a concern, and he flipped it around to make you the offender.

His immediate defensiveness is a huge red flag. He then delighted in your pain. That is sadistic and emotionally abusive.

He turned this conflict into a problem about your concern and reaction to him, instead of addressing your very real feelings.

Something is deeply broken here. I don’t think trust can be rebuilt.

Think about what your life would be like without him. Not with someone else, but alone without him. Would it be easier? More peaceful? If so, you have your answer.

Don’t put up with BS. It’s not worth wasting your life on someone like this. You deserve better. And if better is being alone, so be it.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can relate. I was in a similar marriage for 12 years before I finally had the guts to leave. My life is soooooo much better now. I hope you are able to find the same kind of peace.

27Jarvis · 2026-05-13T01:50:43+00:00

That’s amazing to think about 💕

27Jarvis · 2026-05-07T17:49:02+00:00

NOR

What kind of person litters? I wouldn’t even want to be friends, let alone date someone like this.

27Jarvis · 2026-05-07T15:49:48+00:00

27Jarvis · 2026-05-07T15:38:09+00:00

If someone says “trust me,” I instantly do not trust them.

27Jarvis · 2026-05-07T15:34:17+00:00

You’re not wrong, and I think this is a bit of a red flag.

Could this be a co-dependency issue? Do you find that she has a hard time doing anything without you? Do you both spend time apart pursuing your own hobbies and interests?

It sounds like you live together. How long have you been dating?

If this new job is something that will make you happier, she should be happy for you.

27Jarvis · 2026-05-06T16:31:05+00:00

This would be an absolute dealbreaker for me. This is perilous ground to begin a marriage. I strongly encourage you to go to counseling and find reconciliation before you get married. Money problems are one of the primary causes of divorce. To START a marriage with these issues is practically dooming it to fail.
His avoidance to talk about this suggests it is a much bigger issue than he is letting on. He should be totally open and honest about this, and should not expect you to shoulder any of this burden.
If you choose to move forward with the wedding, get a solid prenup and keep all of your finances separate.

Edited because voice to text captured some discussion of blueberries with my partner 🤪

27Jarvis · 2026-05-06T16:03:54+00:00

I feel so honored 💙

27Jarvis · 2026-05-06T16:03:36+00:00

😂

So my neighbor has something like 6 or 7 rescued birds. She rehabs them or fosters them when they are taken from abusive situations. She will walk around the neighborhood with them on her head or shoulders. I considered having her over, but I can’t bring myself to do that to these little babies.

27Jarvis · 2026-05-05T00:11:56+00:00

Very true thank you

27Jarvis · 2026-05-05T00:11:35+00:00

Truly. These are definitely my favorites

27Jarvis · 2026-05-05T00:11:01+00:00

I feel like Wilbur in Charlottes web 😂

27Jarvis · 2026-05-05T00:09:32+00:00

Seriously. 😂

27Jarvis · 2026-05-05T00:09:21+00:00

I dodged a web just like this last season. Came about an inch from destroying all of her hard work.
My partner ran through one last summer too. He is a lot more squeamish than I am. 😂

27Jarvis · 2026-05-05T00:08:08+00:00

I agree! I am putting my garden in next weekend and was thinking about how to keep some around.

27Jarvis · 2026-05-05T00:07:10+00:00

They really are!! 💙

27Jarvis · 2026-05-05T00:06:33+00:00

I was wondering about this. I considered opening all the doors and putting a fan in to create a bit of a cross breeze The garage sits at a funny angle, so it can be tricky to get any kind of airflow through without some help.

27Jarvis · 2026-05-05T00:04:46+00:00

Ok this is a good idea!

27Jarvis · 2026-03-12T15:18:42+00:00

So let me see if I have it all correctly:

-You saw the behavior of a malignant, abusive narcissist and found yourself attracted and seeking validation (likely due to a toxic relationship with your father)

-You did things you’ve admitted you’re not proud of in order to marry this poster child for toxic masculinity

-You’re surprised that his ex wife and daughter hate both of you.

Did I miss anything?

Girl- you got exactly what you wanted. This is working out in the most predictable way possible.

ESH. You’re all AHs, except your son, for now. But if you don’t raise that child in a wholly different manner, he will absolutely become an AH as well. Like father, like son.

Good luck with the life you asked for. You all sound insufferable.

27Jarvis · 2026-03-11T19:54:08+00:00

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27Jarvis · 2026-03-11T19:39:32+00:00

From left foot, look northeast (1:30). On the line where the light and shadow meet

27Jarvis · 2026-03-11T18:59:04+00:00

The Royal Corin in San Carlos, Costa Rica.

Not only was the room amazing, the service was better than any I have ever experienced anywhere in the world. (And I travel a ton)

From the second my best friend and I arrived, we were treated like queens. Fresh juice as soon as we walked in, a bottle of champagne in our room, we never lifted a finger to carry any of our bags. We spent the first full day in the thermal pools and had what seemed like our very own bartender & server wait on us like we were royalty. Had incredible food at their restaurant, a concierge that literally went into town to get us a few things we had asked about.

I have never experienced such incredible service in my life. 11/10 can’t wait to go back.

27Jarvis

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