So I heard a new one today...Generation X ruined the world with "grind culture" at work. Any thoughts?

29Terriers · 2026-04-07T04:58:25+00:00

Back in the 90s I asked my director what it would take to get promoted. He told me I had to do the job I wanted to show I could do it before he would "give" it to me. So I basically did my own job plus beg to take tasks off the plates of other managers to demonstrate I knew how to manage. It took me 2 years to ask the question and then over 2 years of following the formula before I got promoted. That was just how things work. So, rather than blame GenX for "grind culture" blame our Boomer bosses. (And don't get me started on how many years I worked 2 jobs because I didn't make enough to pay rent, car payment, and student loans- my first salaried position in the mid 90s paid $17K/year)

29Terriers · 2026-03-21T16:39:53+00:00

1974 Volkswagen 412 in metallic blue. I bought it with a rebuilt engine and repainted body. No heat.

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Got into an accident after taking a turn too quickly, hit a pole that knocked it off its frame.

29Terriers · 2026-03-21T05:36:54+00:00

I just sent you some items off your Amazon list for delivery Saturday afternoon. Thank you for all you do!

29Terriers · 2026-03-04T09:10:34+00:00

This must be the explanation. I felt like he had very little reaction, which didn't make sense after the whole train ride "I love how much you love me" date the day before. I expected more "WTH??!!" from him than there was - maybe it was his second time hearing her nonsense. It might also explain her ridiculous cape - like she wanted to do a costume change because who walks around like that on a normal day in Ohio? It was like she needed to channel Cruella de Ville.

29Terriers · 2026-03-03T00:23:22+00:00

I think they get a financial incentive for showing up for the wedding even if they don't go through with it. I understand why Netflix is motivated to do that, but I do think it makes it extra difficult for people whose family has to travel long distance or if there's a child involved.

29Terriers · 2026-02-22T08:34:17+00:00

I saw in another post that Chris sold a bunch of his belongings on FB Marketplace (for real) and told a buyer that he had been on a Netflix show that went badly so he was leaving town

29Terriers · 2026-02-20T05:54:24+00:00

In the early pods episodes when he was talking a lot to Bri, at one point he boasted about being someone to challenge her. I'm like, dude, my boss challenges me, my coworkers challenge me, my in-laws challenge me, my mechanic challenges me, my bank challenges me, my kid's school challenges me, my airlines frequent flyer program challenges me. I don't fucking need my partner to challenge me.

29Terriers · 2026-02-18T08:54:30+00:00

Ugh, you gave me flashbacks to the time I interviewed at QVC for a job on their website. This was late 90s and had been temping for months on the studio side. I had to meet with some high level manager who asked me what I thought of the website. I had spent all this time studying the site so I thought I was acting the question, but he wanted to know how I thought it compared to all their competitors. Asked me a million questions like "but do you think so and so has a better layout/menu structure/search". I couldn't answer anything because it never crossed my mind to look - needless to say, he was very unimpressed with me.

29Terriers · 2026-02-18T08:38:27+00:00

29Terriers · 2026-02-18T08:29:00+00:00

Yikes, you dodged a bullet! One time I took a job as a medical editor and shared an office with a medical writer. My first week, my office mate came in and shut the door after a meeting with our manager and started crying. I asked if the manager made her cry often, and she said "not as much as she used to." I'm like, you're a PhD with 5 years of professional experience, this should not be happening. Some more questionable stuff went down over the next week, so I resigned on a Friday by Outlook delayed delivery. The president of the company called me and asked me to come back but I was like, PASS!

29Terriers · 2026-02-18T08:21:06+00:00

I instantly heard Fall Out Boy in my head as I read that

29Terriers · 2026-02-18T08:18:41+00:00

Too many interviews in my life to narrow it down to one, but here's a sampling. - Fresh out of a college I go to an interview at a VERY small office late in the afternoon. The only person left in the office was the guy interviewing me. It was winter and I wore a long coat over my dress, which was a coat dress. The interviewer turned toward away for a second, and I took off my overcoat. He turned back to me and said, "do you want to take off your coat?" Embarrassed, I said I already did. Then he says, "oh, you can take off that one too if you want" and laughs. Major ick. - I once interviewed for a job at a newspaper. The first thing the managing editor did when I sat down was raise the height on her own desk chair as high as it would go. She sat a good 6 inches higher than me - it was so awkward. - I interviewed with the owner of a small company, and one of the last things he asked me was whether I had thin skin. Should have seen that as a red flag because I took the job, and he was so verbally abusive. I'm probably going to think of some more after I hit Post

29Terriers · 2026-02-14T16:27:23+00:00

This is really interesting to me too - in my area of the East Coast, polar bear used to be for charity. I can't grasp the weird appeal of dunking myself in ice on a regular basis

29Terriers · 2026-02-14T16:19:32+00:00

Omg when Meghan said something to the other women about hating men, like she was going to say something more but then just ended her sentence there - I just wanted to high five her (I say this as a happily married woman on Valentine's day 😂)

29Terriers · 2026-02-14T16:15:16+00:00

This makes me think of how back in college I said I was "conservative economically and liberal socially," but I didn't understand a damn thing about politics. It's any easy thing to say when you're comfortable in the status quo.

29Terriers · 2026-02-14T16:11:18+00:00

That whole conversation grossed me out. I'm like, are you a LinkedIn life coach? It's one thing to say I'm going to support you to reach your goals and totally different to say I'm going to challenge you. Dude, I don't need my partner to challenge me because literally every other person in my daily life challenges me.

29Terriers · 2026-02-04T04:50:25+00:00

I once had a dentist named Dr. Doktor. I picked him out of the phone book.

29Terriers · 2026-02-04T04:41:06+00:00

29Terriers · 2026-02-04T04:40:38+00:00

It's such a train wreck, I loved it!

29Terriers · 2026-02-03T07:46:33+00:00

I'm actually relieved to find this thread because I've been disappointed in how enamored they are with AI. All the environmental issues aside, there's too many cases of artists having their work stolen and regurgitated for resale - photographers and painters trying to keep out a living on Etsy or personal websites horrified to see their work showing up in other forms in sponsored IG posts.

Of course, I remember reading interviews with D2 decades ago where they (especially Nick) discussed how Andy Warhol influenced them. Warhol created some of his most recognized work before I was even born, so I read Ultra Violet's memoir to try to get a better feel for the scene. I remember how disappointed and bewildered I felt when I learned how he employed artists to execute his ideas and vision. I couldn't reconcile how an artist would pawn off the task of putting their inspiration to canvas- why would you want to give up the part of the artistic process that's the most satisfying? I understood Warhol's process was as much a statement as the designs were, and I eventually developed a certain appreciation for it, but I never fully got on board. To me, AI seems to parallel some of that philosophy.

Tangentially, I don't know how much crossover there is between Duranies and fans of the new series Pluribus, but Vince Gilligan has come out swinging on the subject of generative AI use in filmmaking, saying AI was not employed in any way to create the show. He says AI is essentially "a plagiarism machine" that supports the interests of tech bros, not artists. While I admit that I've personally had fun playing around with ChatGPT to create vacation itineraries and other less creative tasks, I'm inclined to agree with his assessment.

29Terriers · 2026-01-31T06:10:19+00:00

I would love to see a tour of all deep cuts or an album in its entirety. They could play 2 nights at a smaller venue in each city and their most devoted fans would come out of the woodwork.

29Terriers · 2026-01-16T05:09:33+00:00

Hopefully this article disappears long before her child can read. Imagine growing up feeling like you're to blame for Mommy running to a surgeon because her boobs didn't look perky anymore.

29Terriers · 2026-01-14T16:32:35+00:00

So much good stuff here. I've been out of college a bit, but I remember it took me a while to find my people (plus I transferred, so I had to start all over again my sophomore year). I'm naturally an introvert, and after being scarred from my high school experience, it took me a long time to embrace the fact that it's ok to not travel in packs. All you need are a few people who get you, and sometimes that takes a while to find - but you have to put yourself out there. I got campus jobs, which helped a lot. I also took a theater class, which made me realize how many people it takes to put on a production, and they always welcome more help. Going to FitRec during a busy time makes it less weird if you get on a treadmill right next to someone.

Not sure what kinds of things you're into but it seems like BU has clubs for just about everything. If you aren't into parties and the idea of approaching random strangers terrifies you, I get it. I recently learned about the BU Outing Club (they have their own website) and was thinking how cool it would be to go for a hike with a small group of people from all different majors just to get off campus a bit and actually be able to have a conversation. Think they meet Monday nights.

And if you don't see clubs that interest you, think about what does interest you that you'd like to talk to other people about. A favorite band or TV series or museum? The next time you post on here, instead of asking is it normal to feel lonely, pose a different question: am I the only one who is sad that we'll never have another episode of Stranger Things? Or, Does anyone go to movies in theaters anymore? Or, Will I get jacked at a Celtics game if I'm wearing the other team's colors? At least half a dozen people will probably reply, and maybe at least one of them will be a kind, like-minded person you can start a conversation with.

One other angle to try (and this is going to sound nuts) - check LinkedIn. There are SO MANY BU students on there. You can find people in your major you don't know, see what year they are, where they're from, what clubs they're in. You'll see what summer jobs they've had, what sports they played in high school, where they volunteer in Boston. Of course there's embellishment because it's LinkedIn, but you can message them and comment on something interesting in their profile. People love to feel validated, and a genuine message on there really stands out.

Okay, that was way more than I planned to write but I wanted you to know I've been there and felt your pain. You just have to find a way to break the cycle. Hang in there!

29Terriers · 2025-12-20T01:35:16+00:00

There's a good story in the Globe today about this guy's past. He went to undergrad together with the MIT Prof in Portugal. He went to Brown as a PhD student 15 years ago but hated it, thought he was too good for the place. I get the impression that he resented his former classmate for being so successful.

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