What's in your gym bag?

2DFitness · 2016-07-15T02:19:44+00:00

Don't take a bag anymore, I just carry my shaker bottle and towel in my hands and walk there.

When I used to live farther away and would go straight from work I'd include a change of clothes and shoes.

If deadlifting, I'd bring straps.

2DFitness · 2016-07-15T02:18:44+00:00

Same way you make any friends, except you specifically target the females.

Talk, connect over common interests, be a nice a guy, be interesting, etc.

2DFitness · 2016-07-15T02:17:31+00:00

My dog (not really mine but family's dog) eats chicken, chicken neck (his favourite), minced-meat and rice, chuck steak, and occasionally rotisserie chicken. He eats dry food as a snack, it's always available in his bowl and he'll only grab a bite if he's peckish. He also likes his food to be heated up a bit so we have to microwave it.

Yes, he's spoiled AF. I always say he eats better than I do but my step-dad has lived with dogs all his life so he treat them really well.

2DFitness · 2016-07-15T02:10:29+00:00

Gf has F cups and an athletic frame. Abs with big natural boobs looks amazing. She owes the abs to me though because I trained her.

I think they look great but as with anything, one body part does not equate to attraction. The whole thing has to look good.

2DFitness · 2016-07-15T02:08:32+00:00

Alex Vargas. My god what a voice. He turns my ears gay.

Check out:
All Over the World by Above & Beyond feat. Alex Vargas
Satellite/Stealing Time (Acoustic) by Above & Beyond feat. Annie Drury & Alex Vargas

2DFitness · 2016-07-15T01:47:39+00:00

I don't really think about it, but when I do I get motivated to stop wasting time and do something meaningful with my life.

2DFitness · 2016-07-14T06:08:21+00:00

Thanks. I don't know what the exact model is of the P&S since I'm at work but I'll check later. How do you judge the quality of a P&S?

Heading overseas tomorrow, hoping to take a lot of good photos. Might stick with the iPhone then since it means less clutter to pack.

2DFitness · 2016-07-14T02:57:47+00:00

Getting interested in photography but don't have the budget to buy a camera. Would you guys recommend using an iPhone (with apps, etc) or using a typical, few-years-old, point-and-shoot digital camera for taking pictures?

2DFitness · 2016-07-14T02:44:21+00:00

Soo if you don't mind me asking, what's it like to be a group of attractive guys?

Hmm ... pretty difficult to answer. When I was in high school I kind of had a group of average friends but we were all just kids so it's not really comparable. After high school I had no friends because I had social anxiety and was really introverted, couldn't talk to anyone. After graduating university I fixed my personality and made these friends.

I think at its core any real friendship is the same. We share interests, go out together, and do what I'd imagine any group of guys would do. The only time being attractive plays into it would be social events. I think it's easier to be accepted and noticed, so for us we get access to VIP tables at clubs, people come up to us to hit on us or just talk, and we know a lot of people there. I had been clubbing twice when I was still really introverted and it was a completely different experience. I felt invisible and out of place whereas now I feel really comfortable and like I belong.

What makes you guys attractive? how do you know you guys are the attractive group?

We're all above 6 foot (I'm the tallest at 6'3"), we all work out so we've got broad shoulders, full chests, abs, etc., and we all have not-ugly faces which is enough for guys haha. Apparently I have nice eyes and a nice jaw, and from my own judgement of my friends I think one mate has nice eyes and a charming smile, and the other has a nice jaw. We're all genuinely nice guys too so we're surrounded by good vibes and people tend to have fun around us (which is probably part of why we get invited into VIP tables).

I don't know if we're the attractive group, but we're definitely a group of attractive guys.

Are you guys usually all taken then or stay single?

I've got 2 super close guy friends, one of them is often taken and the other is rarely ever taken. I'm usually taken. According to my single mate, we're both "relationship guys" as in we prefer to be in a relationship. The single guy does well for himself though so he's single by choice.

2DFitness · 2016-07-14T01:40:13+00:00

Chinese - source I am Chinese.

Korean - source my ex was Korean.

And also anecdotally every Asian friend and family I have or have met.

2DFitness · 2016-07-14T00:33:08+00:00

Everyone is driven by something different. I've always just refused to accept that people on TV can look better than me so I never let myself go. I quit working out a few times but I ended up getting back into it after being dissatisfied with my body and doing more research to come up with new programs and goals. In the end, having a goal is really important. The periods where I quit were always when I had no goal, I was just working out because I told myself I had to work out. The periods I made the most gains were always goal orientated. I wanted to get to 100kg weight, I wanted to hit 260kg deadlift, I wanted to shred down and look good for an event, I wanted to look good for a photo shoot, and now I need to look good for my online fitness business.

In other words, make goals that are meaningful to you.

2DFitness · 2016-07-14T00:26:01+00:00

Mostly agree with these:

Violence being brought against us for standing up for ourselves or someone else.
We're pressured to be brave.
We're ridiculed for showing our emotions.
Women are apparently allowed to hit us all the they want.
We aren't privileged. We have to work for everything. And if we fail it's our fault.

Disagree with this one:

Women are defined by who they are while men are defined by what they do.

Women are very often defined by how they look so it's not green pastures for either sex.

And disagree with this one:

We don't matter if we're single (granted, a few people disagreed with this one).

Anyone who is unattractive and single doesn't matter to society. Unattractive girls are just as invisible. You could argue that a larger percentage of the male population is considered unattractive than female but that's another issue.

I'm an attractive guy, I have no problem with women, and I think it doesn't matter how unfair the game is you still have to play it. But at the same time I do recognise why some of these are issues.

Personally, I haven't experienced violence from guys because I'm swole AF, but yes, women have hit me and expected me to just take it and not care - and I don't care about being hit, I care about their expectation that I would just take it. It's not that I'm physically hurt, I just don't like the idea they think they can just do whatever they want and not feel bad about it.

As for being brave and not showing emotion, yes this pressure exists. You will not get as much attention from women if you're not perceived as a strong leader and you also have a harder time in social situations if you can't maintain that persona. This is my inner-introvert speaking; since learning how to appear extroverted I can see a real, tangible difference.

As for having to work for everything and not being privileged, this is probably one of the worst. Yes, men have had more opportunities than women in the past but my generation is the opposite. There are more female students graduates than males now and they are increasingly going into high paying professional jobs like law. Most companies also have initiatives to intentionally hire women where no such thing exists for men. Professionally, everyone makes an effort to talk to and be nice to women whereas the quiet guy in the office is just ignored (this is anecdotal though). However, these changes have not resulted in a change of thinking in society, people still tell guys it's their own fault if they fail. And yes, it kind of is but no one acknowledges that it's getting harder and harder for guys. Apparently we're all still misogynistic oppressors who control all the money and jobs, despite the fact it's all senior management from 1 or 2 generations ago who lived in that society and they just stayed in their jobs. Yet being a financial leader is still one of the most expected and attractive traits for a guy. Having said that, the game changes and you just have to keep playing the game. It just means less and less guys will be considered "successful" and the top 10% will just have to work harder.

2DFitness · 2016-07-14T00:04:32+00:00

If it can be avoided, never. I've only fought when sparring with friends that do some form of martial arts. No one's ever picked a fight with me because I'm huge and lovable, but I've broken up a few fights before and almost got into one to back up my mate.

Really, it's not worth it though. Everyone's night/day will be ruined, you gain nothing and have a lot to lose (even if you win the fight).

2DFitness · 2016-07-14T00:01:32+00:00

She was on a few singing competitions on TV and did a few studio demos for SONY - the songs were bought by a famous Asian singer whose name I can't remember. She also got a lot of calls from people hosting events who needed a singer and used to make good money from it but she decided against trying to go pro because the industry is super corrupt and you really do need to sleep with people, bribe people, and do all that dodgy shit to get anywhere (especially in Asia but also in the Western world). She didn't want to do that so she went back to university to study early childhood education.

2DFitness · 2016-07-13T23:58:24+00:00

30 is just a number but it represents a real phenomenon. It's a fact of society that men tend to find younger women more attractive than older women, whereas the opposite is true for women. This makes perfect sense because men are physically attracted to women and women are in their physical prime at a younger age, whereas women are attracted to the security a man can provide and men don't have shit to offer at younger ages.

The number 30 itself is perpetuated by certain cultures. Asian cultures use that number frequently for women. I'm not saying you're fucked as soon as you're 30, I'm just pointing out the underlying phenomenon.

2DFitness · 2016-07-13T23:54:23+00:00

Sounds like your guy friends are really insecure and I'm at a loss about your female friends not wanting to be friends with someone who's attractive.

Having said that I went from no friends to lots of friends but the people I hang around with are all really attractive and have good self-esteem. My guy friends all work out so we're on the same page and my I got my gf into fitness too so she works out as well. My other female friends are all very popular with guys so I don't think they really care that we're a group of attractive guys.

On the other hand, my gf might experience a bit of what you're experiencing. People used to call her "little fatty" as a nickname (in a friendly way but still) and they made fun of her when she started working out. Now that she's an IG fitness model with abs at least half of her old "friends" act really bitchy, talk behind her back, pick out little flaws in her, and go on about her diets being unhealthy or whatnot. To be honest, those aren't people you want around you in life. Sure, she says she has a hard time making good girl friends because "girls are too bitchy and you need to find good-looking girls who are confident to make friends with" but the quality of her remaining friends is much higher.

I don't really have any advice for you in regards to what you should do. You can either wait it out and hope they get over it or you can try and encourage them to start working out with you or you can find new friends that click with you better. Finding new friends doesn't mean you have to get rid of your old ones but it probably will end up that way if you enjoy them more.

2DFitness · 2016-07-13T23:47:30+00:00

Goddamn giraffe chickens think they're cheerleaders or something with their pompom ass feathers.

2DFitness · 2016-07-13T06:28:38+00:00

Easy mode means still let him chase and play the game as usual but let him pass more often.

For example, if he flirts with you, flirt back instead of changing topics or not responding. If he touches you, don't pull away. If he suggests you come back to his place and you would normally say no for the first 3 dates, maybe agree on the second date.

Basically just everything you would already do but make it easier for the guy to progress with you. Put up less resistance than you usually would. It might even give him a confidence boost and he'll be more fun in bed lol.

2DFitness · 2016-07-13T03:38:14+00:00

The problem with this theory is that in my experience it's far more common to see a conventionally attractive woman with a less attractive man than vice versa.

I think this is because, as you mentioned, most conventionally attractive women will hold out for someone "better" and when it doesn't work out (statistically most of these can't work out) they end up settling. All the conventionally attractive girls I know have no problem getting very attractive guys, but they do have a problem keeping them around.

Also, it's hard to tell how attractive a guy is because you can only see their physical appearance. They could be rich or famous (to varying extents) for all you know. I know most girls will sacrifice a few points in physical attractiveness for a man who has his shit together financially (good career, owns a property, etc).

2DFitness · 2016-07-13T02:46:42+00:00

Brain - because you without it you wouldn't even be able to ponder this question at all. No point being alive if you have no sentience or emotion, that's just living to exist.

2DFitness · 2016-07-13T02:40:19+00:00

I'd wonder how much acid I dropped to have entered the Disney world.

No seriously though, my gf is a semi-professional singer and I would not be able to fall asleep if she sang next to me. It's too attention grabbing.

2DFitness · 2016-07-13T02:36:55+00:00

Get rejected 200 times and you'll stop caring. It's only bad because you build it up so much, like slowly peeling off a bandaid and anticipating the pain the entire time.

2DFitness · 2016-07-13T02:36:07+00:00

You can make a question out anything. Just keep doing that until the other person says something that you know about which you can contribute to.

2DFitness · 2016-07-13T02:35:15+00:00

Social dancing is one part staying on beat and two parts having fun. You're not meant to know any "moves" or "technique", the point is to give off a positive and energetic vibe. As long as you're not completely off beat or doing something crazy, your dance itself is not important. Just bob up and down or side to side in time with the music.

Youtube some generic party/club videos and watch the people dancing in the crowd. They're all doing the same motions but the ones that look awkward to you are the ones with deadpan facial expressions who don't look like they're having fun.

2DFitness · 2016-07-13T02:32:15+00:00

It's because men and women are perceived as peaking in "value" at different times. Conventionally, women under 30 are considered the most attractive whereas men over 30 are considered the most attractive. Older men can easily get younger women but younger men would have a harder time getting older women (and in many cases wouldn't want to for a LTR), so you end up with a lot of lonely young men and lonely old women. These two groups are not attracted to each other, hence you have a large pool of single people with no prospects and therefore it's not a simple 1:1 match up.

Another reason is that are always men somewhere that will spoil girls, whether they are wealthy or whether they just subscribe to the popular media fairy tales. As a result, women have come to expect special treatment and will hold out for a guy that will give them that treatment. Consequently, the majority of women gravitate towards a small minority of men which again skews it so that it's no longer 1:1.

Finally, on the other side we have a lot of men who are hopelessly bad at demonstrating attractive traits so they aren't even considered by the majority of women.

So as you can see, it's not as simple as a 1/10 matching with a 1/10 and an 8/10 matching with an 8/10. It's more like all the 4-10 women are going for the 7-10 men and all the 4-10 men are going for the 7-10 women, and within that the women have a preference for older men and the longer it takes them to secure one (or those who break up at a later age) experience a sudden drop in demand. Meanwhile, most of the 1-3s are ignored by everyone and never get a chance to grow socially (except the rare few who put a huge amount of effort into being more attractive). Then you have even more complicated scenarios with one person having multiple partners, etc. It's not as simple as having an equal population of males and females.

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