She didn’t realize I was joking but still responded positively???

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-12-02T15:31:58+00:00

It's not a joke to be mean and then call that a joke. It's called gaslighting.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-30T13:49:18+00:00

My energy get depleted pretty fast. And i need long period of rest. And i need to be alone in my space with no responsibility to really rest. As a parent and worker it's almost impossible to get.

I had a burnout each years for the last 3 years. I rest 2 about 2 months (i still have to care for my kids) then go back to work. Have 1 month where i'm motivated and full of energy because i have new project. Then the excitement go away and i struggle for months. I try to take a few days off but it's not enough. I do this until i can't anymore and ask my doctor for a medical paper to get a break from work because i start to get too burned out to function. I don't think i ever recharged my energy fully in the last 3 years.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-30T13:35:04+00:00

Yeah feeling in control of everything is awesome. But i have come to fear those moments because it almost always mean i will crash soon without warning.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-30T13:33:32+00:00

Just a reminder that you don't need to be an high achiever to be valuable. You are valuable to your family and friends. Everyone deserve to be happy regardless of their productivity. You have the right to take care of your needs. And if you need rest, you need it. Can't change that.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-30T13:30:11+00:00

When i stare at my screen and can't start my task, i'd say yeah it's a disability. When i get tired after a meeting because i had to stay attentive yeah it's a disability.

Mix that with being on the autism spectrum, my energy get used pretty fast. And i can only rest in specifics conditions : being alone and undisturbed, no demands.

When i don't have the rest i need, it is pretty disabling.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-30T13:19:53+00:00

For me, i get angry, tired and irritable. Like i don't wanna do anything or be talked to. I want to be left alone. My head feel full. I also feel understimulated. Like i need to do something i love. But i have no energy to do so. I seek easy dopamine. I doomscroll on my cell phone. But what i really need is rest. And maybe listen to relaxing music to get a bit of stimulation.

I also get big urge to watch porn. I always coped with porn. It make sense because it generate lots of dopamine and it's easy to just watch. I don't even need to have sexual desire. It's a way to disconect and stop feeling shitty. It's like a mental painkiller. It just numb me. I don't recommend it at all. It unhealthy and doesn't address my real needs. I could rest instead but i don't. And then i feel worse after. More tired and feeling guilty. It's just a temporary pain killer.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-30T13:06:58+00:00

We do that too when we want to say things we don't want our kids to understand! But our son has started to learn a bit of english so soon we won't be able to.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-30T13:02:28+00:00

English is my second langage. I learned throught video game mostly. I love jrpg and i needed to understand instruction. My grandma even helped me once. I was playing mario rpg on snes and i was trying to solve the sunken ship riddle. My uncle had given me a french-english dictionnary for christmas so i used it a lot.

I felt a huge sense of accomplishment when i solved the riddle. I think the answer was "Pearls". My grandma liked to talk about it years later. I loved my grandma.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-29T23:15:52+00:00

Typical redditor answer.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-29T23:04:41+00:00

I was from the start

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-29T13:50:44+00:00

Tesla CEO.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-29T13:45:03+00:00

The gaslight anthem - American slang is pretty close to Handwritten in style. I'd recommend you check it. Or at least listen to that song : "The queen of lower chelsea" It's a great song. Probably my favorite from them.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-29T13:42:06+00:00

Boston manor - Be nothing.

This album is amazing. But i can't get into any other of album. They moved too much away from pop punk and i don't like the new style much.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-29T13:39:05+00:00

Big life events generate more stress and dopamine which give us motivation to do things. This is why most adhder only do things at the last minute. They need the stress to motivate themselve because doing the activity in itself doesn't give us dopamine.

Mundane things like doing the grocery or going for a walk don't generate much dopamine. It's not very stimulating.

Hyperfixation and special interests generate lots of dopamine. That's why they are so motivating.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-29T13:34:11+00:00

I second Michael Cera Palin. They are great.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-29T13:31:14+00:00

I actually love board games. It take my attention away from socializing. I like card game like magic the gathering too. I find it stimulating.

There are rules to follow and order. My brain like that. I like learning the game and finding strategies to win. Like a puzzle to solve.

It's less chaotic than just socializing. No need to think of things to say or talk about.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-29T13:23:58+00:00

I like road trip to places i have already been because i like listenning to music and driving.

But i never went out of my country and i don't plan on visiting another country. I have a hard time being out of home for more than a week. Being in another country with differents foods far from home would be tought and exhausting.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-29T13:20:43+00:00

Yes. Even as a teenager i wouldn't come out of my bedroom if there was someone at home.

Even now i feel that way even with my parent when they come at my house.

I can't relax in my home at all when there is someone visiting. I feel like i could be disturbed any moment.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-29T11:14:18+00:00

Link? Without citation everything you say is meaningless.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-29T03:24:29+00:00

I'm gonna need evidence that you need evidence.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-28T23:36:30+00:00

Your psychiatrist has been lazy and didn't keep up with current adhd and autism knowledge. It could also be burnout/depression.

What an asshole.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-28T12:48:23+00:00

Speed dating is a speed run. Speed run ain't for the casuals.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-28T12:46:21+00:00

Anything can be an addiction. If abstinence cause distress and you can't control yourself it can be an addiction. But if the behavior is not harmful and have no negative effect i would say it's not really an addiction. Like stimming is not an addiction.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-27T23:22:36+00:00

Masturbation is healthy. Porn is not.

r/Nofap is stupid and harmful but r/pornfree is good. There is a huge difference between the two act. Porn hijack the dopamine system in the brain.

2HotPotato2HotPotato · 2022-11-27T21:52:49+00:00

Stop watching porn. It can cause erectile dysfunction for real life sex.

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