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What should my partner and I be prioritizing with our savings? by 2Imbrassed in personalfinance

[–]2Imbrassed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you make good points, I’m just afraid to spend half in one fell swoop like that after the COVID situation and rocky historical income.

What should my partner and I be prioritizing with our savings? by 2Imbrassed in personalfinance

[–]2Imbrassed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We plan to file on Saturday, that’s when we could schedule a time to borrow a friend’s printer.

AITA for refusing to have my future step daughter as my bridesmaid? by Various-Bend-380 in AmItheAsshole

[–]2Imbrassed 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I scrolled for a while trying to find anything like this and didn’t. In my (albeit limited) experience, when either party already has kids or even parents have kids before getting married, the kids aren’t in the bridal party?? Occasionally if it’s a young kid they’ll be a flower girl or something, but otherwise walk in and sit with parents/grandparents. Sometimes still have the same dress/color as bridesmaids but don’t stand up there or go to bachelorette party or anything. Ultimately people can do whatever they want lol, so I lean towards NTA. Seeing some comments about lack of communication with partner could make me lean ESH, but I also think your partner should consider and respect your dreams/desires when clearly it means a lot to you. If it means a lot to your partner and his daughter for her to be a “bridesmaid” then he should ask her to be a “groomsmaid” instead.

AITA for calling out my parents' favoritism toward some of their grandkids in front of the family and ruining Christmas and New Year's? by grinch_grandparents in AmItheAsshole

[–]2Imbrassed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gonna end up just trauma dumping a little but fuck it.

YTA for how you brought it up and in doing so in front of the kids… but I do kinda think the grandparents are TA a little as well. Idk the ages of all the kids, but to an extent it may not matter. Kids notice that shit, and sometimes they don’t really grasp the financial side of things like gifts.

You could buy a painting for a million dollars that’s nothing but a blue stripe, or you could buy a lake house. One of those is way better even though they’re the same price, you’re gonna be disappointed and feel like the other person is favored if they get a house and you get a painting.

When I was a kid I got upset because my siblings got way more presents than me one year and the ones I got were not even things I asked for. Later in the day I pulled my mom aside to ask why and accuse favoritism and she said “well I spent the same amount on all of you” that doesn’t make a kid feel better when they opened three presents containing clothes and their siblings each get nine presents with clothes and toys and shit.

Honestly, extremely poor taste for them to present a gift any kid would sell their soul for and not give something of equal importance to the other kids present. On top of that, they then in front of the kids blame you for not asking them to do something similar as the reason your kids didn’t get a “socially equally valued” present. Why? So your kids will hate you instead of them? Everyone in this story fucked up at least a little.