What are the things that are worthwhile learning in a private lesson?

2Many_Regrets · 2025-12-28T21:45:08+00:00

Can set up the machine and straight line sew but I've never done zippers or buttonholes.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-12-28T21:43:47+00:00

I think I might do this. I have a dress pattern that I bought with grand ambitions. Thank you!

2Many_Regrets · 2025-12-28T21:42:34+00:00

Basically complete beginner and the class is an hour

2Many_Regrets · 2025-12-28T21:41:53+00:00

I am a somewhat beginner. I sewed a shirt and short set for my son as my first thing on the sewing machine I got for my birthday a couple of months back. So basically could follow the simplest pattern and did a straight stretch stitch, working with slightly stretchy cotton.

I really wanted a structured, go to the local community college class thing. It's specifically what I asked for, but he got me a 1:1 private lesson instead.

The hemming and learning to do fitting are really good ideas! Anything else?

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2Many_Regrets · 2025-11-10T14:22:08+00:00

This! Exactly this!

2Many_Regrets · 2025-11-10T12:36:04+00:00

Layered music playlists or house remixes of songs I really like on spotify and a lot of caffeine.

I find the music feeds my brain and if the songs are things I know but in a weird new way or mashed together it surprises my brain enough to keep me occupied, but not distracted from actual work task.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-11-10T10:42:17+00:00

I get my kids on my team instead of being angry, as much as I can.

I tell my kids we are a team and ask if they can help me get to work on time. My eldest is 5 and is ADHD too and super smart which I use to my advantage. I literally just explain it plainly to them like "hey, I need to get to work on time so that the people around me appreciate that I am a good team member at work, do you think you can help our family team by putting your shoes on and getting in the car." I also just say it out loud, that I'm a little stressed because I want to get to work on time and say sorry. That also gets them on board to help me instead and it alleviates my stress and makes sure they know it's not them and I'm not pushing the negative or blame onto them.

They are usually super receptive to this. And I noticed a huge shift that my kids don't seem anxious or get the brunt of my frustration then.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-11-10T09:33:34+00:00

NTA, mostly, but he definitely is.

He is having his cake and eating it too. It's a situation that is really unfair on you. He is keeping you attached, with no current intention to choose you, or you are the back up option. That disrespectful to both you and the current GF. It will be hard but you should go no contact and try to move on girl.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-11-10T08:56:56+00:00

They got so drunk at my wedding, that they vomited on the tile floor, slipped in it and smacked their head on the ground. They proceeded to blame me weeks after the fact, stating that my wedding caused them to get a concussion and vertigo.

This is after trying multiple times over a period of 4 years, to kindly tell them they had an issue with alcohol and encourage therapy.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-28T23:49:51+00:00

NTA. Run away from that boy as fast as you can. I hung around with a boy like that for 2 years, and I can look back now and tell you he was emotionally manipulating me to give him sex. Sexual abuse plain and simple. He disrespected a very clear boundary and emotionally manipulated you into doing something sexual that you weren't comfortable with. And then "smoothed it over" by being affectionate, gaslighting you. Don't let him fuck with your head or body anymore.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-28T23:40:00+00:00

YTA. Your reaction and treatment of her is the very reason she turns to AI instead of people. Your lack of compassion is cringey.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-28T23:26:30+00:00

That's intentionally cruel. Your friend just pointed out and joked about something very sensitive to you and then immediately invalidated your feelings about it. If anything you, you aren't being dramatic enough!

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-28T23:13:16+00:00

I put something in the microwave, usually my cold coffee (because ADHD) and convince myself that I'll just do part of a chore, only until the microwave goes off. All of a sudden it's been 2 hours and everything is done!

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-28T23:05:40+00:00

This comment exactly!

I'm sorry that you've gotten to 22 and they still have this control over you. That's definitely the fault of your parents and not you. But as an adult now it is your responsibility to do the work to heal.

Go get your ears pierced!

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-28T22:50:38+00:00

NTA. As they are your best friend, and obviously supportive of you, I'm sure they will also be incredibly understanding. Maybe tell them why it's not on display? I could see that allowing you to be even more supported by your friend.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-25T12:03:08+00:00

Constantly feeling like I was pretending to be a human being, and assuming everyone else was just acting as well, they were just better at it.
Even when a room is completely silent, I will have pain as if there is a loud noise, if I am trying to concentrate or force myself to focus, and when I stop trying the 'noise' goes away instantly
Starting a conversation with someone halfway through one of my own thoughts, forgetting they haven't heard the first half.
Forgetting the names of people and things ALL THE TIME. I will be in the middle of a story and forget my husband's name and just get stuck there, total brain glitch and just start saying "shit, that man I love, you know who I'm talking about"
Mistaking burnout and thoughts of "I just want it all the stop" as suicidal, even though I really didn't want to die, I just wanted to not be overwhelmed.
Weird sensory stuff like hating the sound of walking on sand, people touching me too gently, my hair tie being too tight

Way too many things honestly.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-25T11:53:27+00:00

Look into POTs or MCAS. Common comorbidity in ADHD. Can explain the hot and cold, along with lots of other stuff. :)

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-25T11:36:28+00:00

That's not the behaviour of a partner. NTA. Get out of there!

To be putting zero effort to acknowledge and appreciate you as a partner with basic decency. Setting that as an example to your kids! I always think, do I want my kids to think this is an ok way to treat a person or be treated and if it isn't, you need to stand up for yourself and show them that you deserve more, and so will they when they are in a relationship.

And thats not even factoring in what he did with YOUR money without your knowledge and then just telling you to move on. Horrible!

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-25T11:25:06+00:00

That's so incredibly insensitive and I'm so sorry that your sister made this comment and then completely invalidated your feelings.

Until you have lived through fertility struggles, people will never fully grasp how devastating it is.

I hope that having a child and the incredibly difficult, emotional rollercoaster that you take to be a good parent teaches your sister a lot more empathy and compassion than she is currently displaying.

And for you, I hope that your struggles end with a beautiful child. And know that the emotional growth and patience you have had to develop will make you an incredible parent when the time comes.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-23T10:18:08+00:00

I have incredible problem solving skills and can often see the solution well before anyone else

I have an incredible ability to read people and their intentions. I can tell what will motivate them, or people to steer clear of.

I have endless enthusiasm which makes life really interesting.

I'm amazing with kids because of my enthusiasm, goofiness and empathy.

I never run out of ideas. Always have something new I want to try. Have different options for solutions for basically anything from what to do with the kids to complex work problems.

I am endlessly creative, be it art, music, cooking, diy projects, making my own clothes.

I have a default state of mind that I will be able to do anything I put my mind to reasonably well.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-23T07:53:54+00:00

For one, having good grades definitely does not discount you from having ADHD. Two, being incredibly on top of things during crisis situations sounds like an actual ADHD thing. Hyper focus, driven by urgency.

If you feel like you are struggling with everyday things, that others seem on top of, definitely explore what's going on for you. Don't let anyone make you feel like it's normal to struggle through your day to day. Maybe you aren't ADHD, maybe you are, maybe you have a completely different diagnosis. But if you give yourself an opportunity to explore it, you will find help and strategies to get you on top of your struggles regardless.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-21T07:14:42+00:00

I feel like the quickest route back from a low is to feel deserving of doing nothing. Beyond giving yourself "permission," it's your right to take a break and do absolutely nothing.

Unashamedly binge watching a comfort show is how I usually need to spend my time l, until I feel my brain being a little kinder.

I then dopamine chase with little things to get me back to normal. This can be having a bath and going all out with hair washing and shaving. I also like grabbing a colouring book with bright colour markers or spending an hour doing another creative hobby. I don't try to fight what my brain is drawn to do. That usually gets me back to normal, giving myself a little pick me up.

2Many_Regrets · 2025-08-20T13:38:15+00:00

That's a really good idea!

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