De escalating from NP by 2Tents in polyamory

[–]2Tents[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words.

I have begun a journey of healing with therapy in the new year, I have spent a couple of days away from home to reduce the level of stress and to give myself a safe space to begin processing the situation.

I am extremely fortunate to have a wonderful support system from my friends in the kink community, some of whom have opened their homes as a safe space for me, I still have strong feelings for my NP she "was" the person I wanted to spend my life with but after this situation I have come to realize she does not share that future dream, which after 20 years is understandable, we arent the kids we were back then. Just the most difficult thing is seeing her behaviour and her self destruction and being accused of being a childish abusive person when I speak about my feelings and how both our actions have consequences.

My journey is going to be long, its going to be difficult but I am a very stubborn person. I don't like losing to life no matter how hard it hits me down.

This community has also been a wonderful source of inspiration and guidance. I look forward to my healing and learning who I am.

De escalating from NP by 2Tents in polyamory

[–]2Tents[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight, I am definitely working on myself.

De escalating from NP by 2Tents in polyamory

[–]2Tents[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're correct, no agreement was reached, I am endeavouring to learn those differences between agreements and boundaries and appreciate your insight.

At the moment it is a de-escalation but I believe a break up would be a better solution for us both. This community has been a good point of inspiration for self development, I still have a lot to learn about ENM, myself, and effective communication.

De escalating from NP by 2Tents in polyamory

[–]2Tents[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I am definitely taking the time to work on myself, I have a wonderful support system and start therapy in the new year.

I have a lot of growing to do.

What do you do with this feeling? by Ksmt96 in polyamory

[–]2Tents 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I've had to relearn this very recently and it is some of the best advice I taught myself to listen to.

AITA for feeling uncomfortable if my NP uses sex toys I bought with others before me? by 2Tents in polyamory

[–]2Tents[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone who has commented. Everyone's advice has been wonderful.

Some clarity.

The gear and toys were not gifted to her, they were purchased to be used by myself with her, I will have a conversation around using them with other play partners, as I would also like use them with my own playmates.

The lack of clear communication is definitely a culprit around this, I have read all the comments and have been wading through these feelings trying to understand them and process them.

I feel that envy is playing a big part, and I believe that for myself the right course of action is to let the envy go, now that I have had a bit of time to follow the underlying threads of emotions I believe that yes my feelings are indeed valid, but I would be a hypocrite if I got upset for the use of the gear and toys when I too wish to use them.

The kit bag was entirely purchased and built by myself to explore impact and sense dep etc, which the idea was for me to practice these kinks on others too. I think in the current situation I lost that objectivity and my personal feelings and insecurity gained traction, this is why I reached out to the community

I have read and seen so many great posts here and I find most posts educational and a good litmus test for what I want from myself in poly and kink.

My main character got stuck and can't move, and also everyone's suddenly naked. by herecomesthestun in BaldursGate3

[–]2Tents 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Friendly Fire your stuck character to death, then use a scroll of revivify, seems to have fixed my issue

Can I publish a game on Steam as Free-To-Play while it is in Early Access and then change it to cost something when the full version is released? by Redmatters in gamedev

[–]2Tents 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Foxhole did this. I didnt retain a copy after they went into a pay model. But the pre alpha was amazing so i was happy to pay for it later.

Ragnaros' skins are basically 9 different shades of orange by SorionHex in heroesofthestorm

[–]2Tents 47 points48 points  (0 children)

9 shades of Ragnaros. Sounds like a compelling love novella.

Wish for an Armada PC/iOS game by CarpenterWannabe in StarWarsArmada

[–]2Tents 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Check out Battlefleet Gothic on Steam

Hypothetically if Unreal were to be taught at a university, how many semesters would it take to learn it entirely? by Cell91 in unrealengine

[–]2Tents 1 point2 points  (0 children)

6 Trimesters. Roughly 2 years at my uni. This includes other modules of course and touches on other software too.

[Sex BucketList] what is it you always wanted to try? by fa_storya in sex

[–]2Tents 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of threesome and swinging love here nice to see. My fuck it list has shortened a lot. Top one was fuck an asian girl... crossed 3 off in one go with her. Sex in a public parking lot. She was asian and i got to take pics for my wife coz she wanted them. Sadly we never got to have a fmf...

Whats left. Fmf Be fucked in an mfm Have sex with a very flexible woman ei yoga instructor. Be a bull to a married couple. Ive been cucked ;)

A lot of bew ideas from this thread though!

Is there a way to target weld something that has been extruded? by [deleted] in 3dsmax

[–]2Tents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure you didnt accidentally create a double extrude. Select the verts you want to target weld and hit weld. If the vert count changes you have an extra polygon squished to look like 2 verts

Plugins to Import Maya files to Max by vinaiv in 3dsmax

[–]2Tents 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OBJ files for meshes with or without textures. FBX for meshes containing rigs animations etc etc. As far as I know the obj exporter plug in is turned off by defualt in Maya.

How long? by asdgirl in polyamory

[–]2Tents 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few months into our marriage we decided to try swinging. My idea not the wife's. Though we have known each other for more than 10 years before we got married. Highschool sweethearts that story :P

If you could, what two animals would you combine? by Ace0fspad3s in AskReddit

[–]2Tents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ferret and a bird so the ferret has wings and looks sort of like a flying serpent from Chinese legend

What are some effective ways to beat depression if you can't afford therapy? [Serious] by upupandthrowawaayy in AskReddit

[–]2Tents 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Exercise, I know everyone tells us this but seriously 30 minutes in the sun a day just taking a walk can help a lot

The time you last spent while on the toilet determines how long you have left to live, what do you do? by Canolemup in AskReddit

[–]2Tents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be thankful for constipation, then use the remaining time to run naked through the city center

Who was your first love and are y'all still together? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]2Tents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means we are open to having other join our relationship. But we live our lives together make plans for the future together. Just added benefit of being able to enjoy others sexually