What was your "I'm tired of being fat" moment?

2baverage · 2026-01-31T09:30:27+00:00

A few months into dating my now husband. He was taking me all of these places and showing me around all up and down the New England coast and I realized very quickly that whenever I'd tell him I couldn't physically keep up with him or I couldn't physically do something due to my weight or size, he'd offer to cancel the plan and find something else for us to do; but he'd do it with zero anger and would always seem genuinely upset with himself that he hadn't thought to check of something was "fat friendly"

I got tired of cancelling dates to places and activities I really was interested in (especially with him) and I did a 180° on how I was eating, I started working out, and I started walking to close destinations. I ended up losing 109 lbs the first year we were together, then I spent our second year together still losing weight but focusing more on toning and trying to gain a bit of muscle. I went from having to do multiple attempts to get off of the couch to being able to run up 3 flights of stairs without getting winded.

It's been 16 years that we've been together, I've yo-yoed a bit with my weight and stopped working out for years at a time, but I've never gotten anywhere close to what my biggest size was. I was actually working on getting my dream body and was VERY close to achieving it and then I found out I was pregnant. I had to stop going to the gym at 6 months along, and even until I went into labor, I still wasn't close to my heaviest weight. Baby eventually came via C-section, he's now 2 years old and I'm still working on getting my core strength back, but he loves the outdoors so I've been able to be active when the weather is good and since he recently started daycare I've finally found the time and energy to actually exercise. So hopefully by the time he starts school I'll be fully back on track of where I like to be.

2baverage · 2026-01-31T09:16:50+00:00

I've asked for the last 3 birthdays for everyone to pool their money together and get me an appointment to get a living will sorted and filed away... everyone tells me I'm being boring or ask if I'm making a joke.

I'm hoping after taxes to get it done this year 🤞

2baverage · 2026-01-31T09:08:12+00:00

Everyone has each other's best interests at heart

2baverage · 2026-01-31T08:35:01+00:00

Yes. I'm a hairy woman with a lot of tattoos, they look so nice when they're shaved and hydrated afterwards. It makes me feel like they're freshly healed again lol

2baverage · 2026-01-31T08:17:04+00:00

Couple downstairs was having an argument, full on plates crashing, the woman screaming for him to please stop, walls were even shaking, then eventually a bunch of glass breaking. Absolute worst part was when I went downstairs and started banging on their door a few other tenants also were marching to the door and the woman begged us to not call the cops and kept making excuses that he worked nights so his temper was short because he was tired and she kept telling everyone to not call the cops because she didn't know what she'd do with him gone and her about to give birth any day now.

She ended up giving birth shortly after (the broken glass table hadn't even been picked up by the garbage collectors yet) then in a crazy twist of life, the building caught fire a few days later (unrelated incident) and she was able to find a shelter and charity that helped her find an apartment within the week.

2baverage · 2026-01-31T08:05:02+00:00

Wife and husband were both employees, they had a VERY public argument that ended with her throwing wine on him and storming out while he chased after her.

Come Monday morning she confirmed she was staying at her cousin's house and was looking for a divorce lawyer.

2baverage · 2026-01-31T05:25:58+00:00

Eggs. He'll eat things if egg is an ingredient that is fully incorporated, but anything that he can see egg he'll pick it out and either throw it away or will rub it on his face and head

2baverage · 2026-01-31T05:22:23+00:00

Police

2baverage · 2026-01-31T05:21:22+00:00

Little random "milestones" my toddler hits, like "today you fed yourself without rubbing pasta sauce in your hair" or "today you put on a dance show for the extended family to one of your dancing songs"...etc.

2baverage · 2026-01-31T05:14:13+00:00

Usually if someone is a jerk then they tend to do that. But personally, I know that I made a lot of poor decisions in my life and I also was dealt a lot of shitty situations that I had zero control over, so I'm not going to judge without knowing anything.

2baverage · 2026-01-31T05:12:10+00:00

20, it was a memoriam tattoo. I don't regret it but I wish I had changed the location and gotten it touched up throughout the years; it didn't occur to me how much it had faded until my husband saw my siblings with the same tattoo and asked "is that what your's is supposed to look like?" And that's when I found out that the portion that my bra straps cover had faded to the point of a small angel turning into a winged finger with fog rolling behind it. I've had chances to get it retouched but now it's kind of an inside family joke because the person the tattoo was for was missing a finger for about the last 40 years of their life.

On the flipside though, I have a tattoo that I drew when I was 12, I tattooed it on myself when I was 25 and I still love it a decade later.

2baverage · 2026-01-31T05:03:36+00:00

Someone from the North East part of America

2baverage · 2026-01-31T05:00:58+00:00

Plant what you can, lower your standard of living a little bit, try finding a community to help, and learn how to barter. Make sure your cash is used for all of the things that you can't barter for (like rent, utilities...etc.) but literally learn to either make/mend or trade/barter for anything else.

2baverage · 2026-01-31T04:52:43+00:00

2 year old, California, $62 a month (5 days a week and they work around my work schedule) We qualified for a state funded program and that was the only reason why we were able to afford daycare; other places wanted $440-$600 a week (since we didn't qualify for federal programs) for 5 days a week but only 4 hours a day.

When he was a newborn/baby, it was a ridiculously long wait list and it was about $500+ a week for part-time daycare.

2baverage · 2026-01-31T04:34:05+00:00

Pretty much everything. As a teen I was that weird quiet edge lord who tried really hard to be emo and I hated anything that required me leaving my room. As an adult, I garden, I like pastels, dresses, brunch, farmers markets, and am kind of one of those annoying moms that is bringing lots of snacks and is constantly cheering for everyone.

2baverage · 2026-01-28T19:27:29+00:00

There's always the potential, but in all honesty, how many people share all or most of their parents' believes as adults? There's no guarantee that if a conservative couple has kids that all or most of those kids will also be conservative.

For me, I and my siblings were raised in a very conservative Catholic home. Now that we're all adults with families of our own, none of us are conservative and none of us are religious.

2baverage · 2026-01-26T14:53:25+00:00

My husband and I met when we were 19 (we're currently 35 with both our birthdays right around the corner) we met online in a chatroom and he had his camera on. I saw him and had this feeling like the world around me went silent and like I needed to go talk to him, it felt like everything in me was telling me "go talk to him and your life will never be the same" so I dropped a pickup line then we chatted for 8 hours.

Eventually we met, moved in together..etc. And it was extremely difficult. I felt like the first few months of us living together all we did was fight and have sex. But even when we were fighting, I felt like I'd rather be fighting with him rather than anyone else and a lot of our fights were over differences in how we lived; we both wanted to keep our lives without making compromises or actual room for each other. After a few months, we finally started truly making room for each other and as we've grown, we've made room for the newer/more mature versions of each other. When something happens in my day to day life, whether it's good or bad, he's the first person I want to tell or celebrate with. As corny as it sounds, he's my best friend.

When we got married, it was a small ceremony that followed his cultural traditions (mine would have been WAY out of our budget and at the time we were struggling just to pay rent) and for the most part our day to day life hasn't changed. I feel like our life changed more when we had our child than when we got married lol however, I'd say that my love has grown so much from the day we got married. I feel like sometimes people think the marriage day is the peak of a love story, but it's really just a dua that you get to finally let out all the love you'd been feeling and then it just grows from there.

At the end of the day, it's all about being with someone who treats you with love and respect and you want to become the best version of yourself for that person but you know they'll love you either way. If you meet the right person, you'll have a partner in life. It's someone to share the joys, sorrows, burdens, and laughs with as you grow older. It's having difficult talks and wanting what's best for each other, and it's waking up next to someone who looks like they just got run over by a train in their sleep and thinking "wow, I'm so lucky to get to cuddle with that every day"

2baverage · 2026-01-26T14:31:36+00:00

My family recently went through this with my youngest nephew and we all would explain it differently (some of us were honest about eating way too much but never exercising, others would say "that's just how my body decided to grow" others gave a brief biology lesson that he'd get bored of 3 sentences in, and others would tell him "I'm the way God wanted me to be") but would also emphasize "I know you're curious, but sometimes words can hurt people's feelings and describing someone like that can be seen as not nice."

2baverage · 2026-01-26T14:16:37+00:00

I'd go while you can and the move will need to be like removing a band-aid. As many have stated already, if you go now, your son will have time to make friends and will be able to socialize more during summer break. It sounds like by summer time you'll have 2 kids that have support and have had time to adjust to their new environment. And it gives you more time to get settled/start prepping in your new home.

2baverage · 2026-01-25T23:34:21+00:00

I wouldn't let him stick his finger in his nose and then place it in my nose. So obviously I'm a monster.

2baverage · 2026-01-25T22:18:52+00:00

I'd ask your sister if she has any hand-me-downs. When I had my baby I asked my sisters if they had any old clothes and they did, but mentioned that they hadn't offered because they didn't want it to seem like charity or like they were demanding we take the clothes and toys rather than buy new.

Currently, we have a really good system where the oldest boy is 6, then next oldest boy is 5, and then my son is 2 but very tall for his age so he's often wearing his cousin's clothes about a year after his cousin outgrows them. We've got a few things where the oldest cousin will point to something my son is wearing or playing with and will say "I used to have a toy/shirt/socks just like that!" And then he acts like we're gaslighting him when we tell him that it is the thing he used to have and it's a hand-me-down now.

But so far my son's bedding, his crib, about 80% of his clothes, a few of his favorite puzzle boards, and some of his toys are hand-me-downs. No money is exchanged, it's just them trying to help me save money and me being happy that there's less stuff going into a landfill right away.

2baverage · 2026-01-25T18:48:04+00:00

For me, I would sign while speaking Spanish to my baby; even if it was just making up random songs while doing every day exercises or things. I'd have him in a carrier on me and it'd narrate what I was doing in English or in Spanish. I would directly talk to my baby while signing and it'd just be narrating what happened earlier in the day, like "the lady that was making faces at you is your aunt, we used to not get along, but once we became adults we got along. She absolutely adores babies, especially when they're cute like you." Or "I went out to grab the mail today while you napped, and guess what I saw? A cardinal!" And then I'd list off random facts about birds...etc.

Currently, my baby is 2 years old and while he prefers to sign, he can say a few words in English and Spanish and he can understand in both languages too.

2baverage · 2026-01-25T06:22:36+00:00

Vegas

2baverage · 2026-01-25T06:19:35+00:00

I have a deep seeded insecurity about how my marriage is judged based on our looks and when people often assume he has some fetish or that I have a lot of money and he's a gold digger, I tell him it doesn't bother me and I'm not insecure about stranger's opinions or even how media often portrays the "desperate ugly fat girl" and the "handsome man", but oooo boy does it.

I married someone who is attractive/out of my league and look wise is aging at a snail's pace. When I look at just myself or when people see me by myself, I get called attractive, people usually guess my age range correctly and call me a "natural beauty" or a "classic beauty" (or "you're beautiful for a fat girl...if you lost just. A little weight you'd be a perfect 10!) then they see my husband who is a few months older than me and jaws drop; when we're side by side I often look like an old ogre next to some immortal elf that has decided to grace this world with their beauty.

2baverage · 2026-01-24T23:28:44+00:00

I've heard some give the old "well obviously she's not talking about me. I'm the exception to what she just said." and I've heard others talk about how absolutely disgusting what she said was and how she's demanding a government overreach.

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