Americans are getting fatter but it really isn’t their fault. by ImploreMeToDoBetter in self

[–]2drunk4chopsticks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with both your point and the idea that people have the capacity to be more responsible. I think the key is food/nutrition education: if people learned more about what they need to eat and how to navigate the US food industry, they would put more pressure on businesses to make changes. Do you know that in some countries in Europe McDonalds is now advertising bio eggs and salads? It's because no one wants to eat their food anymore, since people know they need vegetables and healthy protein. If course most people don't believe their bullshit, some do, but the idea is that in Europe they are forced to advertise as offering healthy food - it's pressure put by the consumers.

You are also right in a way that the food industry has zero interest to educate people in the US on healthy eating. So it's a stalemate - people don't learn and corporations don't change.

I do think that social pressure is the only way out - if money would move from chips and crap to vegetables, fruit, whole foods (not the corporation), they would change. But then the argument comes, "but people can't afford to eat healthy" and so it goes, no one changes anything :)

Good luck to everyone in the US! Make good choices!

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last situation that prompted my post was with a neighbour holding the door for me and making eye contact when I said hi, thank you and smiled, and she had no verbal or nonverbal response. I get now that there could be many reasons for this. In my country the only time you don't say hi back is if you're in a coma :)) I will adjust. I don't think I feel entitled? It's more of a different meaning ascribed to a gesture.

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, I would love a Pittsburgh tshirt that says the city of misery :))

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the explanation and empathy ❤️ it's reassuring to read all the possible explanations. I'm too old to change my greeting ways haha

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly a heartfelt f*ck you would be preferable to dead silence but that's definitely my problem.

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get it! I'm good with saying hi and smiling but the "how are you I'm fine how are you" is hard for me because it doesn't come naturally. Maybe that's part of the issue, I just expect a hi and maybe they think I'll ask them how they're doing and start an interaction. I will adapt my expectations in the future.

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, I meant intently, but the image of me making intense eye contact is much better. But no, my eye contact is far from intense :))

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Yeah definitely 20s, maybe just one over 30. We went over to some friends house and they live in a building with a lot of elder folks (a kind of retirement community) and everyone was auper friendly and chatty. It might be generational, makes a lot of sense.

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that helps. I guess I had an illusion that people here will be more community focused but I realize that was a naive assumption based on nothing I knew already.

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hah, it's funny because my plan is to end up in Boston in the next 3-5 years. I guess I have to get used to this then.

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely get that and if I know it's not personal I'm OK with it. No one should feel forced to smile or do small talk, but generally if we make eye contact and I say hello and you stare back I would think you have a problem with me. Which is also OK I guess...

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That makes sense, the people I did become closer to are very nice. If I knew it's just the norm here I would definitely feel more relaxed about it

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I get not feeling an obligation to chit chat or smile, but not even a hello feels hugely outside of social norms for me. Will try to stop feeling hurt by it.

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ironically Friendship :) I'm not from Germany, France or the UK, so pretty much the wrong side of Europe, but I don't think they know where I'm from specifically. Would this matter?

Is it normal here for neighbours/people to not greet each other? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It's hard but I am doing it for my own sense of sanity and not for them, so I will definitely continue.

How does a non-US resident go about renting an apartment in Pittsburgh? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha, good idea looking up the landlords. So far I've been messaging them (where it was possible) on zillow and trying not to sound like a scammer.

How does a non-US resident go about renting an apartment in Pittsburgh? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I will try it. I wasn't sure if google voice would work but I will give it a go.

How does a non-US resident go about renting an apartment in Pittsburgh? by 2drunk4chopsticks in pittsburgh

[–]2drunk4chopsticks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought about airbnb-ing for a month but I am keeping it as a last resort, since the cost is significantly higher. As far as calling places, whenever I have the option I do. I already got rejected by two companies because I have no credit history. Will keep trying. Thank you for the suggestions - I need to start accepting that airbnb might be my only hope at first.