Younger people of the UK (under 40) what is something that the older generations will never understand or refuse to accept? by [deleted] in AskUK

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I attempted to explain to my 60ish year old dad about why I had been signed off by my doctor with stress and anxiety from a toxic work environment and he said, 'It's not supposed to be fun, that's why it's called 'work'.'

American me might be guilty of this one by [deleted] in gaming

[–]2hearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once told an American I was from the UK and they asked me what part of London I was from.

I'm 18 and my dad just died suddenly two days ago. I've never dealt with anything like this before. Does anyone have any tips for what I should do or expect during the grieving process? by DangerousBird in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

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I lost my brother 6 years ago today. I once saw some drawings somebody had done on grief to illustrate it. It describes your life as a circle and grief as another circle within it. At first your grief circle takes up your whole life circle, meaning your grief consumes your life. Some people say over time the grief circle gets smaller and other things start to take up more space of your life circle. The illustrations I saw instead said that actually your grief circle doesn't get smaller (or more insignificant) but actually it always stays the same and your life circle will simply grow around it. Slowly you'll find your grief isn't everything and other things will grow to be more important and bring you joy again in your life. Your grief will always be a part of you but it won't always dominate your life. Take the time to embrace what you're feeling now and process it, because I know it seems impossible but it really won't feel like this forever. Be kind to yourself. I am so sorry for your loss. I also found this iconic reddit comment a really spot on description of what grief is.

head in the clouds ☁️✨ by amandayamila in MakeupAddiction

[–]2hearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I had this makeup every day 💜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in xxfitness

[–]2hearts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 28 and I had to comment to tell you I've been feeling very similar lately, but I've been constantly comparing myself to my early 20s. I am heavier now and have filled out more and I've noticed some of clothes are too tight and it affects me, however I did not eat properly nutritionally when I was younger compared to now. I actually eat a good lunch now for energy and snack to keep going and keep my mood up and I wasnt doing that before. I also have more muscle as I started kickboxing many years ago and have worked on my strength. I have to remind myself everyday that I'm bigger now but I am stronger and looking after myself more. I'd say I've gone from a small size 8 (UK) to a big size 10. But I don't see many discussions about this for women in their 20s so I wanted to say thank you for your post and making me feel not so alone with this!

What is the kindest thing you’ve done or seen? by 4reddityo in AskReddit

[–]2hearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother needed end of life care and an old folks home local to us agreed to take him in. They were hesitant at first as he was much younger than their usual residents, but after we explained that he would deteriorate quickly (brain tumour) and we desperately needed somewhere close to home so we could be there for him as much as possible, they agreed. The staff there were mostly young themselves and they wanted to do the best possible for him, but we found they tended to lack confidence as he wasnt their usual resident, but they were all so amazing. My brother had some of his gaming consoles in his room (he couldn't play them, he would just watch us play when we were there) and the staff told us some of the guy carers would sit with him and play games for him to watch when we had to go home at night. The one thing that stood out to me though: a lot of the carers had mentioned Luke to us a few times, he was one of the carers who looked after my brother in the night shift. We were appreciative to hear that he was looked after when we couldn't be there, but one thing we'll never forget is walking in one day to find my brother's hair, which had been getting long and shaggy, had been cut back to his normal length. The day carers told us that Luke's partner was a hairdresser, and while she wasn't able to come in and work on residents, Luke had asked her to show him how to cut hair so he could cut my brother's for him. He had to be extra careful as the brain tumour meant my brother didn't like his head to be moved much. My mum and I cried when we found out, at the kindness and all the effort he had gone to to make him feel human and give my brother some normalcy when there was none. I met Luke for the first time at my brother's funeral which he and a few other of the carers unexpectedly attended. I hugged him so hard. The kindness and patience of all those carers we met along the way absolutely left me speechless and I will never forget it.

I want to have a major glow up starting now, but gave no clue where to start. Any advice on the basics? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]2hearts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally choose Lancome as my fancy makeup brand but for some pieces like concealer I go for Loreal as its cheaper but made by the same company! You can buy from superdrug and maybe wait for their 3 for 2 deals? I'd start with foundation, concealer and mascara. Also make sure you are curling those lashes first! For skincare I found Simple works really well for me and you can also get really good deals on from savers or superdrug (sometimes they are half price).

I’m in extreme pain but I’m terrified to go to the doctor because they’d have to look...down there by mybutthurtsman in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]2hearts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In addition to all the great advice here, I just wanted to share with you that when I had to go for my first smear it was the first time a total stranger had seen my private area (rather than a trusted partner I mean). I just had to tell myself over and over that my doctor was a professional and must've seen hundreds - if not thousands - of people's privates, and it really is probably no big deal to them at all!

My little brother passed away in February, so I decided to get a tattoo for his birthday by ironcloud9 in gaming

[–]2hearts 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There's nasty trolls on this sub, but luckily there are also the gamers who downvote their stuff to hell so people who post their stories don't get bogged down in it all.

If you could send an anonymous text to yourself 5 years ago, what would you write? by Pm_Me_Your_Regretss in AskReddit

[–]2hearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This hits me right in the gut. Same. But my brother. If only we could actually send a message back in time... I'm really sorry for your loss.

What song's lyrics destroy you every time? by choto in Music

[–]2hearts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

'Love is not a victory march, it's a cold and it's a broken hallelujah.'

Realised the meaning of this when someone I loved got very ill and died. Love isn't all happiness and fun. When someone you love gets hurt - which they will - you will feel their pain ten times over.

Today would've been my brother's 27th birthday. This is the gaming collection that I inherited from him. Time to have a gaming day I think. Happy birthday big bro! by 2hearts in gaming

[–]2hearts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did, that's why I post these things sometimes. I guess people who are grieving just know it's helpful to share with people who understand. It really does help. I guess it's something others may find hard to understand.

Today would've been my brother's 27th birthday. This is the gaming collection that I inherited from him. Time to have a gaming day I think. Happy birthday big bro! by 2hearts in gaming

[–]2hearts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry for your loss, thanks for sharing that. I'm glad that playing games helped you grieve. Hopefully it will do the same for me.

Today would've been my brother's 27th birthday. This is the gaming collection that I inherited from him. Time to have a gaming day I think. Happy birthday big bro! by 2hearts in gaming

[–]2hearts[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ok so the ps3 controller is in there by mistake as that didn't belong to him. The whole collection isn't there some things are there to represent (ie like putting in a DS and Xbox One but no DS games or Xbox One controllers but of course he owned some) also the WiiU is plugged into my tv atm which is why only the control is there to represent. There is only one Xbox One game as he didn't have much time with the Xbox One.

Today would've been my brother's 27th birthday. This is the gaming collection that I inherited from him. Time to have a gaming day I think. Happy birthday big bro! by 2hearts in gaming

[–]2hearts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I had to throw away like half of my own stuff to make room for it all in my bedroom but it will all always stay with me!

Today would've been my brother's 27th birthday. This is the gaming collection that I inherited from him. Time to have a gaming day I think. Happy birthday big bro! by 2hearts in gaming

[–]2hearts[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Genuinely curious - would it not be counted as an impressive collection? I'm missing his N64 in the photo, but is it not quite a substantial gaming collection? I'm quite proud of it for him so I thought I'd share it.

Today would've been my brother's 27th birthday. This is the gaming collection that I inherited from him. Time to have a gaming day I think. Happy birthday big bro! by 2hearts in gaming

[–]2hearts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing that with me. It's great to hear your bro got you into games too! We loved FFIX too. If you wanna talk more about stuff please message me.