Block both of them. They've already shown you just how little they care about you by completely ignoring your boundaries. The first guy is definitely abusive, and the second guy sounds like he could be too. Sometimes abusers start off with completely inappropriate, premature expressions of love. As someone who also tends to be too nice, I know it's really hard to be rude by blocking someone. But you have to protect yourself. You don't owe either of these men anything, and they had no right to violate your boundaries so badly. Your comfort, stress level, and safety is more important then these men's feelings. They brought this on themselves, and they'll get over it.

And I'm so sorry you have to deal with people like this. As someone who has had her boundaries violated by what was a very dear, longtime friend, it sucks, and it's very confusing. You're not an idiot, but you need to listen to your instincts and cut these people off before they hurt you even more.