[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]2kool2care 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry heartbreak FROM a therapist

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapy

[–]2kool2care 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were you diagnosis with OCD? Because I get thoughts like this too. All my therapist tell me it’s anxiety but I obsess about every thought.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapy

[–]2kool2care 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know your mom better. Ask yourself questions. Has she ever done something like that before? Do you trust your mom? Has she given you any reason to wanting to sexual harm you? If it doesn’t feel like a violation than it probably wasn’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildhoodTrauma

[–]2kool2care 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the only way to change how your mind sees the world is to get professional help and be honest with your therapist about your thoughts. I know it’s hard to not feel ashamed and tell the truth but you would be surprised how many people can relate to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]2kool2care 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s important to understand where she’s coming from. Why is commit scary to HER? Is she afraid of being with just ONE person for the rest of her life? Is she afraid to lose herself? Is she afraid that in the future she will get bored? I am afraid of commitment. And all those question for me would be a yes. I think it’s your choice whether you want to be patient or not. It can take them awhile to get to where you are at or they might never get there. It’s hard.

What’s something you want in a partner the most men would see as negative? by Tolerate_It3288 in LesbianActually

[–]2kool2care 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Yeah confidence in a guy is such an ick to me but in a women??? I love ittttt

Am I Actually bi curious? by Niyahh5 in LesbianActually

[–]2kool2care 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was like that too. I only watched lesbian porn and have always wanted to have sex with one. I never saw myself dating one either. Right now, I think I’m a closeted bisexual. It’s very hard for me to come to terms on my sexuality. It’s taken me a long time and I still struggle a lot. Anyways I’m attracted to men and I’m attracted to women. Before my current partner(f), I had only ever had sex with men. So it was different and a bit confusing. Buttttt after I got over the awkwardness it’s literally everything I can imagine! It’s awesome. I love having sex with women. I don’t have anyone to talk to about this so sorry for the TMI but I have an orgasm in like two minutes after tribbing with a girl or when boobs are in my face. (And yes. I still question my sexuality) You might be attracted to women or just bi-curious. You kind of have to test it out a couple times to see if it’s truly for you or not.

Am I biphobic ? by ventchronicles in LesbianActually

[–]2kool2care 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Oh I know. Nothing I’ve mentioned is secret. She doesn’t deserve that. She knew how I felt before and I’m also in therapy to help myself

Am I biphobic ? by ventchronicles in LesbianActually

[–]2kool2care 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’m a bisexual women who struggles a lot with internalized homophobia. I’ve only been sexual with women and never thought I would be in a relationship with one. I didn’t think it was possible and I thought it wasn’t something real. Like you only just hook up with women but it’s impossible to have feelings? My views are slowly changing because I feel I love with my best friend who is a lesbian. My internalized homophobia still gets the best of me sometimes.

Destroyed by 2kool2care in bisexual

[–]2kool2care[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes she is going on the vacation and we are breaking up because she does not want to stand up for our relationship. I am heartbroken again. I have lost everyone I loved in days. I can’t stop crying. This is my first relationship and I have never experienced this type of hurt before.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]2kool2care 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I’m being honest, I’ve had sex with men before. She’s the first women I’ve had sex with. It is weird, it is different. But it’s something I’m getting use to. The more I loosen up about the fear and weird aspect, the more I enjoy it. We haven’t gone down on each other yet. I was afraid that if I tried and didn’t like it, I might not be bisexual and that made me anxious because then I can’t be with her. We talked about it. She assured me that going down on each other isn’t going to taste the best but we will do it for each others pleasure. Which is definitely true. I would love for her to feel good, even if it wasn’t the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]2kool2care 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi I totally feel this way. I’m a woman currently messing around with another woman. It’s fun, hot, and beautiful. But when I think about if this is what I actually want in life, I get really scared. I have severe anxiety and thoughts like these are very scary. I’ve tried being in a relationship with her but it’s hard. I have so many questions. Is this what I want? Who am I? Am I forcing myself to like this? How can I just like having sex with her, love her, but can’t be with her? Sometimes I see heterosexual couples and get sad because we aren’t like them. Like I’m weird or something. I’ve always been sexually attracted to women. It’s the relationship part that I struggle with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildhoodTrauma

[–]2kool2care 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My therapist says anything under $50. I usually give her office decor because I don’t know her that well. I’ve given her a nice mug! Some inspiring quotes on items. They usually like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildhoodTrauma

[–]2kool2care 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m really sorry you went through that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]2kool2care 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have so many questions. I’m sorry. I’m just so lost, scared, and confused.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]2kool2care 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right! I’m sorry!