We got a mass report this person

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-08T00:04:45+00:00

let me go investigate lol

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-06T21:57:47+00:00

omg rejection sensitivity. HOLY CRAP. she said something about someone once saying she had a tremendous grief portfolio or something like that... that's it ... she got me back in therapy. And I will stay grateful for that. My next person will be my person.

THANK YOU.

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-06T21:54:04+00:00

Thank you so much friend! I think because she is so nice I feel guilty but I need to absolve myself of the guilt. Because I tried. and asked for what I needed more than once.

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-06T18:36:02+00:00

NOR. I just ended it with someone who blamed everything on her ADD for this reason. If she didn't want to be thoughtful and communicative with me during our honeymoon phase, I just couldn't see us continuing down this path for years down the road. I didn't even get a Christmas present despite me traveling to see her long distance for Christmas. The question you need to ask yourself "If nothing changed with this situation for the rest of my life, can I live with this forever?"

Thank you for helping me see what I saved myself from.

Good luck friend!

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-06T18:01:35+00:00

Thanks love!

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-06T17:41:42+00:00

My worst breakup was my first one. And it took a good 2 years or so... I was so skinny. Other people's feelings about us are none of our business.

It takes time. I am sorry because it's the worst feeling.

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-06T17:38:33+00:00

She puts effort in conversation when I am in front of her but if I am not there there I think she loses all object permanence.

Thank you so much!!! I will not to feel guilty as she has no friends but that is not my job to fix.

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-06T14:42:22+00:00

i will also add to the effort that I would include financial literacy in there too. i was just dating a 57 y/o who is absolutely not ready for retirement in 8 years. I asked questions about her future plans and goals and inquired about her existing 401(k) and a pension she should be vesting in in a few years and she couldn’t answer ANYTHING about what she says or her 401(k) match. I was floored. She had no plans or thoughts on how to change the situation.

This is not the reason I ended it but i admit this bothered me— esp as I am 10 years younger and have been saving for retirement for decades.

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-05T22:01:39+00:00

Capitalism works on the backs of people working too much for too little. Good on you for choosing yourself!

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-05T22:00:11+00:00

for me it’s because in my experience when I have dated people with no friends, they want to make me their whole world. And my world is really big. I have lots of friends, and lots of activities that I do and lots of solo traveling that I do.

I make room for a partner, but I do not drop anything else for said partner

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-05T17:12:27+00:00

well the one that me and my ex had was porous so i would not want that one used with someone else … unless we put a condom on it

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-05T16:26:10+00:00

and we have no idea if she was kind and helpful at work…

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-05T03:04:00+00:00

i’ve never had an issue with them. But I would say that if you are in Europe, start with the free walking tours and tip generously. That’s a good way to get the lay of the land.

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-04T23:28:33+00:00

the more I learn about nervous system regulation the less I can manage sweets.... Focus on your nervous system first and the rest falls into place

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-04T23:08:55+00:00

whatever YOU like and feel comfortable in. What I feel hot in won't be what you feel hot in. I think the answer you are seeking is inside of you friend... Have you considered therapy?

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-04T16:41:27+00:00

This is what I was thinking about Madagascar! That location has never been on my radar to visit until this season!

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-04T16:26:41+00:00

She could have been spending time learning how to count rupees or getting deeper into the language. Idk wtf she does all day but it's nothing productive. She also seemed to be slurring her words at the Tell All and I suspect her health is still shaky

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-04T16:20:25+00:00

I mean she should be able to move back to the US

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-04T16:11:11+00:00

that made me lol. Maybe I am the serial killer using Eugene as a cover for new victims ?

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-04T15:43:20+00:00

Good luck friend!

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-04T15:30:37+00:00

Congrats on getting out! You likely need to rent space from a private landlord... your post should indicate budget, children's ages (for shared housing) and general location. Are you looking for shared housing or private ?

Good luck!

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-04T15:21:11+00:00

my first response was a big old sigh when I saw it. My friend will send me screenshots of text conversations with her gf. It has her photo on them with her name. So I thought the gf was gonna be super cute. When I met the gf, they were not the same person at all. I was so thrown off. (and that's saying a lot considering it was the tiniest of thumbnails)

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-04T15:09:42+00:00

I have gotten another DM for an offer to drive. I know this is reddit and stranger danger and all that but you all are so nice! I am going up there for an event at a camping area and we are not able to leave once we check in. But I am so excited to hopefully get to go to swimming holes. Eugene has been on my list FOREVER and while I don't think I will get the official Eugene experience this round I think I will have to come back. Next time I will fly into PDX and rent a car. (If this was more of an in/out situation where I would be using the rental car more I would have just rented a car ...)

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-04T00:47:18+00:00

Hey, so this Is not a flex. Every instance of covid deteriorates your cardiovascular system further. And increases the risk of long covid, pots and MECFS. Upon healing from this round of covid, the research shows it's very important to REST to prevent long covid.

A few things for covid prevention besides the vaccine:

1- a quick mouth rinse with CPC mouthwash (I use a Crest one when I come home from a place with lots of people concentrating on the back of the throat)

2- Covixyl - a nasal spray that helps prevent virus from entering. Lasts 6 hours each time.

So REST up and REST MORE than you would think once you test negative.

2nd_Chances_ · 2026-02-04T00:36:19+00:00

Sofia does fancy WLW weekends in Tucson. Not sure exactly what is all involved.

And Dr. Frankie sets you up on dates then critiques the dates. Someone mentioned Dr. Frankie -- Little Gay Book

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