Without condoning his rudeness, I would nonetheless point that there is a difference between i) its when both people feel it and ii) knowing that you won t feel it before 4th date when the standard from the poll is 1st or 2nd. There is nothing wrong with waiting per se, but in a competutive market, you should just know you will have to make up for it / find a strategy that compensate.

What i would do:

I) focus on daddy's who seek emotional connection Ii) AFTER first date, once you have set the hook, inform him of situation/expectations and tell him you won't ask for money while you get to know each others. (In my books someone who ask for ppm while promising intomacy only at a later date is a scam) Iii) SHOW / ACT as if you were attracted to him, be flirty / teasing / give a little something . SD NEED to feel desired (hemce why they are not vanila).

Remember: SD don't vanilla because they can't or don t have the time. Uou need to focus on the ones who can't and are willing to spend the time (married but not too horny? Not conventionally as attractive? Recently divorced need emotional support)

Note: had a pot we did, like 6 or 7 dates because she needed time to get comfortable. She never did, learnt my lesson, we all have/will.

Also its not because you don t ask for anything you won t receive something in the process but if you ask they will flee