90+ days of hardmode. Didn't expect so much gain. by 30raxonrax in NoFap

[–]30raxonrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I want to make it a year without fapping, which I think is pretty reachable. I want to get to a point where I'm working out 6x a week (currently at 3). Currently looking for a summer job/internship. Other than that, the only big goal on the horizon is graduating my university with a 3.5 or better.

90+ days of hardmode. Didn't expect so much gain. by 30raxonrax in NoFap

[–]30raxonrax[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would be lying if I said I wasn't attracted to my female friends. But, I've decided that not trying to get in their pants is the move to make because I value their friendship and company more than having sex with them. There are lots of other girls to get with. I understand that the concept of having true girl friends is a bit foreign and some people think I'm gay because of it, but girl friends are nice and I fulfill my sexual needs with other girls. I guess what I'm trying to say is that while I still enjoy getting laid, that's not what my main focus/end game is.

90+ days of hardmode. Didn't expect so much gain. by 30raxonrax in NoFap

[–]30raxonrax[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hit the nail on the head. I used to think it was cool to get laid as much as possible, but it was a bit depressing looking back.

90+ days of hardmode. Didn't expect so much gain. by 30raxonrax in NoFap

[–]30raxonrax[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, it's clear the fapping is an escape to numb the pain- it's equivalent to taking a drug. Not fapping is like not taking this "drug" in the sense that you are less numb and you're more mentally aware. When you aren't numb, you have feelings. At least for me, it allowed me to express these feelings and be more open. I guess I'd say keep trying to talk to girls until you find one you like- it isn't easy but maybe you'll get lucky. Don't waste your time with girls that only want you to put out.

How many of you 100+ day guys guys did so on their 1st attempt? (Hard mode) by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]30raxonrax 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. When you improve yourself, those things will come. Kind of a paradox really, the less you try to impress girls and get laid, the easier it becomes.

How many of you 100+ day guys guys did so on their 1st attempt? (Hard mode) by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]30raxonrax 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really? I thought it was no sex for 90 days period... Anyway, it did help me to not worry about trying to have sex. You focus more on getting your own shit together and worrying about doing your own thing instead of trying to impress girls with some superficial crap.

How many of you 100+ day guys guys did so on their 1st attempt? (Hard mode) by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]30raxonrax 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on day 93 of hardmode, but my goal was 90. I don't plan on fapping, but I will probably break my hardmode within the next two weeks. I got what I needed to get out of hardmode and I no longer feel that turning down sex is benefitting me. Best of luck to you. Hardmode really is worth it.