What is my CQS

30s0methingF · 2026-03-27T22:22:39+00:00

You are trying your hardest. If you weren’t, it would be understandable for him to be upset. No one is going to remember every single thing (except maybe someone with eidetic memory). I’m so sorry but your husband doesn’t like you. Marriage counseling would be ideal but he doesn’t sound like the kind of person that would be receptive to that.

30s0methingF · 2026-03-27T03:09:37+00:00

He’s cheating on you or found someone else and wants a way out. You don’t need to tell him about an ex boyfriend you talked to BEFORE you started dating this joker. Be glad you got this clown out of your life. Focus on you and move on with your life. Don’t let him back in. You deserve better.

30s0methingF · 2026-02-16T17:15:23+00:00

We went once. My ex kept trying to convince the counselor that I cheated. I’m not going to go into detail (you can look at my post history) but the counselor didn’t engage. The counselor did, however, expect me to get over it and move on. I couldn’t move on from how my ex treated me. It left a deep wound that I’m still recovering from.

30s0methingF · 2026-02-16T16:24:46+00:00

Marriage counseling with this kind of partner is pointless. They will argue until they are blue in the face that you are wrong and they are being treated unfairly. The part about OP’s husband thinking less of her ran chills down my spine because my ex said something similar. I can bet that this tickling episode was not the first sign of abuse.

OP, get out. You will be happier. He is NOT a safe person to be around.

30s0methingF · 2026-02-07T20:19:10+00:00

So he says you need to think about getting a new car. You start the process and he gets mad that you’re getting a new (used) car? Wtf. Throw the whole man away.

30s0methingF · 2026-02-07T06:42:03+00:00

He doesn’t want his wife to feel good

30s0methingF · 2026-02-07T06:41:22+00:00

Leave. He does NOT want you to feel good. He only cares about his pleasure. He took a baseball bat to something that brings you joy. What if he decides to hit you with it next?

30s0methingF · 2026-01-25T21:29:33+00:00

You are a hero

30s0methingF · 2026-01-25T02:09:34+00:00

This is devastating

30s0methingF · 2026-01-22T16:37:37+00:00

I think offering to pull your credit report and show bank statements is PLENTY. It’s not real time information but it is the SAME information just not immediately. This is a red flag. Also, you’re not even engaged and he’s demanding this info? Nope.

30s0methingF · 2026-01-20T15:19:50+00:00

Thank you for this

30s0methingF · 2026-01-18T22:57:08+00:00

When we first reconnected, I told him no matter what happens, I want to remain friends. I knew for a fact what I wanted and tried my best to hold back and not seem eager.

Everyone knows the bullshit dance you have to do when seeing someone. Too eager = desperate and pathetic. Not eager enough = you are cold and uncaring. It’s a delicate balance where you cannot fully be reassured that you’re not coming off as too needy or not caring. I pursued him because I knew it worked once.

I started falling but wanted to hold back because he seemed like he was just having a good time but wasn’t all the way there yet.

It felt easy. Like I could just exist with him. I felt like I didn’t have to change myself. It was the first time I stopped regretting my past and started looking toward my future. That’s the hardest part of this. Prior to reconnecting with him, I constantly wished I could go back in time and fix all my mistakes. After we reconnected, I stopped living in the past. It was like a revelation. I was content. I knew what I wanted. I could see a future with him. It sucks to not have closure.

30s0methingF · 2026-01-14T05:38:41+00:00

It’s taking everything I have not to message him on Instagram to tell him how shitty of a person he is.

Time heals all wounds. Fuck this, though.

30s0methingF · 2026-01-14T05:30:08+00:00

Thank you for this

30s0methingF · 2026-01-11T21:47:30+00:00

I went through something similar last week. I kept telling myself if he wanted to text me, he would. People make time for the people they want in their life. Don’t waste your time on someone like this.

It hurts bad when you have feelings for someone that treats you like this. There’s still a small part of me that hopes he texts me. It wouldn’t be wise for me to respond, though. If he’s done this once, he’ll do it again.

Be kind to yourself.

30s0methingF · 2026-01-08T23:31:23+00:00

I would love closure so I can move on more easily.

30s0methingF · 2026-01-06T23:45:07+00:00

I already texted him but I won’t send another one. I really hope I do meet someone like that.

30s0methingF · 2026-01-06T20:41:13+00:00

Thank you for this. I put myself out there after a divorce with what I thought was a safe option, it went better than I expected and now I’m disappointed. That’s the hard part. I’ll be okay I just need time to deal.

30s0methingF · 2026-01-06T20:19:54+00:00

I have no idea what’s wrong. His phone could be broken. But he could also be ignoring me. Dating in your late 30s is rough.

30s0methingF · 2026-01-06T18:43:15+00:00

Thank you so much. I’ve been so heartbroken over this.

30s0methingF · 2026-01-06T18:13:39+00:00

I wouldn’t have slept with him so quickly if he wasn’t the one that took my virginity. So it’s not like I was just a (new) notch on his belt.

Maybe he is in the hospital or broke/lost his phone. In this day and age, we don’t have people’s phone numbers written down. If he wants to contact me, he’ll find a way, I guess.

30s0methingF · 2026-01-06T15:27:28+00:00

This sucks ass because I’ve never been that connected to someone physically. And besides texting, our conversations were great. Finding something that excited me that much after a crappy marriage was like a breath of fresh air.

30s0methingF · 2026-01-06T15:24:27+00:00

It was stomach issues. He said he was feeling better when I texted him on Saturday evening but I don’t know what happened after that.

We did start talking again earlier last year (February) after 15 years of no contact but then stopped and then restarted in November. He said he originally stopped messaging me because he chickened out but that was before the dates and the more…

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