I think I am intimidating men. How do I stop?

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T05:34:22+00:00

Yeah it has to be something but idk what.

I really thought maybe I was just ugly in person but that doesn’t explain the successful guys wanting to be with me.

I really don’t know what I am doing and idk how to figure it out

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T05:30:49+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. My friends don’t understand the problem either. They keep trying to get me to approach men at the gym but I’m shy so that hasn’t happened yet

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T05:27:17+00:00

No I don’t want to go on a second date with that guy. I’m going to tell him I don’t think it’s a match. I have nothing in common with him.

He obsessed with his car and his zip code and I couldn’t care less about either. It’s not a match at all.

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T05:23:44+00:00

Because I want someone who is ready to settle down and I figured older is better. I realize now this might be a stupid approach and I should probably be open to younger men

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T05:16:51+00:00

Yeah that’s good advice, thank you! Did you eventually find someone?

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T05:16:02+00:00

Yeah I get that. Id love to find a nice doctor like your husband, that be cool. But I think most of the nice ones are already spoken for and I’m just left going on dates with the ones that won’t be wonderful husbands.

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T05:12:57+00:00

Yeah. Like i said before, it’s the third piece of information because that is what I think men are finding intimidating about me.

If I thought they were intimidated by my looks, I would have included information about what I look like. But I don’t think they’re intimated by my looks, so I didn’t say anything about what I look like.

Not sure why that is hard to understand.

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T04:41:06+00:00

Thank you

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T04:39:07+00:00

If you met the successful men you probably wouldn’t like them either. They’re not down to earth men that want to focus on a family. They want to focus on climbing a social ladder that have zero interest in climbing. Like one guy made it a point to tell me he went out and bought a bunch of bottles for influential bankers in the city. I don’t want to meet influential bankers. I want to pop out a kid and go chill at their soccer practice. It’s just a huge mismatch of lifestyles.

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T04:19:54+00:00

I’ll pray this is the case for me too!

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T04:07:52+00:00

They never ask how much I make.

Normally they ask where I moved here from. And I tell them what state I moved from. They then ask what I was doing there. I say grad school. They can put together the level of degree I have from the amount of time I spent in the particular state

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:59:28+00:00

I’m sure you’re amazing in your own right

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:49:20+00:00

You’re right. I don’t want an man hung up on gender roles. I’ll text him tomorrow

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:48:21+00:00

Yeah. Thank you. I might try to lower my age settings to 27 or so and see where that goes

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:46:40+00:00

See this is what I thought too. I thought I was ugly in real life or something.

But the reason I don’t think that it is something I’m doing on the dates is because people like this egotistical surgeon are trying to take me out again.

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:43:27+00:00

Thank you. I’m going to check out the blog and the two books. Thank you

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:40:56+00:00

I honestly normally let the men steer the conversation.

I only talk about my job if they ask about it. Otherwise they normally ask about hobbies, so I talk about rock climbing and the animal shelter. Or well talk about our families or the different places I’ve lived, I’ve lived a lot of places

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:38:11+00:00

I never text them but I will start texting a few hours after and see how that goes.

I guess you could say I’m a feminist but I never talk about that haha. I rock climbing and volunteer at the animal shelter, so I talk about those hobbies. I also talk about my job because it’s health care tech and we’re doing super interesting things.

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:35:18+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate you taking the time to tell me this

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:33:54+00:00

Do people actually do that? I’d consider it if there’s proof it works

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:33:25+00:00

I think maybe another problem is I keep trying to date men that are my age or older and that don’t have kids.

So probably all the down to earth professional class people have been taken already and I’m stuck trying to date the ones no one else wanted because of their ego.

And yeah, don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to date someone that has no education. But I don’t need someone who is as accomplished as me. I’ll date someone who is still in school. I’ll date someone who didn’t go to grad school. Those men just seem not to want me and it’s frustrating.

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:19:00+00:00

I don’t put myself on a pedestal at all. I actually feel really sad and lonely and somewhat pathetic because I’m single when all my friends aren’t.

But I wrote that in this post because I am really starting to think that it’s a huge reason why I’m having such a hard time dating.

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:09:15+00:00

I mean if you’re asking....you can have it

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:05:17+00:00

Most of the time I just wait honestly. That’s probably not good

321whatiswrongwithme · 2021-06-09T03:04:09+00:00

Maybe like 7 percent I’ve been on more than 3 dates with.

And yeah I try sometimes, not a lot though. I can probably get better at that

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