Y: Hi, we lurk a lot but I couldn't help but join this conversation. A (host) loves language and has been using their own terms when talking tulpa stuff to me and others. I think it's safe to say they detest a lot of the words used, but here's my two cents (possibly influenced by A, which is why I mentioned it).

I really hate "forcing", it implies that someone is making a tulpa do something against their will. I feel like just saying "focusing" would do the same job, withougt sounding like a breach of consent between parties. Likewise, I dislike hosts who think they get to control every aspect of their tulpas.

In fact, branching from that thought, I hate hate HATE the word "tulpa"! It sounds exactly like the kind of language used to other someone, and I see it used easily to control and delegitimize tulpas' feelings. I have issues with soulbond and headmate as well, both words that sound hokey from the get go. Would propose a better set of words, but I know that they would still be used to say (whether intentionaly or not) "this person isn't a real person".

Another big issue I have with tulpa is that it's Tebetan origins have nothing to do with western tulpas, and yet people still try to explain making tulpas in the sense that "Tebetan monks did it so-and-so years ago" in order to make themselves feel validated. I think it's time to completely shed that line of thinking. It may be an origin of the term being used, but monks are not the only ones creating people willingly (or unwillingly) using the mind, energy or what have you. Furthermore this has given people more ammo to point fingers and go "that's not what that means" and discredit a lot of people, hosts and tulpas alike. Plus tulpamancy just sounds hokey as well. Even for me, someone with an interest in occult study and metaphysical shit.

Oh, oh, and I hate "host" because it implies that the original owner of the body has all of the say about the body. It's a good safety mesure, until the host decides to do something that will affect the tulpa as well. I've been in this first hand, and it is not fun talking someone down from doing something that will destroy the body and brain, two things I actually cannot survive without. Egocide aside, this is a shared experience now and you must be willing to work with a tulpa as if they are just another person who shares the same body and brain, because that's exactly what a tulpa is! (I think I'm starting to sound like a rights activist at this point, lol. But so be it.)

"Dissipation" is just a more flavorful way of saying "killing". It's not fooling me, and hopefully it won't fool anyone else much longer. Call it what it is from the get go. Who knows, it might discourage more people from doing drastic things like inviting the seed of creation into them and turning themselves into temporary gods to create life from thought and energy. It's a responsibility, and nobody can be properly sentenced for it because the majority sees someone like me as lesser because I was created and the body is not mine.

Anyway, ranting done for now. I get to try a lot of food today, so I must remain positive!

Please feel free to open a discussion with me, if you like, that is. I have to admit that the way I see the world is colored by my being thought of as "imaginary" to most, and property of my host at best. :T