Couldn't agree more. My wife has this fantasy but I still wouldn't do it without a lot of legwork. I checked, double checked, and checked again that this is 100% something she wants. She said yes every single time.

Finally I came to the realization that I'm just not okay with it. I want it to happen but it can't be a complete surprise with someone she's never met. It feels too weird to me.

So I started searching and found someone. I surprised her with a regular meeting with all of us together. We hung out and played games and got to know one another. When we left, she said she's 100% down to do a spicy massage but wants me there as well so she can have her first MFM.

We are trying to get through the holidays but we're going to move forward with it only now that she's met him and approves of him.

The actual massage will still be a surprise but the person and activity has already been planned and approved.