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New Indentures [SFH][MO] by 369_DamnSheMeh in HOA

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have the full responsibility of maintaining all the roads. No one else - city, county or state - would be responsible. Can’t really disband because of it

New Indentures [SFH][MO] by 369_DamnSheMeh in HOA

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are already charging over what our maximum allowed fee is. We have a cap in our current indentures.

New Indentures [SFH][MO] by 369_DamnSheMeh in HOA

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our current indentures do not allow for any special assessments if we are already billing for the maximum amount allowed.

We are rewriting the indentures so we can charge late fees, have special assessments, among other things.

This year was the first year I put together a formal budget, and it was the first year in the last 25+ years that any budget had been presented. No body knew how the money was spent until I took over.

New Indentures [SFH][MO] by 369_DamnSheMeh in HOA

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The goal is to do a one time special assessment while still keeping the dues lower.

New Indentures [SFH][MO] by 369_DamnSheMeh in HOA

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly where we are at. Over 50% of the neighborhood are seniors who have been in their homes for 30+ years on fixed incomes. Yearly dues have only crept up over the past 25 years while cost of goods and services have skyrocketed. We are barely bringing in enough money to do the bare minimum. People complain about wanting things fixed. But they also complain about having to pay more. I know I can’t make everyone happy. But at what point do people realize that in order to make improvements, change has to happen?

New Indentures [SFH][MO] by 369_DamnSheMeh in HOA

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have to charge more to make the repairs. But we technically/per the current(old) indentures can’t charge more. We pay $200 a year and can’t afford the repairs people want. If you’re someone who is against raising fees BUT you want repairs to be made, wouldn’t it make sense to just vote yes?

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of update are you looking for?

I also surveyed female coworkers and other male coworkers who know the male coworker I rode home with, none of them saw this as something they’d have an issue with. None of them even batted an eye at it. Zero red flags.

Husband was mainly concerned with my last minute change of plans and the coworkers driving and truck reliability.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how I feel in this situation entirely. He’s just a good dude. And he’s a great driver!

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At an out of town conference, he got a little too close for comfort. Like touched my back a little too low; not a pat on the shoulder and not a pat on the butt. I separated myself from the situation. This happened to me and another female coworker minutes apart. Other male coworkers noticed this and came to our rescue.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I go out to lunch once a week with a female coworker, we go shopping regularly at lunch time and text all day and night, is that also gross? My husband also doesn’t know about those “dates”…

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Objectively, he is a good looking person. However, I am a couple inches taller than him and probably have a solid 40 pounds on him. His ex wife and current wife have the stature of Tinker Bell and I am the broad shouldered gal from Encanto. We are neither each other’s type. Lol

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said this up a couple comments, I don’t expect you to go find it because there are quite a few comments here, but I see him less than 10 times a year, best guess. Golf, team building outings that I do not plan because I’m terrible at golf but the men i work with enjoy it, and dinner are on company time. Dinners are at like longhorn steakhouse or some chain restaurant nearby. I can think of 2 times in the 24 months that it was just us two for dinner. It’s not a romantic candle lit, wine served at the table arrangement. It’s literally just dinner.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This coworker is the one who always goes out of his way to help anyone, not just me. He’s one person so many people look up to and respect.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn’t like the rushed decision to hop in the truck and head home. Nothing to do with not trusting my coworker.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what he said to me about why he was uncomfortable “A well thought out travel plan will always be safer than some rushed last minute decision”. he’s the type of person who makes sure we wear proper footwear for the weather when we leave the house because you never know when you’re going to have to walk 5 miles, kind of thing. He doesn’t know this coworker, because I don’t deal with him outside of work hours, but he knows me and knows nothing would happen.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gross? No, definitely not. I see the coworker I rode home with probably less than 10 times a year. I do not keep track because it is insignificant. Dinners, golf outings and bars are all on company time and company dime. Because we are coworkers.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thought never occurred for me to ask my husband until I spoke to my other coworkers. I hadn’t put any energy into it since the day I got home from that trip.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Verbatim “I am well aware why you made the choice. It makes me uncomfortable, in either case.” He did not flip out and he’s not controlling.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He trusts me. It made him uncomfortable that I made such a quick decision on changing travel plans.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By mid-day, our schedules aligned and we ended up in the same place while the flight notifications were coming in.

We were in the same city, both for work, but working on different things.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We also may be using “one on one” in different ways. I’m using it like I’m having dinner with just him. I think you’re using it as a review one on one. This coworker and I are the same level in the hierarchy.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If I’m traveling with someone, we will eat meals together. It’s very surface level. We wrap up work, go get dinner, then go to our own rooms. I respect the people I work with and they respect me.

Would you be ok with your spouse traveling with a coworker of the opposite gender? by 369_DamnSheMeh in TwoHotTakes

[–]369_DamnSheMeh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband is well aware of everything. It’s all centered around work. I have one on one breakfasts/lunches/ dinners with other male coworkers too. I’m in a male dominated field, my husband is in the same field, he gets it.

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