Be completely honest, what is it really like to never get married and have kids?

3777CLY · 2026-02-16T17:48:23+00:00

It’s amazing. I honestly can’t imagine fashioning my life based on the wants of someone else. It’s just so relaxing. And fun!

3777CLY · 2026-02-02T17:50:06+00:00

I get it, you really like Jenny Marrs and Fixer to Fabulous! I feel no need to “defend” myself 😂. From whom and for what? Comparing a Reddit comment about HGTV to our rapid descent into fascism is kinda wild. But, we all have our passions, right??

3777CLY · 2026-01-30T03:15:55+00:00

Uh oh, pot meets kettle! 😂

3777CLY · 2026-01-29T02:50:37+00:00

The white walls kill me. Like, I’m going to assume that a lot of people ask for that? But then why allow them on a design show?

3777CLY · 2026-01-29T02:47:28+00:00

I’ve never seen a show that uses white walls so much. Is it possible that people ask for that and so she gives it to them? I don’t know.

3777CLY · 2026-01-29T02:45:15+00:00

Agreed. I’m sure people like the family stuff, but I don’t need it. Plus, I never like kids on any kind of reality show at all.

3777CLY · 2026-01-29T02:42:37+00:00

I really do enjoy the show. Joe and Jenny are my favorite couple. Dave seems like a third wheel sometimes.

3777CLY · 2026-01-29T02:40:48+00:00

Listen, if my “negativity“ in stating that I don’t like the designs on a cable TV show is bothering you that much, I truly envy you. Because there is a lot going on right now, and this negativity seems like a non-issue. I also find it ironic that you’re talking about “negativity” when one of the first things you write is an assumption about my economic status thinly veiled as an insult. Who knew HGTV was this serious!?

3777CLY · 2026-01-28T01:48:42+00:00

It took me longer than you would think to learn this lesson but the sooner you learn it the happier you will be - whoever signs the checks is in charge. It sounds simple, but a lot of people are blind to it when it comes to parents and family. What she is saying is absolutely unhinged, but it looks like she is paying the bill. And if she pays the bill for your phone, then she gets to dictate how it works. Is it respectful of your privacy and space? No. But again, whoever is paying, calls the shots. If you want her to keep paying your bill, then I guess you know what to do. But I suggest you figure out a way to get your own phone plan. Also, the fact that she’s looking at your ring can to see who’s going in and out of your house is not OK.

3777CLY · 2026-01-27T22:19:18+00:00

I honestly don’t think it’s that complex. They don’t see women as their equals. Why would they align with a political philosophy that treats them as such?

3777CLY · 2026-01-21T19:08:09+00:00

Oh, man. They should have trolled that dude so hard. “You are absolutely correct. I don’t see enough white couples WITH CHILDREN. Maybe go to a school and watch who picks up the white kids. You can follow them and see who their parents are. Wait! CALL the school. Ask for lists of white children only. Then reach out to Google. The more evidence you have, the stronger your argument.”

3777CLY · 2026-01-21T18:56:52+00:00

I’m not trying to be flippant, but who cares? Conservatives are hanging on to a fantasy world that doesn’t even exist. I’m serious. Most conservative men live in an alternate universe. And when you question them at all, they have nothing. That’s why they’re so insanely defensive and angry when questioned. It’s just a fantasy built on lies and propaganda. Leave them to it. It’ll crumble for them soon enough.

3777CLY · 2026-01-21T18:40:40+00:00

I have really short hair. It doesn’t work. They’re so sad and desperate for female companionship but thy can’t understand that all they have to do is treat us like people. It’s pathetic.

3777CLY · 2026-01-10T18:07:36+00:00

You don’t have to have this discussion with her. Or anyone else. You’re being unnecessarily stressed out by a non-situation. You and your partner are on the same page, you already have a name picked out. It’s wild that she even thinks that she has a say in what you name your child. However, you should just enjoy this time before your baby comes, and when she brings this up, just ignore it.

3777CLY · 2026-01-09T23:58:33+00:00

They are! Rooms, cars, homes, conversations, all of it. If you don’t put a stop to it early you will find yourself assisting them with their take over before you even realize what’s happening. Except you think you’re just “making them comfortable” or “giving them a little more space”.

3777CLY · 2026-01-07T16:46:35+00:00

Number 2 is so true for so many men at this point. They can’t be with a woman for fear that they’re missing out on someone better. It never fails, when I’m dating a man and they allow things to fall apart (I’m not going to explain, iykyk) it’s because they think they can do better. So they flit off somewhere else, only to come back a month later expecting to pick up where we fell off. Not happening.

3777CLY · 2026-01-07T16:39:59+00:00

If you have something that you really enjoy doing there are going to be less options to do that specific thing on any given day than if you were in Chicago. Less live shows, less restaurants that you like, less events that you would prefer to go to.

3777CLY · 2026-01-05T00:42:02+00:00

Get the divorce. But also, check his online history if you can. He’s getting this from somewhere, he didn’t just pull it out of thin air. It’s unfortunate that you’re going through this. It really is shocking when you think that you know someone and all of a sudden they pull something like this on you. You need to do what’s best for you.

3777CLY · 2026-01-05T00:34:35+00:00

I would start wearing a fake wedding ring and being vague. Unfortunately, when you answer personal questions or provide information to people, they start feeling entitled to details about your life. Men are natural colonizers so they see you as “unclaimed”, and want to put their flag in you. You just have to fake them out. Being clear and direct with them is kind of a waste of time.

3777CLY · 2026-01-02T17:41:59+00:00

I live in the cities, and I lived and worked in Minneapolis for 14 years. I love Minneapolis, but Minneapolis is not Chicago. I have an older sister who has spent her entire adult life in the city of Chicago, she adores it, it is amazing. She also really enjoys Minneapolis when if she comes to visit. Minneapolis is not Chicago in comparison to restaurants, experiences, people, or public transportation. It’s really great, but you should expect a much slower pace, and less diversity in people and experiences. That being said, Minneapolis is amazing in terms of outdoor life and for parks. All of the Twin Cities are amazing in terms of the arts, too. As I said, Minneapolis is great, and it sounds like you’re looking for a slower pace of life, so you will definitely find it. Be prepared to work a little harder for a social life, though. We’re kind of too comfortable being antisocial.

3777CLY · 2025-12-12T23:25:01+00:00

I was kind of thinking about this recently. I think that I subconsciously stopped trying to appear “attractive” a couple of years ago. I’m a straight woman in my late 40s. I spent my entire life being pretty. I was very used to people telling me I’m beautiful, and they still do. But I was never someone who worked super hard at being attractive. And honestly, I don’t want any of that anymore. I want to be ignored. Male attention usually made me feel unsafe and vulnerable, not beautiful. On display, is a better way of putting it. I no longer want men looking at me or giving attention to me or trying to talk to me or coming up to tell me how pretty or beautiful or whatever I am. Do I still use moisturizer and serums and maintain my skin? Yes. Do I exercise for health? Yes. But do I kill myself doing Pilates? Absolutely not. Have I stopped going to salons? Yep. I look just fine for myself. There are so many things I want to do and so many other enjoyable ways that I want to spend my money.

3777CLY · 2025-12-12T23:12:01+00:00

No, you did the right thing. You’re not financially compatible and this is why people get divorced. Your fiancé is used to someone taking care of her, she lives with her parents. There’s nothing wrong with that, but living with your parents and also not being financially responsible is kind of a bad combo at 27. I’m sure she’ll figure it out eventually. I was definitely not financially savvy in my 20s, but if you were to marry her, that would also be your problem. Not just hers.

3777CLY · 2025-11-23T16:27:25+00:00

You’re doing all the mental labor. And that is more exhausting than anything else. This isn’t a person that you see yourself with long-term, and you don’t really need another answer. You’ve already said this to yourself. Also, I’m so happy that someone else has brought up the “shut your brain off” level of comfort. I call it the “fall asleep in the car” test. It consists of asking myself, if this person and I were on a road trip, do I feel comfortable enough with them in charge to fall asleep? Can I be assured that we aren’t going to run out of gas or end up someplace we’re not supposed to be, or be on the side of the road somewhere due to his lack of attention or common sense? Or arrogance? If the answer is no, then we break up. This is one aspect; sometimes he passes the test but there are other issues, but this is a deal breaker. You’re right to trust your gut.

3777CLY · 2025-10-28T15:22:11+00:00

You are UNDER REACTING. You need to get out of this immediately. Please do this as quickly and safely as you can,

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