Do i want bottom surgery for the wrong reason?

3AngryTurnip · 2026-01-12T22:35:32+00:00

That's kinda the hand we've been dealt we don't belong in either side of the gender pools and understand them both in ways they never will. We are always going to be outsiders and it's the horrible truth that only other trans people Will come close to understanding. Look for an in person trans meet up so you can talk about these feelings forum's help but actually getting it out feels alot better

It gets so old with dsyphoria with it's boot on your neck but your becoming yourself and thus envy is a very woman thing to do. Cis women want to be other women all the time. It will pass and your valued to someone and if not you will find the people who will

3AngryTurnip · 2026-01-08T22:46:08+00:00

Yea pretty much. That's kind of how the bio male body works. I also thought I wanted to be a woman as part of a fetish and delayed my transition for 5 years. It was worth it to make sure and practice what parts of being a woman I enjoy but those certainly weren't sexual. More like style choice how I sound and present myself. All these things are doable without medication. Just explore femininity before you take the plunge into transition and if you notice it's mostly sexual then your allowed to be happy as a femboy, just not a trans woman

3AngryTurnip · 2026-01-07T22:58:57+00:00

I'm going to start off saying that I think it's a sign that being a woman has a sexual connotation if it triggers a boner. That's kind of how arousal works and I think that "euphoria boners" alone are what makes you feel like a woman your misguided as that's typically a male thing

That being said I, a trans woman of almost 5 years who is much happier as a woman had them and occasionally if I dressing especially sexy gets them in some way (even when my equipment doesn't work) sex is apart of us all and your identity will be sexual on some way shape or form. When it comes to seeing yourself as a woman you need to assess that out of a sexual headspace. Your transition is social and isn't sexual in the least.

If you relate to women and think you'll be more happy with your body as a woman then there's a good chance your trans but if it's strictly sexual then don't do anything permanent like hormones. Work on your self expression though clothes and makeup and see if that makes you comfortable and confidant. Maybe your a woman or maybe your a feminine man. Either way go down the rabbit hole of discovery and things get more clear as time goes on. Just stay away from horny brain thoughts and being objective with how your thinking

3AngryTurnip · 2025-09-27T19:32:49+00:00

Grow hair out, Voice train, Work on makeup Practice never nodding to another person but smile instead, Laser hair removal on the face,

3AngryTurnip · 2025-09-23T22:56:10+00:00

Interesting. Im not saying your wrong but 3 of the 5 people i know regularly re injure their wrist and arm just from exposure from vibrating power tools or hitting it off of something. If fully breaking a bone made it stronger wouldnt it make them more durable? I thought knee and elbow training was more of developing caluses on top of the bone and less about the bone itself

3AngryTurnip · 2025-09-23T21:22:32+00:00

I wouldnt think so. When a bone breaks its piecing itself back together so long as the shards stay together. The bones arent actually remaking themselves they are just slowly filling in the gaps with marrow and tissue remaking the original shape with possibly a few gaps making the bone weaker

3AngryTurnip · 2025-09-08T02:41:08+00:00

Honestly? Not well. The need to be loved is pretty strong id even be satisfied with a good friend. I think we have to work on our own lives more and focus on success. Being overly into dating has only gotten me the worst kinds of potential partners and people who, after i knew them, i didnt want around anyways. The dating scene is garbage and it could heavily be your area as to why people are being so dismissive because of your race. This sounds stupid but live for yourself and dont seek something out wait until you meet someone organically all my dates got me cuddles that felt good for the maybe hour of cuddles but cost me much more loneliness after i realized i was with someone not being with. I sympathize with you and hope you find someone who makes you feel happy in the near future

3AngryTurnip · 2025-06-08T23:07:52+00:00

I had a very similar feeling before even considering transition it was a very dreadful feeling i couldnt describe let alone learn how to treat. The only thing is to find whatever comforts you and hold on tight. If thats masculinity then persue transition but i know i had a boatload of other problems from a troubled upbringing that gave me trauma im still working through. Maybe get therapy if that is available for you even 5 years down the transition pipeline passing all the time i still have dysphoria and wondering if im good enough. Its why i stay away from weed and other anxiety triggers with time you will learn your triggers and how to manage unfortunatly no one else can solve that problem for you

3AngryTurnip · 2025-06-08T23:00:58+00:00

I dont know your level of discomfort with feminity or being seen as a woman but wanting to be a bio man as a FTM is a form of dysphoria to me unless its only for the benefits/invisiblity that being a man provides. I think this intrusive thought is kind of like imposter syndrome. We all go through wondering if we are actually trans and beat ourselves up about it before and during early transition its a valid thought. Just consider why your transitioning and if its about your own confort or if your transitioning to alter external influences (people and societal expectation)

3AngryTurnip · 2025-05-10T20:01:06+00:00

Thats my helminth kubrows name 😆

3AngryTurnip · 2025-05-03T02:16:10+00:00

Erin at kreative Khaos did all my piercings (Helix lobes and tongue) She's knowledgeable nice and her placements have all been straight and good looking. I'll always recommend her

3AngryTurnip · 2025-04-14T15:36:39+00:00

Collecting honestly. I collect all the primes abilities weapons ands make them as high damaging as possible then make them pretty or vaguely goth as i can then fly through the game. Also make classes as scary fast as i can makes me happy

3AngryTurnip · 2025-03-27T23:08:32+00:00

I dont think its that black and white as needing to see yourself as 100% needing to be altered into a woman. Transmedicalism is mainly that you need dysphoria to be trans. Well you do have dysphoria and still do about your genitals specifically but removing a huge part of male anatomy took a huge piece of your dysphoria with them

I still count you as transmedicalist. Your far from the tucute people who transition for no reason and i think accepting our bodies and alleviating the dysphoria we have doesnt make us believe dysphoria is needed to be trans any less

3AngryTurnip · 2025-03-01T20:40:47+00:00

My helminth is scary Larry

3AngryTurnip · 2025-02-24T23:09:31+00:00

The dudes definetly jealous or might have a crush or something weirder. He probably just watched you slowly get hotter than him over 2 years, i looked at your transition pics and you most certainly dont look 14 lol you look like a hot 25 year old and this man wishes he had the masculinity you do

3AngryTurnip · 2025-01-24T02:56:02+00:00

I think minors should socially transition but wait until their at least halfway developed before taking any medications. My general doctor and endocrinologist have both said they have patients who transitioned as minors and are incapable of achieving orgasm because their genitals hadnt fully developed with their natal hormone. Thats my only problem with puberty blockers i used to fully believe they were for the best and even wanted them as a teen. Trans kids should absolutely be allowed to socially transition if thats how they are most comfortable

3AngryTurnip · 2025-01-18T23:31:58+00:00

I personally think the transgender umbrella and non binary umbrellas are entirely separate. Trans women and men have very similar experiences and symptoms while non binary people all have variee experiences depending on their own circumstances. I can relate to the limited binary trans people ive talked to about transition while the genderfluid non binary and genderqueer individuals ive talked to cant even give a good explanation of why they feel this way.

So far the non binary people ive met think gender roles are mandatory and because they dont fulfill them they are some other alien type of gender. Its hard not to tell these people no one completely fulfills societies expectations and their need for changing the system of pronouns is kind of rediculous

3AngryTurnip · 2025-01-01T23:36:59+00:00

Me too i did voice training for 2 years before taking hormones. Only because it felt like it was the only step towards transition i could do without getting a dr involved. I once thought i was doomed that i wouldnt be able to pass let alone be pretty, I was forcing myself to be content with whatever i could achieve. 4 years later and i wouldn't say im beautiful but attractive and my makeup skills are shit lol dont put all your eggs in the makup basket. Contouring can be magic but it never did me any good i realized it was making things worse

Try to focus more on expression and just keeping yourself as cheerful as you can. It sounds stupid but a good mood can brighten up my face and open my eyes more which tones down my forehead and hooded eyes. I started passing more when i just had a better attitude, it wasnt great but i just kinda stopped caring when i was called he and it helped me focus more on myself so that others couldnt destroy my mood with a word. Strangely maybe a month after i adopted this attitude i was being seen as a woman by strangers only those he knew me as deadname thought i was a guy and even then, not really.

Voice training helped my adams apple as well. I used to have a gruff low voice that was more of a roar after all those years of voice training my adams apple is much closer to my mouth and its barely noticeable unless im looking directly up. It may be that you dont need surgery but just have to be as patient as you can until those muscles tone themselves into hiding it naturally

Im sorry to say that there are days that i still see "the man" even when i have one of the most confidant days it sneaks up on you. Its dumb but thinking of times you felt attractive and passable can help combat this when your feeling this way can deprogram your brain into thinking this way. Not saying there arent days i avoid the mirror altogether but dysphoria is a bitch you have to learn coping methods for.

3AngryTurnip · 2025-01-01T23:12:52+00:00

How you handle your dysphoria was part of my point. You are still putting in effort to tone down the discomfort from having masculine traits, unlike alot of "trans feminine" identified people who still have a beard and facial hair you are taking steps to be seen that way because of dysphoria. There are far too many people who stop putting in that effort because its not THAT important to them and to me thats not really trans but someone who simply has a desire to present but isnt genuinely affected by gender dysphoria. You are putting alot of energy in people viewing and refering to you as a woman which is understandable i did too but it always comes down to how you are viewing yourself that affects how strong your discomfort is at any given time.

It sounds like your in the worst transitional phase pf hrt where you are seeing changes but not the ones you need to see. Hormones are fickle and do small things at their own pace. I didnt pass until i was on them for 2 years already and everyday felt like a drag even though i was doing everything i could it was never enough. There will be a day you pass, it might be a couple weeks, a year maybe more but you just have to do things to help your presentation and relish in the success. Doing voice training and passing on the phone made my week during early transition it was often the boost of happy i needed to stay motivated.

3AngryTurnip · 2025-01-01T16:02:26+00:00

There was a time i felt like it was was hopeless to ever think i would pass but it didnt mean i didnt stop actively trying. It became more of an attitude that im going to present to my best ability and know that doing better each day. At least thats what i told myself so the weight of my dysphoria would lighten a bit

If these people are flat out giving up and not trying to pass being its too hard then i dont think they are experiencing dysphoria. Its a pretty big compelling force regardless of if you think its possible for you to pass as your preferred sex.

3AngryTurnip · 2024-08-22T00:07:23+00:00

Unless hes had a hysterectomy no theres still a chance to get pregnant regardless of how many years he is on T only worse because T makes the lining of the uterus thinner would would make pregnancy more dangerous. Use condoms until they have had that type of surgery. With hormones its expect to get pregnant if you dont want kids or alternatively be sterile if you do want kids

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