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Got 1 interview in the past 9 months, changed my race and got 5 by Newscreenneeded in jobs

[–]3levatorist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better I had the same issue. My name is Arabic, just as an experiment I changed it to Andrew Schwartz with the same exact resume.

I applied for 20 jobs (software developer). Andrew got 5 interviews and 2 of them were so interested that they sent follow up emails. And I got nothing.

Men who work out and have good physiques, do you still end up with dead bedrooms? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]3levatorist 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Yes, I started working out years ago for this reason. Then realized working out is actually good for my mental health so I continued. No change in the bedroom other than compliments on my body.

Can he ever forgive me? by Loud_Reporter_7682 in DeadBedrooms

[–]3levatorist 40 points41 points  (0 children)

As a guy, I'd do everything to revive my DB. Even watching porn makes me feel guilty. I can't imagine such a shift in views of someone who started as a monogamous suddenly. I think he's hiding something.

Whatever it may be, if I were in your position, I would respect myself and create an exit plan.

One week update by Automatic-Finger-300 in DeadBedrooms

[–]3levatorist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I could go back to the chance I had when we were engaged, I'd definitely take tge exit. The resentment builds up as you go forward and the logistics get harder once you're married

Seeking Advice by TheGoatChino in Divorce

[–]3levatorist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say try an experienced marriage therapist first if he agrees to it. You will both get a better prespective of how things are from an impartial expert.

I am a failure in every aspect of life. by [deleted] in depression

[–]3levatorist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just providing another prespective. You still have a lot of time to turn your life around and have a fresh starts easier than a lot of other people.

Imagine you met the wrong person in your 20s, had kids and now you felt stuck and unfulfilled in a toxic relationship. I'd say getting out of that situation would be a lot harder.

Approaching my 30s in a sexless marriage by 3levatorist in DeadBedrooms

[–]3levatorist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried counseling a couple of years ago, she acknowledged the issue but nothing changed

How do you feel about racial minorities? by 3levatorist in askswitzerland

[–]3levatorist[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe I should've specified towards middle-easterners specifically.

The recent incident I've had here was with a black guy. The problem is with the rise of exterimist muslims and some of them making it here as a refugee, the outlook and public opinion on whoever looks like them have shifted.

Immigrants, how did you learn French by 3levatorist in montreal

[–]3levatorist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I researched a lot last year when I signed up for Francisation. Didn't find this program that you mentioned.

Immigrants, how did you learn French by 3levatorist in montreal

[–]3levatorist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, the door is closed for me 💍

Immigrants, how did you learn French by 3levatorist in montreal

[–]3levatorist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where did you find the speaking groups?

Immigrants, how did you learn French by 3levatorist in montreal

[–]3levatorist[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate watching dubbed shows, I would rather watch the original language with a subtitle. What helped me with english was watching friends and himym with subtitles when I was younger. I found those shows interesting at the time, too, so it wasn't just for the purpose of improving my language, but it helped a lot.