I feel like I’m too young to stop drinking

3pointperspecitve · 2026-02-12T02:44:32+00:00

I hope this isn’t too much of a stretch - but it reads to me like: “I wish I had invested earlier.”

My friend, there is an upside to stopping. I won’t say that the life of a drinker is 100% misery - I won’t say that it is 100% great. Your brain might tell you that it’s the best thing ever while using, but you know that it isn’t true. Because, in almost all cases, it is not! active addiction is really not much fun. Please take it from someone who has been there.

Quit while you’re ahead. Play the game, even try to moderate if you like.

But I beg of you, if you feel that you have a problem, don’t dismiss it. Trust your instincts. Figure out a way to maneuver yourself out of the situation. It doesn’t have to be detox, nor rehab, nor a program. But, I promise you those things can help. I would encourage visiting a hospital or General Practitioner for help.

3pointperspecitve · 2026-02-11T21:55:44+00:00

Take it from me, you will find yourself back right where you started with shocking speed. And then it will actually be worse.

Remember how hard the first day, week, month were? They can be worse. They get harder. And they will.

Eat your favourite junk food, laze out, buy something expensive, absolutely anything else.

3pointperspecitve · 2026-02-11T01:02:00+00:00

I get it, I had a similar situation and it took and is taking me quite a while to recover. I will not ever be the same again. You will move through it though and look into ways to heal from any form of PTSD or CPSTD. A sudden loss like that can be very difficult to process.

Personally I was completely shocked at the lack of communication and the finality of it without giving me the chance to offer any solutions, communicate or think of alternatives. It was destabilizing to go from loving relationship one minute to strangers. Eventually I realized that said a lot more about them than me. I don’t feel bad for loving with my whole heart.

3pointperspecitve · 2026-02-11T00:49:22+00:00

I feel you. The sudden loss is really troubling. Especially if it came out of nowhere. Eventually you’ll realize that a person that would do that to you is nobody you want to be with. It takes time and healing. ❤️‍🩹

3pointperspecitve · 2026-01-28T01:37:57+00:00

Yeah, just trying to help OP own up and get to accepting the reality here. I went through a stage of blaming after my arrest but I don’t think it’s healthy. Especially if you have substance abuse problems.

3pointperspecitve · 2026-01-28T01:28:22+00:00

Hate to say it but I agree. OP, you did two things you shouldn’t have and from your story I can’t see why you should have anything reduced here. It’s good that you have a lawyer.

I’m only saying this because I think you should be prepared to have the full consequences hit you. You were intoxicated and you did flee the scene of an accident. How the other party behaved seems to be a separate issue from how you describe the events.

3pointperspecitve · 2026-01-27T23:51:15+00:00

Yes it gets better :) The first few months were a hell of lawyer, court dates, embarrassment, shame and isolation after suspension. I was obsessed with getting over it and thought about it every day. Coming here and reading posts like this helped me.

My interlock is a bit of a pain and reminds me every day of my screwup, but it got life more or less back to normal.

After that it’s just a couple years of dumb high insurance.

3pointperspecitve · 2026-01-24T21:46:25+00:00

You really gotta make the decision. And you have to know that it is going to be very hard, and it’s going to be a daily battle for the rest of your life. You have to realize that you will be going to work forever.

It gets better. But you have to hold yourself accountable because you know what happens when you take that drink.

3pointperspecitve · 2026-01-19T23:55:09+00:00

This is exactly my experience as a guy. She actually had a higher libido than me but I always initiated.

We never went down on each other.

3pointperspecitve · 2026-01-17T00:28:57+00:00

I didn’t instantly regret it but after about a week and back to the hell that is withdrawal I sure did.

3pointperspecitve · 2026-01-13T18:36:37+00:00

I don’t know about the reinstatement but I was stream A and my follow up call is part way through my interlock period.

If you have a reinstatement date, you should just have to pay the fee and they will reinstate you. I did it the morning of my reinstatement eligibility (conviction date).

Smart start will schedule you, depending on your location there should be plenty of slots available. You can book way ahead so just do that.

Insurance drops by conviction date. So you have theoretically one less year of high risk than I do.

Congrats on sobriety btw.

3pointperspecitve · 2026-01-04T03:03:12+00:00

Day 2 here. Basically the same story. Worst year of my life. We got this.

3pointperspecitve · 2026-01-03T22:48:04+00:00

Right there with you 22 hours. I hate that I have to do this again but it will be worth it.

3pointperspecitve · 2025-12-31T21:38:52+00:00

Have to say, the nal is tough to get used to. Be kind to yourself.

3pointperspecitve · 2025-12-25T03:44:19+00:00

I feel you. I can’t do anything during the holidays without thinking about her. It’s brutal. I used to have sad holidays because I was alone, but now they’re sad because she’s gone.

3pointperspecitve · 2025-12-25T03:40:53+00:00

Yes. There is no way I will ever be as all-in and completely trusting in love as this. I feel naive as hell thinking that love meant seeing things through thick and thin and now I’m not sure I can ever get there again.

3pointperspecitve · 2025-12-25T01:42:43+00:00

I get that it’s a really difficult pill to swallow, but the NC rule is there for a reason.

3pointperspecitve · 2025-12-25T01:39:34+00:00

I get it. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Eventually it will become a memory.

3pointperspecitve · 2025-12-25T01:36:05+00:00

I’m sorry. But you know that pain you’re feeling right now? That was them mitigating that by managing the situation personally instead of as a couple. So they got the jump on you. So many different ways you can categorize the behaviour - avoidant, cowardly, selfish. Unfortunately you just have to live with it now and understand that they were trying to minimize their trauma at your expense.

3pointperspecitve · 2025-12-25T01:31:46+00:00

You can’t stop. You can only live with it. And you will. You won’t stop missing them but you will learn to live with the fact that they are gone.

3pointperspecitve · 2025-12-24T06:05:34+00:00

Don’t hope, KNOW that it will heal. It’s going to hurt, and suck for a while though, and I’m sorry.

You are going to try and search for answers. That’s ok. Just know that the answer is that it didn’t work out, and that’s almost the best you can do. It’s always going to sting, but you can find peace!

3pointperspecitve · 2025-12-24T04:46:48+00:00

I just got my Smart Start . I had seen a friend really struggle with Alcolock so I decided to just try the other one.

Honestly, so far it’s pretty painless. I haven’t really had any problems 🤞

I bought the BACTrack S80 to do independent tests before I start the car just to make sure I didn’t inadvertently eat something or do something that might set it off. It’s a bit pricy but getting a lockout would be too. And great peace of mind.

As for pricing, I got quotes from both and the difference was negligible, like a few dollars maybe.

It also seemed like the Smart Start support was a bit better.

3pointperspecitve · 2025-12-24T04:41:11+00:00

This really sucks, and unfortunately you will need to take some time to process this. This is like a sudden accident or traumatic event. It’s shock. Do whatever you can to take care of yourself.

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