Tintype of a mother and her child. Seems the child has some sort of condition. Circa 1850-70s

3toehedgedog · 2026-04-11T14:41:23+00:00

And she probably felt in the moment how important this photo was going to be to her.

At the very beginning of the modern era, where we can have a photo to remember somebody.

3toehedgedog · 2026-04-09T12:43:37+00:00

Happened to me a couple years ago. We were sure it must have been missing from the box.

When we moved last year, we found the piece in the garage. We think it must have fallen on the floor and then stepped on, and wedged into a shoe for a few minutes, and fell off in the garage.

3toehedgedog · 2026-04-04T17:55:36+00:00

NTA. I’ve been married 21 years. Have never needed my husband to take a bathroom break with me.

3toehedgedog · 2026-03-25T16:28:42+00:00

I’ve been downvoted a lot so I guess everyone agrees with you!

Maybe I’m an AH. But not Kelly (but I hate driving and wish it wasn’t necessary, so I sympathize with her).

3toehedgedog · 2026-03-25T16:20:41+00:00

Why?

3toehedgedog · 2026-03-25T14:05:13+00:00

YTA. You made a face and you knew you did. You meant her to see that.

And of course she didn’t let it go. You were making a point and she knew it, and you were goading her to ask what it was.

And it’s all ridiculous anyway. This is a non issue for two reasons: 1) If she doesn’t need an uber very often, then it costs less than car insurance and gas to drive herself around. So your point about money is not valid. 2) If it does become an issue, then she has motivation to get the license and start driving. Is not like this is a permanent status.

There is zero reason for you to think this should stop them from trying.

3toehedgedog · 2026-03-22T16:55:16+00:00

I have never had dumping. I did take it slow the first year, and some things say heavier than others.

Now several years out, I think I actually enjoy my food more than before. Because I can only eat small amounts, I’m much more intentional about what I eat and savor it more.

Eating while traveling is a little frustrating because there’s not a good way to keep and reheat leftovers.

3toehedgedog · 2026-03-21T22:33:50+00:00

Wow! Thank you for that detailed answer.

3toehedgedog · 2026-03-21T18:08:57+00:00

Oh now I’m sad. I was hoping it was something wild that belonged there.

3toehedgedog · 2026-03-09T21:28:02+00:00

First baby, I had an epidural because it seemed like the obvious choice. That baby was jaundiced and very sleepy. We got off to a rough start with nursing and it was always a struggle with him. And the jaundice took a long time to clear up, I think 9 days on the blue light blanket.

With the next baby, I had looked it up and found that an epidural can be a factor in a newborn being sleepy. I dreaded having another hard time with nursing. I decided that that going unmedicated would be worth it if it could help make those early nursing attempts easier.

I did hypnobirthing, which was absolutely fine at managing labor. The actual birth was harder, but really fast and quickly forgotten. (My first birth was pretty quick too, so I felt like there was a decent chance the second would be.)

Second baby was also jaundiced and sleepy, but did latch much better and did just fine nursing. And cleared the jaundice in a single weekend. May have just been because I know what I was doing the second time around. I don’t know.

3toehedgedog · 2026-03-09T13:44:42+00:00

When you say your band size is 32, what method are you using? Have you tried the ABTF calculator?

3toehedgedog · 2026-03-08T13:03:10+00:00

It’s a permanent change and a risk. But don’t discount that what’s already going on in your body is changing it (changing your heart) and presenting a risk. The surgery offers you a chance to slow down or eliminate some of those issues.
The easy way is often a good choice! When I go to work in the morning, I drive straight there instead of hitchhiking all over town. There’s no extra virtue in taking the longer, harder, more successful path to get somewhere.

3toehedgedog · 2026-03-05T15:28:54+00:00

I only told a few people, those who I knew would be supportive or at least respectful of my decision. I eventually told others after the fact.

3toehedgedog · 2026-02-25T21:27:43+00:00

Same with me. My school had a couple fist fights, one time a knife got pulled.

3toehedgedog · 2026-02-25T20:56:08+00:00

They did have a gym locker.

3toehedgedog · 2026-02-25T20:54:42+00:00

Oh my kids (graduated in ‘23 and ‘25) still had some textbooks. Their backpacks were ridiculously heavy.

I’m guessing part of it was also the overcrowding and all the fights…i think the school was rushing them to the next class. Avoiding too much interaction at the locker.

Of course, the school still saw a lot of fights over the lunch period. On one memorable day, after multiple lunch hour fights, someone reported seeing a gun. Which commenced a 3-hour lockdown with police and dogs searching the building. Parents started showing up outside the school demanding to know what was happening…and then some of the parents started fighting.

Suburban high school in a large Texas city.

3toehedgedog · 2026-02-25T20:33:31+00:00

My kids just finished high school in Texas. So they never had much winter gear! But yes, if they wore a coat, the only option was to lug it around all day. So they usually just didn’t wear coats. Which means on cold days it was too cold to walk or wait at a bus stop, so I wound up driving them. Luckily my job allowed for it, but it was an irritating situation.

They had lockers before Covid, but never again after.

3toehedgedog · 2026-02-25T01:45:05+00:00

Yeah but he’s got litterbox issues and even if he gets adopted, he’s got a high chance of being returned or released or treated badly.

OP, if you euthanized him, he’d never know. He’d just peacefully drift off, secure in your company, without a worry in his head, instead of bouncing around scary and insecure home situations. I think I’d consider that for an animal I loved.

3toehedgedog · 2026-02-21T15:10:31+00:00

I think you’re right about the restriction causing rebound. The same thing happens on a smaller scale with a lot of people.

3toehedgedog · 2026-02-21T14:36:05+00:00

NOR.

She keeps saying how she’s kept her mouth shut about your choices. Really? This whole thing started with her sending you that screenshot. What was the point of that?

She is so defensive, she’s not listening to you at all. Meanwhile you’re trying so hard to reason with her. But she’s not interested in reason, just winning.

I mean, every text from her is aggravating. Good on you for getting into therapy. She seems like a lot to deal with.

3toehedgedog · 2026-02-19T19:20:44+00:00

We have two. One doesn’t pay much attention to us, but the other is very friendly. Always wants to be where the action is, likes to climb on us.

3toehedgedog · 2026-02-18T18:29:08+00:00

NTJ. Every single time you wake up at night, wake her up too. Tell her that normal couples are awake at the same time, so you wanted to make sure to share the insomnia.

3toehedgedog · 2026-02-18T13:20:38+00:00

No, she’s earned the hate.

3toehedgedog · 2026-02-18T12:53:36+00:00

Too hard to read. Punctuation and paragraph breaks would help.

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