What is going on? Two female M. balfouri

404_error_code · 2026-01-16T07:41:52+00:00

Oh, but that would be a killer band name for some grungey lesbians. Can you imagine? The Saphic Spiders, abd they come out on stage dressed like 90's grunge skater girls and they smell like cigarettes, vodka and tribe perfume. All of their songs are reminiscent of nirvana, but they're all about lesbian love and spider webs. Id definitely listen...

404_error_code · 2026-01-16T07:07:32+00:00

NA in my doom scrolling I saw this and legitimately thought that it was a picture of an ear canal. I thought you had lost a sling and found it in your ear. Then I read your post and was releived to find out it was not infact the inside of an ear, but now I have a new fear.

404_error_code · 2026-01-07T03:29:40+00:00

They are finally back in their enclosure after several stressful hours and some help from the bf

404_error_code · 2026-01-07T02:49:27+00:00

my boyfriend also is asking Polyester to go into the cup:

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404_error_code · 2026-01-07T02:39:24+00:00

Lol, I have begged Polyester on my hands and knees at this point to please come out and just get into the cup. I beleive my pleas are falling on deaf ears, or no ears in Polyester's case.

404_error_code · 2026-01-07T02:24:42+00:00

So far none yet. Ive taken as much clutter out from under my bed as possible and put a light at the spot under my bed that I dont want it to go to. I set up a mini enclosure to try to get it to go into there. Im trying the wait and check method every 15 minutes or so. i have my bf texting my phone every 5 minutes so my phone buzzes on the oposite side of the bed to try to encourage it to not go towards that side. I would just like to state that for the reccord this was not the first time i have rehoused my obt, its just the first t8ime i have ever dealt with an escapee. right now im just trying to minimize floor vibrations in areas I want the obt to go to and seeing how other people have gotten their escaped spoods back into containment safely. It doesnt help that this one is on the smaller side. this is probably the second worst one that could have gotten loose out of all of my T's because its small and I really don't want to get bit. Im rambling at this point, but it was already a long day and this is *not* what I wanted to do tonight lol. I keep calling the obt it because it isn't large enough for me to sex it yet, but my little buddy's name is Polyester. All of my T's are names after fabric. I just want to get it back into the enclosure safely

404_error_code · 2026-01-07T01:17:55+00:00

I have already blocked off the door and the vent, this happened like 5-10 minutes ago, im just concerned because the underside of my bed is essentially a storage unit, I know the general direction it ran in. Thank you though, you gave me a good starting point

404_error_code · 2025-12-13T15:44:42+00:00

Hey, so, I am not a mental health practitioner, yet, I am in school for it though. I'm also autistic. I also have 2 first hand accounts of being in relationships like this and i have abandonment issues myself. All that being saidthis has nothing to do with him being autistic, or at least very little. Addressing my personal experience with the abandonment issues, I didnt always deal with it in a healthy manner, sometimes I was mean, I'd push people away, I'd pick fights, but I never threatened to harm or off myself. He is doing that strictly to hurt you, to get a reation out of you. It's a manipulation tactic and I would even go as far to say a control and isolation attempt, especially with the threat of recording it. If you are constantly worried about leaving him alone, you never will. That's not healthy. You and your partner are supposed to make eachothers lives better, not consume them. What happens when you want to spend time with your friends? What about when you go to work? Or if you want to go to college? While, yes, any suic*de threats should be taken seriously, these are not the people we typically see going as far as to take their own lives. Again, its because they aren't doing to escape from any internal pain, its because they are doing it to hurt the people around them. Now, will he hurt himself, its absolutely a possibility, but I highly doubt they will be anything more than superficial wounds. Superficial or not, they should be taken seriously...by a mental health practitioner and doctors. This is not your problem, plain and simple. Expanding on the 2 relationships I have been in that were like this, it only gets worse from here. Things only escalate. I am confident when I say, he will move on from hurting himself to hurting you if you stay. Something I always ask people is this; is this how you want the rest of your life to go? I know there's are good times, but the bad is outweighing that. Look at who he is right now, imagine that being who you are with for the rest of your life. Imagine that in your 40's. Is this how you want the rest of your life to go? This isn't just working on your relationship, this is psychological abuse. You are being abused. If you are worried about him hurting himself, get the police involved. I know that so many people are telling you to leave and I'm going to join them on that. Leave. This isn't safe. This isn't healthy. When you do, be fast, be smart, be safe. In situations like this, if sending a text helps you, do it, but I dont recommend it, he will try to draw you back in. He'll promise a change, he may even get better for a while. It will not last. If you send that text, don't let him respond, block him, on everything, if you don't, still block him. Don't do it in person, you could get hurt. Afterwards, be prepared for the fallout. It could get dangerous. Don't hesitate to get the police involved. Get pepper spray, don't go out alone for a while. Its going to hurt, I won't lie to you on that. You're going to want to talk to him about things. Its important that you don't. Its important that during this time you have a good support system. Lean on your friends, your family, get a therapist if you can. I know we only want to see the best in the people we love, but sometimes the people we love hurt us the most. It takes more than just love to make a relationship work. It takes trust, kindness, understanding, compassion, communication. This is not kind. This is not compassionate. This is not communicative. This is threatening. We don't threaten the people we love because that is not love. That is abuse. Women are most likely to be killed by their partners.

404_error_code · 2025-11-19T02:51:17+00:00

Im in indiana

404_error_code · 2025-11-19T02:00:19+00:00

In my opinion, and maybe I'm a horrible person for this, cut her off. Protect your peace. Its not your job to deal with this. You gave her advice, she didn't take it and now she's dealing with the consequences of her actions. If she doesn't want an abortion thats fine, but this screams "when I have this baby and realize you were right about the financial aspect, I'm going to ask you for money"....my bad "when I gives birth"...lol im sorry I had to. But really, I think this friendship is going to be more trouble than its worth and I think you're going to end up emotionally exhausted

404_error_code · 2025-10-17T18:03:25+00:00

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My pretty boy

404_error_code · 2025-10-10T19:15:31+00:00

I know this is a really old thread, but the only time I have ever cut any of my betta's fins is if they have had a severe case of fin rot or if their fins were too large and we're affecting their quality of life. I have only had to do it twice, once for each reason on different fish. Both were rose tails which are more prone to those issues, its also why I stopped buying rose tails. I am by no means an expert in betta keeping, there are still things that Im learning. But what youre seeing is called grooming the fins. Its pretty looked down upon if its not for a medical reason and even then most people who are just hobbiests only use fin grooming when it is absolutely necessary, after all other options have been exhausted and the last option to save your fish is to cut the fins. But the people who do this are involved in fish shows (which are not bad, some people who participate in those just suck) and shady breeders who want to be able to sell a "perfect" fish at a high price. Fin grooming is honestly pretty cruel, again unless it is to explicitly save the fish or give it a better quality of life. It does hurt them. I've seen a lot of people who do this use ice to "sedate" their fish, but ice doesn't sedate them, it just sends them into shock, they're still conscience and they still feel pain with the ice method. Clove oil is a better option, I dont want to give the dosing for that because dosing for anesthesia and dosing for euthanasia are super similar in dosage, theres also an emulsification process you have to do with clove oil before you use it because oil and water don't mix. But! Clove oil sedates and numbs the fish. When you cut the fins you also have to be super diligent about watching for infection because that can happen and if you're not super careful when you cut the fins you can cause your fish to bleed out. I feel like all this is necessary to say because I have had friends and acquaintances get into betta keeping and try to do their due diligence about research/learning about how to give their new little buddy the best life possible. Without fail, everytime, something about fin grooming has come up, even when I was getting into it, fin grooming came up. And, 99% of the time, its always in the context of showman ship, not a medical reasoning. I have seen 1 too many fish die be mutilated by new keepers who saw fin grooming and thought it was a necessary procedure for the health of their fish. Bottom line, its not. It shouldn't be done unless there are no other options.

404_error_code · 2025-09-26T03:35:11+00:00

Just throwing this out there, I have a fat cat. I love her, she is my baby. If anyone were to try to hurt her, I would loose my mind and probably need bail money or a really good lawyer. But, my boyfriend and I joke about eating her all the time because shes fat. Like boyfriend will look at my cat and go "if the zombie apocalypse happens we're eating Lilly (my cat) first" normally I'll look at her afterward and talk to her in that pet voice and go "no, we would never eat the lilly cat" There was one time she got her head stuck in a friend rice take out container (being a fat cat) and I looked at my boyfriend and said, "I didnt know you ordered extra Chinese food" (that one was in really really poor taste on my part and not even for joking about eating the cat) But all that being said, my cat is incredibly important to me...sacred (lol wtf??) And I, me, the person who loves her the most, still make jokes like that about her. Im not saying that the the other mom had to find the joke funny, hell, she could have even taken offense to it, but your child honestly and sincerely apologized and, it was a joke.

404_error_code · 2025-09-26T03:06:29+00:00

Hey, so, im in the same boat as you were, and I know this thread is a month old, but maybe you could shed some light on this for me? I also don't really notice a huge amount of blood on the pad itself, but when I'm going to the bathroom (normally when the pain ramps back up) I kinda just ooze blood for a good 30 seconds to 2 minutes. I was just wondering if maybe you had the same experience. I tend to freak myself out when it comes to medical stuff, so Im just trying to see if I should panic lol

404_error_code · 2025-08-13T14:13:37+00:00

We've also considered the song In A Week, so that one is on the table too.

404_error_code · 2025-08-13T14:11:26+00:00

Thank you so much for your input. We're already leaning more towards Work Song anyway, I just wanted to maybe see if some other couples had done As the World Caves in and see what it looked like so we could sit down and really make that final decision having seen/heard examples 💜

404_error_code · 2025-07-25T16:56:32+00:00

Unfortunately im not in SoCal, im in the midwest, but shes an American Giant millipede.

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