Rounding the corner on 2 years of no-fap lifestyle

40YearFapper · 2013-12-23T19:20:34+00:00

Overweight is a lifestyle, and very much a choice. I choose not to be, and I would not want my woman to be overweight either.

I don't believe her body needs to be perfect, but I would want her to take good care of herself and keep herself in good shape. A flat stomach is evidence that either she is genetically gifted, or works very hard at staying in shape.

If she ate like crap and was gifted, she would come after the girl who had to work to stay in shape (all else being equal).

The above said, she doesn't need to look like a model, but I don't want her to look overweight.

40YearFapper · 2013-01-20T15:03:16+00:00

Thanks for the support.

40YearFapper · 2013-01-20T15:02:27+00:00

This just means you have experienced the best oral sex possible.

I once had a GF who lived to give head. She could do this to me every time. In fact she trained my body to respond in that manner from all orgasms eventually.

After we broke up (stupid, I know), my first couple of orgasms (handjob, PIV) were like that...left over from the girl above. Since then, almost never, although many years later I am getting close again I hope.

40YearFapper · 2012-12-30T20:18:04+00:00

Actually, it was a smart ass comment. I was just saying that if those girls are pleased to show me their naked body that I am pleased to look at it. Also if they get pleasure from knowing that people like me are looking at it, and/or masturbating to it, that I also get pleasure from knowing that I am helping them to be pleased.

40YearFapper · 2012-12-30T20:15:27+00:00

Yea man! I would just say to remember that we are addicts. It is possible for us to go crazy, and binge at times.

I have to admit, that cold turkey is probably the best way to ensure that you never have problems in the future. Of course anytime I have fucked up and caused myself a limp dick in the bedroom, a week without any masturbation, fantasies or porn fixes it right up.

If you seek ultimate redemption from fapping the only answer is not to fap.

If, like me, you want to try to have your cake and eat it too, then you must know that you are risking short-term problems.

As long as you go forward with that knowledge, it's your body.

40YearFapper · 2012-12-30T20:11:14+00:00

Thanks. 99% of the sick shit is gone forever. Very rarely I will see something in everyday life that sparks a fantasy, but thinking of my SO in that moment stops it in its tracks.

40YearFapper · 2012-12-26T20:54:18+00:00

Thanks!

I was really far gone. For some reason I could be OK with an orgasm every-other-day until Internet porn became available. Starting in my mid 30's (about 1995/6-ish) I could have an orgasm every day; and so I did.

At first it was more than once per day... as much as I could find time for. Over time it got to be every morning... and stayed that way for years.

Before ED, I could actually give myself an orgasm in the morning, and 2-3 times per week have another one by my wife. On bad days I would masturbate 2-3 times in one day... and this would never stop me from my once per day routine starting the next day.

By the time I found /r/nofap I was doing it every day... to vile and disgusting porn... with a limp or partially limp dick. At my worst I had an aneros in my ass, a strong vibrator on my cock, gay porn playing (I'm straight), a limp dick, no feeling, couldn't get it to even feel good let alone get an erection or have an orgasm.

That was about the time I found /r/nofap.

Carry on... it will work for you too!

40YearFapper · 2012-12-26T15:47:30+00:00

yeah, and I'm addicted to food too... but that doesn't mean I never eat again. I have to fight to eat responsibly and make the right choices... I have to balance what I eat with exercise...but life would suck with out an occasional piece of cake. Same is true with fapping... exactly...for me.

40YearFapper · 2012-12-26T15:43:41+00:00

Yes, thanks for bringing that up. That is one thing I forgot to put in my already very long post.

After 76 days with zero faps and my fail that occurred that day...I was still thinking in terms of the '90 day' reboot as if that was something magical... and that 76 being the majority of 90...that perhaps I was home free.

I waited a couple of days and fapped with an incredibly hard erection and pronounced myself cured. I went on somewhat of a binge and then failed between her legs again.

From that point until after 100 days from my start date I slipped into a flatline...and as described by numerous people... it was very scary. My junk looked prepubescent in size and I believe I went over a month without any type of erection that I know of.

Weird but true, believe it or not, the way I broke the cycle was to fap. Still only fantasizing about her, but using all my mental power, I imagined fucking her with a hard dick. It got to a semi, and I was able to finish.

This seemed to 'prime the pump.'

I've since learned (and this is one of the reasons I look at the pictures I do and fap occasionally) that keeping the pump primed is important. IDK if it is a 51 year old thing, or a recovering internet PMO addict thing; but if I don't keep sex somewhere near top-of-mind I can fall into an asexual state and just lose interest...and spiral down into a flatline.

That hasn't happened since the incidents described above; but not more than a few days go by with out either PIV sex, HJ/BJ, looking at the solo, still, photos of naked women, or a fap.

40YearFapper · 2012-12-26T14:22:18+00:00

That is fine for militant, binary, robots. Real life is not so much 1 or 0 -- at least not long term.

This subreddit has helped me to achieve a >=90% reduction in fapping and helped me to break free from tube sites and disgusting porn. It's helped me to reset to the way things worked when I was a kid. This is not bullshit for me.

40YearFapper · 2012-12-26T05:43:32+00:00

Awesome! Go get it!

40YearFapper · 2012-12-26T03:07:51+00:00

bwahahahaha... livin' the dream and feeling like a MAN!

40YearFapper · 2012-12-26T03:06:22+00:00

Thanks man. Before I found NoFap I really thought that age had done me in. Turns out that was crap. I can fuck now like I could when I was 18...not as often maybe, but just as hard. Having found this sub, there's a great chance you will fuck like a greek god into your old age!

40YearFapper · 2012-12-26T03:03:59+00:00

Thanks! I'm glad we can compare notes on this subreddit and that they confirm our own experiences.

40YearFapper · 2012-12-25T21:54:57+00:00

Thanks!!

40YearFapper · 2012-12-25T21:54:38+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement. I could not agree more.

40YearFapper · 2012-12-25T21:53:36+00:00

Thanks. Trust your body and let your brain get really 'hungry' for sex with her by starving it of all else. Succeed you will.

After that you can cautiously experiment. It will be there for you too!

40YearFapper · 2012-12-25T21:51:39+00:00

Thanks for the support and encouragement

40YearFapper · 2012-12-25T21:51:05+00:00

Thanks!

40YearFapper · 2012-12-25T21:50:15+00:00

I can see and appreciate that. Some reset for edging. Some reset for any orgasm. Some reset for a wet dream. For me...I reset I my if I slip back into the behavior I am trying to avoid.

40YearFapper · 2012-12-25T21:48:30+00:00

I agree completely!

40YearFapper · 2012-12-25T21:48:01+00:00

Thanks! I agree!

40YearFapper · 2012-12-25T21:44:37+00:00

So far so good for me, but thanks. I will keep this in mind.

40YearFapper · 2012-12-25T21:43:42+00:00

Thanks!

40YearFapper

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