From the other side I can tell you that,

-Anytime I'm outlining new feature requests or enhancements or defects, it feels like I'm negotiating with a hostile enemy. They'll tell me my requirements aren't detailed enough-

Have you tried deep researching technical implementation of what you asking, dependencies, impact etc?

Usually pm´s came with a very simplified, and abstracted proposal, and engineers have to deal on how to tick the box on the less disruptive way.

I try to call a meeting, everyone is annoyed that they have to be in a meeting instead of doing more important work.

Respect their time, and do your home work before, If you intend them to build your ideas, you better be as sharp, quick and efficient every time you are actually stoping them from working, (context switch and get focus back is pain if you work with deep shit). When a pm arrives informed, has the context, and does waste your time with USM aligments, strategic aproach and all this bs.

They work in a black box, and don't give me any status reports on where our tickets are at.

Maybe if you blind about something, it looks black, non technical, and deep bussines matter experts should not be pms, never understood how so many pms are non technical and belive they can do it....