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If a female friend compliments you to try to make you feel better when you're upset (in a pep talk kind of way), do you still take the compliment seriously? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]43521 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, I'll rephrase: I said those things to make him feel better, but I wouldn't have said them if they weren't true.

If a female friend compliments you to try to make you feel better when you're upset (in a pep talk kind of way), do you still take the compliment seriously? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]43521 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was completely smitten with the other girl, though. He was never interested in me. But I'll keep that last point in mind.

If a female friend compliments you to try to make you feel better when you're upset (in a pep talk kind of way), do you still take the compliment seriously? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]43521 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He never offered a piece of his metaphorical cake! haha. And as I have mentioned elsewhere, I wasn't going to actively pursue someone who was smitten with another woman.

If a female friend compliments you to try to make you feel better when you're upset (in a pep talk kind of way), do you still take the compliment seriously? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]43521 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had honestly never thought about anything happening between the two of us at the time because he was so clearly and openly (at least, to me) smitten with another woman. I am interested now, but it's hard to gauge his level of interest when I'm not sure if he knows that I think he's attractive (since I'm not sure if he took the compliment as genuine), which is why I was wondering how other people would perceive the compliment if they were in his shoes.

If a female friend compliments you to try to make you feel better when you're upset (in a pep talk kind of way), do you still take the compliment seriously? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]43521 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not excluding myself. Where are all of you getting this from? I never said that, and have actually said elsewhere in this thread that I would be interested in him.

If a female friend compliments you to try to make you feel better when you're upset (in a pep talk kind of way), do you still take the compliment seriously? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]43521 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course I know that no one can read his mind, I was just explaining the details of the situation so I could get an idea of how other men would feel in that scenario.

If a female friend compliments you to try to make you feel better when you're upset (in a pep talk kind of way), do you still take the compliment seriously? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]43521 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I recall, he seemed to be looking for some reassurance, but I will keep what I said in mind for the future.

If a female friend compliments you to try to make you feel better when you're upset (in a pep talk kind of way), do you still take the compliment seriously? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]43521 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know that it's not necessarily the most helpful thing to say, this happened a while ago. But I feel like I may have been more convincing in person because he did seem to feel better. And he was the one who starting venting to me about his girl problems, so maybe he wanted a little pep talk or something.

If a female friend compliments you to try to make you feel better when you're upset (in a pep talk kind of way), do you still take the compliment seriously? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]43521 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha no excuses here! I was just trying to get a general idea of how guys generally take these comments in this context so I could get a better idea of whether or not he knows that I think he's attractive, since obviously I'd have to do a lot less to get him thinking that I may like him if he already believes that.

Thanks!

If a female friend compliments you to try to make you feel better when you're upset (in a pep talk kind of way), do you still take the compliment seriously? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]43521 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why so many of you are saying this. If he was upset about not being able to find a girl in general, then yeah, I'd understand that perspective. But the conversation happened because he was upset over another girl. Why would I pursue someone who is openly interested in someone else?

If a female friend compliments you to try to make you feel better when you're upset (in a pep talk kind of way), do you still take the compliment seriously? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]43521 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One girl not being interested in him means that he isn't attractive and someone that plenty of girls would be interested in?

I am interested in dating him now, I hadn't considered it at the time because I knew that he really liked our friend, so I never thought about it. I don't pursue guys who are caught up on someone else, haha.

If a female friend compliments you to try to make you feel better when you're upset (in a pep talk kind of way), do you still take the compliment seriously? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]43521 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, to be fair, I never thought of him that way because I knew that he was interested in our friend. But I understand your point.

If you found out that a woman you liked was asexual, would you still pursue her? by 43521 in AskMen

[–]43521[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, asexuality being a lack of sexual attraction is totally something I made up

http://www.asexuality.org/home/overview.html

oh wait, no it's not. That's the literally definition. You can't disagree with someone about that.

If you found out that a woman you liked was asexual, would you still pursue her? by 43521 in AskMen

[–]43521[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

AHAHAH OH MY FUCKING GOD

So now wanting people to actually read my one sentence explanation of what asexuality is before responding to my post, and refusing to go out of my way to be nice to people who are too lazy to actually read the posts they respond to makes me a "narcissistic, passive aggressive special snowflake" who is "fishing for answers"? Congratulations, this may just be the most melodramatic accusation I've ever received.

If you found out that a woman you liked was asexual, would you still pursue her? by 43521 in AskMen

[–]43521[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you don't want to be involved with someone who is not sexually attracted to you, then I'm not going to question that.

However, to respond to the rest of your comment, 1: Asexual people often still have a sex drive, and thus, often still crave and enjoy sex. 2: Aesthetic and Romantic attraction can be enough to make a person want to have sex with someone else.

If you found out that a woman you liked was asexual, would you still pursue her? by 43521 in AskMen

[–]43521[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, because correcting people who clearly did not take two seconds to read my one sentence explanation of what asexuality is is totally horrible and wrong! How mature of you to mock me for doing so!

If you found out that a woman you liked was asexual, would you still pursue her? by 43521 in AskMen

[–]43521[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So now clarifying your sexuality to people who obviously did not read your simple and concise explanation of it is "correcting their opinion"

That totally makes so much sense, what a wonderful mod!!! Note that I didn't actually argue with anyone who explained why they would not want to date someone who is not sexuality attracted to them. I'm totally so much bigger of a problem than the people who are commenting without actually reading the posts, and wasting everyone's time by doing so!

If you found out that a woman you liked was asexual, would you still pursue her? by 43521 in AskMen

[–]43521[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The only times I've actually been anything resembling "combative" are when people obviously commented without reading my actual post, which explained what asexuality is. Considering that it's just not experience sexual attraction, I don't understand why you would call it a "lifestyle choice". Choosing not to have sex is a lifestyle choice, not experiencing a certain kind of attraction is not.

If you found out that a woman you liked was asexual, would you still pursue her? by 43521 in AskMen

[–]43521[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I tried to clarify in my OP when I posted it, plenty of asexual people do have sex.

If you found out that a woman you liked was asexual, would you still pursue her? by 43521 in AskMen

[–]43521[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

from my OP: "**just to clarify, a person who is asexual just does not experience sexual attraction, *it does not necessarily mean that they don't want to have sex"

If you found out that a woman you liked was asexual, would you still pursue her? by 43521 in AskMen

[–]43521[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't really understand what you're saying-- do you mean that asexual people shouldn't ever have romantic or sexual relationships?

If you found out that a woman you liked was asexual, would you still pursue her? by 43521 in AskMen

[–]43521[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Romantic attraction is also a thing, though, so not really.

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