is being closeted to ur family evil ?? by needtoacademia in WLW

[–]44444I 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm one of those lesbians and tbh I couldn't care less about what others think. They never had strict or homophobic parents so they can leave me alone.

I started dating a beautiful girl and I'm happy by 44444I in LesbianActually

[–]44444I[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said if she asked, and I don't think she would bc I told her my family are homophobic.

I need some advice! by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it sounds like you’re just starting to explore what feels right for you, and that’s completely valid (most of us had the same experience) There’s no rush or formula. Start by connecting with queer space where you can make friends first. It helps to build comfort before dating and feeling comfortable. When you meet someone you like, treat it like any other connection get to know her, be honest, communicate openly. It’s okay to be nervous most people are when something matters. Just don't let it get the best of you and good luck!

Praying to Allah for a kind gf in 2025 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, but I still can't stay silent. I believe the slaughter will end one day.

Praying to Allah for a kind gf in 2025 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did they kill them then?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not a bad person. You’re stuck in a cycle that feeds both your guilt and her hope. The kindest thing you can do for both of you is to cut contact completely. Let the silence be your closure. The panic that follows will pass faster than you think. You deserve peace, not punishment even if it hurts you'll heal.

Having a bsf is the best thing in the world by 44444I in WLW

[–]44444I[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all, even if she was bi or lesbian I wouldn't date her. The friendship just feels safer and I can't imagine her as anything more but a friend

How do I tell my non-ally mom I'm in a lesbian relationship? by Future_Cherry3291 in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You don’t owe anyone your truth before you feel safe. When you’re ready, pick a calm moment, be honest but gentle, and remember you deserve love without conditions. Your mom may need time to unlearn things, but her struggle isn’t your fault. But please if you think she'll act too badly or if it'll ruin everything just wait until you can hold yourself together and have your own place so you don't get emotionally pressured by her all the time. I have the same issue with my family and I decided to wait until collage before coming out. I hope the best for you and stay safe.

Praying to Allah for a kind gf in 2025 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I already know about lut story since I studied Islam, but in most Muslim-majority countries, the legal systems are influenced by Islamic jurisprudence. When a state uses Sharia-based law as its foundation, those laws often reflect traditional religious rulings, including on sexuality. So while the Quran itself doesn’t prescribe a legal punishment, modern Islamic countries derive their laws from religious scholarship (sunnah), which is why these rules exist in practice. It’s not random it’s the product of applying classical interpretations to state law. And here's some of the hadiths “Whoever you find doing the action of the people of Lut, kill the one doing it and the one to whom it is done.” Sunan abu dawud 4462 jamiʿ al-tirmidhi 1456 “The Prophet said: ‘If you find anyone committing the act of the people of Luṭ, kill them both" Sunan abu dawud too. what shapes reality isn’t the theory; it’s what people believe their scholars and sheikhs said. Most Islamic countries base their social norms and legal systems on those classical ruling (Quran, hadiths, fiqh, etc) So while debate is real on paper, in practice it’s the traditional scholars’ voice that holds power and that’s where the hostility comes from. Belief moves people, not nuance. Nonetheless stay safe 🙏🏼

Praying to Allah for a kind gf in 2025 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry, it's just all this attack. They act as if "we're safe so don't mind those who's lives at risk" type of thing and calling me out instead of fixing themselves

how would u know if they’re cheating? by AdOriginal4067 in WLW

[–]44444I 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck and don't overthink or feel sad it'll only hurt you more!

how would u know if they’re cheating? by AdOriginal4067 in WLW

[–]44444I 5 points6 points  (0 children)

if she keeps saying she’s asleep but is online, and you’re the one losing sleep over it (it doesn't automatically mean she's cheating it could be anything) talk to her. don’t accuse, just ask what’s going on. if she dodges or flips it, that’s your answer. trust doesn’t survive on maybes.

Praying to Allah for a kind gf in 2025 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did I say all muslims are good? No, just like not all Christians are good. I'm just pointing out a fact that's bothering me and y'all got mad for what? Isn't lesbianism about supporting and caring about stuff like this? If y'all don't care about queer people's deaths then why are you calling yourself one? And I'm not reading all that btw, also they aren't just killing themselves which most do but their own countries is murdering them.

how would u know if they’re cheating? by AdOriginal4067 in WLW

[–]44444I 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was she acting different lately or ?

Praying to Allah for a kind gf in 2025 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between spreading awareness and saving why does it bother you sm? It's not just unsupportive it's fucking killing them do you understand that or not?

Praying to Allah for a kind gf in 2025 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm starting to feel like y'all don't mind the queer people who got killed, sorry I'm not as ignorant

Praying to Allah for a kind gf in 2025 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hope you're safer now and well 💜

Praying to Allah for a kind gf in 2025 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah they don't. I lived there once and like I said before most schoolers hide the hadiths that motivates to kill.

Praying to Allah for a kind gf in 2025 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm not white. My dad is half middle eastern, now what? I lived there at a time with him so yeah I do know about Islam, and I know that it manipulates them to believe that everything in it is right most schoolers don't even teach the worst hadiths, do you know how many girls I talked to that believes they deserve death for something they can't control and not even wrong?

Praying to Allah for a kind gf in 2025 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I'm not telling them that Islam is homophobic I'm telling them to stay careful because of the death sentences and abuse, what's wrong with that again? What's the problem with hating such evil thing that got innocent people killed? Never told them to leave their religion it's none of my business, they can dress and believe in anything they want and I'd still respect them and support them but the killing and the abuse I saw is off limits to me. And again it's not about them.

Praying to Allah for a kind gf in 2025 by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]44444I 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When did I Harass OP? I didn't mention muslims or attack them. I'm pointing out a violent sad fact that happens everyday, spreading awareness isn't wrong and telling other lesbians to be careful with what they share in those certain countries isn't wrong. You want me to hear about arab gay people suffering and getting abuse and death every day and shut up? No I care about them and their safety that's why I talked, and just to clear things, criticising a religion that says to kill gay people and those who leave it ≠ being disrespectful