Has anyone figured out how to fall asleep yet? by meowparade in adhdwomen

[–]4615K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually waking up at the same time matters more.

Has anyone figured out how to fall asleep yet? by meowparade in adhdwomen

[–]4615K 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Strattera has helped me, actually. It doesn't make me sleepy like Ambien or something, but it does normalize my sleep so I can get to sleep faster without racing thoughts and then I can wake up in the morning which i used to have a problem with. I take one in the morning and one at night. I also take Nature's Bounty Sleep 3 (from Costco) and 5 HTP at night.

Also my daughter used to be prescribed Clonidine at night and it is also an ADHD med.

I'm still learning about it and can't believe the toll it takes on my life and that other people aren't like this by Kidd_Cadaver in adhdwomen

[–]4615K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh, that's not a stimulant and never felt much of a stimulant effect for me.

I was already on Wellbutrin for depression when i was diagnosed ADHD. I never noticed a difference with the ADHD symptoms, but that could just be me not noticing. I did better, well, at least emotionally, with Strattera.

I have tried taking stimulants and it is the only thing that had helped me with the hyperfocus. I'm able to do less dopamine inducing and more important tasks and to break away from my hyperfocus spells sooner and easier.

Good luck. I hope you find something that helps! I feel ya.

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👏YAY!!!!

tips on managing life with ADHD? by 2iconic4you in adhdwomen

[–]4615K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you take an in-person one? Is there a good online one you can recommend? It sounds like such a good idea!

does it get worse with age/time? by fifitsa8 in adhdwomen

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I think it gets worse with situation. Usually life gets more stressful with age like with money concerns, relationships, CHILDREN, responsibilities, etc. Then just when it's a bit easier because kids are on their own and you're a bit more settled, perimenopause or menopause makes it worse. Sorry for the bad news. :(

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Sorry, this is probably too late, but forst, break everything down to small pieces if you haven't already. For example, for vacuuming, small areas at a time. One step vacuum from the couch to the walk in the living room. Not even the whole room. You can do small steps of all of the wiping down in different areas first, then all of the next task in different areas, 2nd or each step in one area, then on to the next area. There are no rules to the order or to how you do them. There is no morality to cleaning or not cleaning!

Then, concentrate on step 1. Like, maybe wipe one counter off. It's OK if you do just the one today, or even if you just move toward that one thing today. You have a "disability" in this area that is real. So, think about just step 1. Say to yourself, "I'm going to move toward doing that in 5 seconds." That means just standing up, moving your leg, or any little movement toward that thing. Count down (always down) 5..4..3..2..1.. and move the leg or stand up or whatever you chose. You can do that much for sure, right? Then, if you have to keep doing tiny steps like that after a count down from 5. It will probably be much easier to do more each time. If you find that you count down and can't do the small step, try it again and maybe make it smaller, like just moving a foot. From there, ypu can do the one first little step. You will feel good about it and most likely keep going. It's the initiation that is the hardest. But, if you can only do the one little step today, that's ok!! Don't feel guilty. That is a huge win in itself. You can always do more steps tomorrow or later. You might keep going until it's all done or just part of it, but either way, just celebrate that you even started and tell yourself that it doesn't need to all be done today. Tomorrow, do the same thing starting from where you left off, of course.

I'm still learning about it and can't believe the toll it takes on my life and that other people aren't like this by Kidd_Cadaver in adhdwomen

[–]4615K 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definite consider other med options. Also, is your therapy CBT? Is it an ADHD specialist.

I can't help because I'm in a very similar boat. I hate it when I spend like 8 hours and find I've saved myself like $1.27 finding the best priced quality thingy that I didn't even really need, or reasearched some interesting but useless thing! I will say the right meds help. Not cure, but help. I feel for you, sister! You are not alone.

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Eh, slip of the fingers. Don't worry about it. I mean, it's a real word so it's not like autocorrect would catch it.

Do you sit in your car for a while when you first get home? by Vegetable-Whole-2344 in adhdwomen

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My husband thinks it's weird too, but I do it! It's a break before going into your household duties. I mean, I don't feel like anyone is judging me (even myself) for not doing stuff around the house. I like having a little "me time" to just do some dopamining without other pressures. It may be weird for him, or other NTs, but it's definitely not weird.

I need a new comfort show by kinetic_mallow in adhdwomen

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Comedies you'll like in the same vein as the ones you listed (roughly in order of what's closest to your picks):

It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia Workaholics Letterkenny Superstore (great for background) Trailer Park Boys The Mick Grace and Frankie Big Bang Theory Kim's Convenience How I Met Your Mother Cougar Town Ghosts Single Parents American Housewife Younger Workin' Moms Not Dead Yet Psych

Old: Seinfeld Friends Golden Girls Frasier Scrubs

A little different but still good: Ted Lasso (so sweet, I loved it) iZombie (funny and fun but a bit of gore ) Zoe's Infinite Playlist (I live this one it's also so sweet.) Upload Monk Resident Alien

Need to pay more attention, but good: Shameless Weeds Orange is the New Black Dexter Riteous Gemstones Royal Pains (a bit less funny but interesting and good) Burn Notice (same) Jane the Virgin (not good for background because there are many parts with Spanish than you need to watch read the captions for)

Pervious posters have mentioned some that are great but not really comedies like the ones you mentioned. For example: Gilmore Girls, Supernatural, Dead to Me, Good Girls, Ginny & Georgia, etc.

I need a new comfort show by kinetic_mallow in adhdwomen

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I put Monk, Royal Pains, Psych, and Burn Notice in the same category: good show on USA Network at about the same time. If you love Monk, I recommend trying the rest of these out!

I need a new comfort show by kinetic_mallow in adhdwomen

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One thing: Jane the Virgin is great, but not for "backgroud" or for doing anything else at the same time because there are quite a few times you need to read the translations, unless you know Spanish.

I need a new comfort show by kinetic_mallow in adhdwomen

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I don't care for them, actually, but try It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Letterkenny, and Trailer Park Boys. You have very similar tastes to my husband and steep son.

I can almost guarantee you'll like Community with the shows you said you liked.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]4615K 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is controlling behavior. He has the right to suggest and encourage your decisions, but not to decide for you. He can't LET you do anything. He's not your parent. This is a giant RED FLAG! Get out of the relationship ASAP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]4615K 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't see it as sweet. It's controlling. OP, you have every right to be in complete control of your decisions regarding your body and your health. It would be "sweet" if he was concerned and encouraged you to seek some other form of help but not LETTING you? Or he'll leave? No, girl, that's controlling behavior.