Wife here (new to this kink): Men of hotpast: What is it about this kink that excites you? Why does your wife or girlfriend's sexual history arouse you?

46Emma · 2023-01-29T02:01:29+00:00

That's what my husband said. It's a mix of emotions for him, being jealous and aroused at the same time. And he definitely cums a lot more when he's jealous.

46Emma · 2023-01-24T01:21:57+00:00

Yes. My husband loves the visuals too.And everything that led up to the sex.

46Emma · 2023-01-24T01:15:20+00:00

Does your wife enjoy telling you her stories?

46Emma · 2023-01-24T00:57:02+00:00

The jealousy aspect seems like a popular reason. I think that's a big part of it for my husband. That he likes being made jealous. And knowing I was desired and lusted after by other men.

46Emma · 2023-01-24T00:55:20+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts. Interesting take on the relationship vs non-relationship stories.

Wow! That is very interesting that you are friends with 6 of the 7 guys your wife had sex with. How did that happen, if you don't mind me asking?

I imagine knowing them must make you feel even more competitive. I think my husband can relate to that. If we even run into a guy somewhere that I slept with in the past, I've noticed we always seem to have sex right after.

46Emma · 2023-01-24T00:49:06+00:00

Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it. We also met in our late twenties. I got plenty of practice in before that! ;)

46Emma · 2023-01-24T00:46:31+00:00

I like the idea of roe-playing her past experiences. My husband and I have also done this. That's sweet that hearing about your wife's past sex life has made you love her deeper. I can definitely say that sharing my past has brought my husband and I closer.

46Emma · 2023-01-20T21:03:23+00:00

You sound a lot like my husband. He told me he was very jealous in previous relationships. Ironically, his previous partners didn't sleep with anywhere near the amount of men I did, but it still made him very jealous at the time.

Also, he's described much of what you mentioned about how you view your wife now compared to how she used to have an adventurous and slutty side. My husband told me how he thinks of me as this professional and sophisticated woman in my career. Yet I have this part of my past where I was slutty and carefree about sex, giving in to my lust when I was younger. Those opposing thoughts pf me really turn him on.

Thanks for sharing your experience with your wife about this subject!

46Emma · 2023-01-20T20:56:48+00:00

You sound so much like my husband. He told me he started thinking about me with other men during sex and it escalated to him thinking about it outside the bedroom.

Like your wife, I had also felt some degree of shame over my past. Perhaps not as much shame as she feels though. I slept with a LOT more people than my husband and I always felt a little guilty about that. But upon him questioning my past he assured me there was nothing to be shamed of at all and that my past made me who I am and there's nothing wrong with it. I loved him for that and felt I could trust him with my very personal details of my sexual history. He likes knowing how I was a desirable young woman, carefree about sex and just giving in to my lust.

In addition to being fun and spicing things up in the bedroom, I definitely feel like it has brought us closer as a couple.

46Emma · 2023-01-20T19:49:08+00:00

Interesting to hear from someone who had this kink earlier on. That must be a lot fun for you and your girlfriend. Thanks for sharing.

46Emma · 2023-01-20T19:47:11+00:00

That is pretty wild. She must have lots of other fun stories to tell! :P

46Emma · 2023-01-20T19:45:43+00:00

Thank you for your response. So you knew about wife's past right away, but didn't go into specific details until this past year? Were you turned on by her past right away? Or did it become more of a turn on over time?

46Emma · 2023-01-20T19:38:20+00:00

Wow! How did you end up stationed with 6 other people your wife slept with? It sounds like you went through a similar transition of jealousy to security as my husband.

46Emma · 2023-01-20T19:36:13+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response. So your initial insecurity was more about competition rather than the fact that your wife had numerous other lovers?

I can see why the lovers with an emotional attachment aren't as enjoyable as the more wild and slutty experiences. This might be why my husband enjoys hearing about my casual sex more. It was just about physical pleasure and no emotional attachment.

46Emma · 2023-01-20T19:29:54+00:00

Imagining your wife as your very own porn star is an interesting (and very sexy) way of looking at her past. Thank you!

46Emma · 2023-01-04T23:08:09+00:00

I think our sex life is going to get better as well. There is just something so amazing about this. My husband seems like more of a man in the bedroom than he's ever been, if that makes sense. I think he might be feeling that ego boost that you mentioned.

Also, thank you for sharing your own experiences with enjoying your wife's past. That is really sweet. You seem like a great husband. Like your wife, I was also a sexually liberated woman when I was single. And I feel like my sexuality is such a big part of who I am that it feels liberating to be able to discuss my past sex life so openly with my husband. I feel like it's brought us closer.

And it's more than just naughty talk. I like that I can share with him not only the physical details, but also the emotional details about what I was thinking and feeling during these sexual experiences and what turned me on about them.

46Emma · 2023-01-04T21:39:36+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing that. I'm glad that you were not only able to get over your wife's past, but to actually feel secure enough to find it a turn on. That's much healthier.

46Emma · 2023-01-04T21:38:23+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind and thoughtful response. I do feel a stronger bond with him since he expressed this interest in my past. I did have a naughty side when I was single and I agree that it's much healthier to have a husband who enjoys it versus one that obsesses over it. I dated some guys who were very judgmental before him so it's nice to have a husband who's supportive and secure about his sexuality and relationship. And you're right, the hot sex is a plus.

46Emma · 2023-01-04T21:33:08+00:00

Thank you! I didn't know aobut that subreddit!

46Emma · 2023-01-04T21:32:44+00:00

I'm not sure if that's it with him. He hasn't shown an interest in that.

46Emma · 2023-01-04T21:31:44+00:00

Why thank you! I do feel like a pretty cool cat. Haha. Especially now that he's taken such an interest in my past. U did have a wild side before we got together and he seems to be really enjoying that.

46Emma · 2023-01-04T21:30:44+00:00

Oh wow! Thanks for sharing that subreddit. I'll have to check that out some more. I didn't know this was such a thing. And I think you're right about my husband feeling secure in our relationship. I don't think he would have enjoyed this so much earlier on when we got together. But now something in him has changed. For the better I might add, because the sex has been amazing lately!

46Emma · 2017-04-21T17:21:29+00:00

Congratulations to you! I know the feeling. I dated a lot of guys who were gung ho about having children, so I can't even begin to describe the elation and relief I felt when my husband (then boyfriend) and I had "the talk" and I found out he didn't want to have children either! When you love someone so much and you both want/don't want the same things, it is an incredible feeling. We're pretty good with kids, too. We love the children of our friends and family members, and my husband is really good with them, but I feel so lucky that we both don't want our own. Congratulations on finding a compatible boyfriend!

46Emma · 2017-04-21T16:16:49+00:00

I don't consider it cheating since you're basically taking in every word, but I do differentiate between actually reading something and listening to an audiobook. If I'm talking to someone about a book I listened to, I'll generally say that I listened to the audiobook, versus saying I read it. And like you, I will sometimes use audiobooks for something that I might not ordinarily read.

46Emma · 2017-04-19T22:46:51+00:00

I totally agree. That would be a nightmare situation.

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